Help me figure out which one fits. I've had lots of security motivation, but that could have been during times of stress. It is hard for me to get started sometimes, but once I start I create amazing energy and effort. I am quite spiritual but don't have a set path about it.
I am afraid of loss and separation, and I am a stubborn optimist. I also like to have support and guidance - if I am making a big decision I will often survey lots of people in my personal life to hear how they would handle it, or what factors they would consider. I'd say my fear of loss is bigger than my fear of lacking support, though. I can tap into my independent side when needed, and I do okay with that.
But it seems the core fear for 6 and 9 is almost the same thing. You only lose support if you're abandoned, and if you are abandoned you experience loss and separation. So idk.
I tend to have more anxiety than I want to admit. I also tend to struggle with an impulse to merge with people I see as close to me, and at times I don't feel I have a set identity. I am fairly confident I am an sx instinctive stacking, so that could be where the merging comes from... only I do it to some extent with non-sexual relationships as well.
Can you help me figure out my core type? I'm not sure how to look at it to determine this.