i agree, btw...complaining doesnt help the problem directly , but some people need to complain before they can move through an issue. its just the way it is. it helps some people process. for example Te users. high Te users will even talk to themselves just to process :P
type 4 can be quite fearless when its ready
it bothers you that other people are so open and freely/publicly care about themselves... but you also care about yourself, im sure :)
its interesting to me that you try to LOOK like youre working hard. the appearance of, but not actually, working hard.
what do you think about - "if you focus on the work and not how you appear to others, your energy will focus on what youre working on and then appearance wont matter, because youll actually be working hard" ?