[Enneagram Type 9] Please help identify me!

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    Type 9w1

    Please help identify me!

    I have been studying and taking tests on my enneagram for a bit now and have taken myers briggs many times since I was about 15 (I am 22 now). I have consistently been an INFP which I think mostly describes me. I have however scored an ENFP a good amount of times and an ISFP and INFJ a couple. I am definitely a Type 9 enneagram. I lean way more words 1 than 8...on most tests I scored a "0" for type 8. Type 4,5, and 7 are my next highest in that order. My stacking is sx/sp/so. I think however I lean more towards 947 (or 974...I don't know which comes first?) even though my 5 is higher than 7 most of the time.

    I am honestly a lazy person. My car often stays messy and I overlook trash around me. Yet at the same time, other things have to be perfect and aesthetically pleasing to me. I have to color coordinate my calendar. My wall art must be beautiful. My Facebook header and profile picture must compliment each other. My clothes, desk, atmosphere has to reflect my personality and make me feel good. I love light, airy, beautiful things. (I work in the weddings and events industry making florals and linens beautiful). I get sad if lets say I feel like my desk is boring and not made pretty (to me) with flowers and light and airy pictures or my husband and I. Yet at the same time, the desk can be a mess with 5 water bottles at a time. I strive to look beautiful, but at the same time, I am too busy to work out, and when I crave a soda, I don't have the self-discipline to NOT go get one. I often get distracted in my own thoughts. I daydream often. I love sleep and lying around doing nothing aside from watching a good tv show or movie, daydreaming and looking at wedding photography pictures on pinterest for hours wishing I could be one, or watching funny internet videos. I get away with doing the bare minimum even though I want everything I do to be great. At work I often do what I HAVE to get done quickly and then do random things online the rest of the day. I get things done, but at the last minute. I have a few close friends that I love, but I don't see them much because honestly I would rather be with just my husband in our own little life together. When he's not around, I go to them or my mom or have a lazy day, not often seeking something new and exciting. I am VERY impulsive. If I have money to spend on clothes and I want clothes, I will go spend it. It gives me a rush and makes me feel better when stressed. Same thing with buying junk food. All. The. Time. But at the same time, if I know we really can't afford it, thats the one time I truly have self-discipline. When I HAVE to, not when I just should. If I feel like I am doing something wrong I am very afraid of "getting in trouble". If I am running late to work, my chest will be in tight pain the whole way there, yet I never learn and keep sleeping in, even if I got in trouble. So I am scared of getting in trouble, but only fix it when I HAVE to, not just that I should. Laziness. I end up balancing everything, and it all works out, but its always close. I don't feel comfortable away from home with other people aside from my husband for more than a few hours. I truly enjoy it sometimes, but it times out fast and I want to go. I often make fun plans and then don't follow through with anything.

    What do you think I am? Is this a good bit of information?



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    Well. My initial analysis from what you have written would be 9w8 only because of the lack of self discipline. 1s are more harsh on themselves tend to be more disciplined thereof. But the information in general isn't exactly what you should look at when deciding on your wing.

    The wing is your coping mechanism for when your 9 strategies aren't working. It doesn't matter that you didn't test anywhere near 8 or tested more 1. I don't relate to type 8 on itself either, but I do relate to it as a part of the 9s need to maintain peace because 8 strategies are what I adapt once my peace is threatened.

    8s control their environment so the environment can't control them. 1s control themselves. Their anger is inward while 8s anger is outward. For 8s anger is a source of energy they use to deal with the outside world while 1s use their internalized anger in order to maintain a high ground for their or the societies ideals.

    A 9w8 therefore will be peaceful, diplomatic, your regular 9 but they will be less patient with the environment once they feel like the environment is somehow threatening their comfort or is pressuring them. That includes other people as well as life circumstances. Slowly but surely starting to adopt 8s tendencies when that happens makes the 9w8 more prone to power struggles with others. Many 9w8s will express feeling like they cannot allow the outside world win, they have to win.

    9w1s, while I cant speak for them entirely, I would assume are more dreaming and idealizing both themselves as well as others. Their strategy for dealing with peace being disrupted would be to reassess themselves and their own part in what is happening. They would see themselves as needing to change instead of the world outside themselves needing to change (a w8s mindset)

    All in all look at what you tend to do once you feel like:
    1. Peace is being disrupted
    2. Your needs are not being met and anger is arising

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    Quote Originally Posted by pomPOM View Post
    9w1s, while I cant speak for them entirely, I would assume are more dreaming and idealizing both themselves as well as others. Their strategy for dealing with peace being disrupted would be to reassess themselves and their own part in what is happening. They would see themselves as needing to change instead of the world outside themselves needing to change (a w8s mindset)
    Good description and good points.

    I would say that 9w1s are generally less likely to be aware of their anger than 9w8s. 9w1s are more likely to shut down than to express their anger under extreme stress - with some variation of course, not least along sp/sx/so lines. I personally simply cease to function when all of my strategies to handle stress fail. Vacant zombie stare, full brain freeze, nothing happens either internally or externally. Similarly in a sudden fight/flight scenario, I freeze.
    Last edited by Marvin the Dendroid; 11-16-2016 at 07:27 PM.
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    Type 9w1

    I'm a 9w1 but sometimes a straight 9 and a lot of it seems similar to me. These may be general 9 things though. Some messes bother me but I can also be oblivious to others. I don't like the word lazy, I'd say I am more uninspired to do everyday tasks. My desk is full of my children's pictures and some of their doodles and artwork. I do like sleeping, laying around and daydreaming. At work, I also like doing the bare minimum, working as little as possible but still turning out a good product. I don't have any good friends, maybe some acquaintances. I can be impulsive, depending on my mood. Self-discipline is good if there is a goal in mind. I am also not good if running late to work, it stresses me out. I don't sleep in because I am lazy. I like to have plenty of time in the morning to be slow. I will even crawl back into bed after showering to wake my wife up with a cuddle and then enjoy laying there a little while longer. I don't mind being home either. I'd rather share adventures with family than with others.

    This might help to see the difference between 1 and 8 if you haven't been here already.

    https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/m...ifying-1-and-8
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