[Enneagram Type 9] Introverted Nines and Separation From Others

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This is a discussion on Introverted Nines and Separation From Others within the Type 9 Forum - The Peacemaker forums, part of the Body Triad - Types 8,9,1 category; I'd be interested in hearing from any introverted type nines on whether they agree that one of the basic fears ...

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    Type 9w1

    Introverted Nines and Separation From Others

    I'd be interested in hearing from any introverted type nines on whether they agree that one of the basic fears of type nine, separation from others, applies to them much?

    Honestly, it doesn't do me much justice. The last time I took the myers-briggs type indicator personality test, I scored as an 89% introvert. I don't mind being separate from other people at all; I think being a recluse of sorts is rather pleasant for someone like me who sees much value in solitude, often for extended periods of time. Even after I've been "recharged" from being alone, I don't have a huge desire to seek out people as if I feel like I am being "separate from others". In fact, I rarely ever feel that way. Do other nines feel the same way? Different? Cool.
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    Type 9

    Only from people I deeply love, otherwise I'm quite happy to be "separated" from people :)

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    Type 9w1

    Quote Originally Posted by amanda32 View Post
    Only from people I deeply love, otherwise I'm quite happy to be "separated" from people :)
    But doesn't everyone have this longing to see people who they love? I'm just trying to fit all the pieces to this puzzle together and understand what it is about being a 9 that makes it absolutely necessary for this type to be fearful of separation from others. Seems like the vast majority of human beings want to see people they care about, so why is it so essential specifically for nines to be fearful of this separation?
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    Type 9

    Quote Originally Posted by Res View Post
    But doesn't everyone have this longing to see people who they love? I'm just trying to fit all the pieces to this puzzle together and understand what it is about being a 9 that makes it absolutely necessary for this type to be fearful of separation from others. Seems like the vast majority of human beings want to see people they care about, so why is it so essential specifically for nines to be fearful of this separation?
    True. hm.

    Type 9 Fear:

    Being shut down, overlooked and not included by others are among your greatest fears. You are afraid of being loveless and of not receiving or being able to give love.

    Perhaps it's because we want harmony with others above all else and separation is the opposite of harmony?
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    I fear... disconnection from people - being unable to actually engage with the "mainstream" core of society, everyday people, being unable to relate or care or be related to or cared about. But I'm cool with some alone time, you know, I dig that.
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    Type 9w1


    I think it doesn't apply when you keep away from others on your own accord. Turn it around, what if the people very close to you were to disappear? Or if you lost that connection to them, say they were to become veggies and they were all you had.

    As 9s we feel like we are nothing on our own. We are only significant because we have friends and family close to us. They are our identification and purpose. Sometimes, we even live through them! So if these close bonds of ours were to disappear we would lose ourselves in the process. We would be left with "nothing" which is...a quite horrible thought, thus the fear of separation.

    Being shut down, overlooked and not included by others are among your greatest fears. You are afraid of being loveless and of not receiving or being able to give love.
    When we are overlooked that furthers our beliefs that we are insignificant and unlovable on our own. When we're able to see that we are truly significant that must be very liberating!
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    I test 9 and 5 but I'll answer -- I am not fearful of separation, it is a requirement for me to remain sane. I don't like being separated from husband and family for too long. Society tho.... go on 'bout your business because I'll be going about mine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by amanda32 View Post
    True. hm.

    Type 9 Fear:

    Being shut down, overlooked and not included by others are among your greatest fears. You are afraid of being loveless and of not receiving or being able to give love.

    Perhaps it's because we want harmony with others above all else and separation is the opposite of harmony?
    Actually, this describes my fears pretty well. It's a bit unsettling how accurate that is.
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    Type 1


    Quote Originally Posted by Res View Post
    But doesn't everyone have this longing to see people who they love? I'm just trying to fit all the pieces to this puzzle together and understand what it is about being a 9 that makes it absolutely necessary for this type to be fearful of separation from others. Seems like the vast majority of human beings want to see people they care about, so why is it so essential specifically for nines to be fearful of this separation?
    No, not everyone has that longing.
    I'd say for me (5) I like it when I see people I love and enjoy it when they're there, mostly, but when they are away I'm not missing them. But that is in a way because I trust that they're not really gone, and I still think about them, and they are so much a part of my mind/history that they're still around mentally, which is most real to me. My fears are never of separation, but only of being overwhelmed. I never really doubt people I care about, can always pick up where we left off, assume we're friends unless something actually damages things and distance is not damage to me -- but I will doubt my ability to deal with too many expectations that can come with presence and connection.
    It's like, one may not want separation, irrevocable, real separation, but there are potentially scarier things, and it doesn't seem as likely or as easy to happen to everyone, hence less fear & less need to avert the possibility. Point of contrast, fwiw.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Res View Post
    I'd be interested in hearing from any introverted type nines on whether they agree that one of the basic fears of type nine, separation from others, applies to them much?

    Honestly, it doesn't do me much justice. The last time I took the myers-briggs type indicator personality test, I scored as an 89% introvert. I don't mind being separate from other people at all; I think being a recluse of sorts is rather pleasant for someone like me who sees much value in solitude, often for extended periods of time. Even after I've been "recharged" from being alone, I don't have a huge desire to seek out people as if I feel like I am being "separate from others". In fact, I rarely ever feel that way. Do other nines feel the same way? Different? Cool.
    Type 9 and Introverted, I have no problem being away from people at all.......
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