Hi, it's been difficult to tell whether I'm a 9w1 or 9w8. I know I am 9 for sure-I'm easygoing, look at both sides of a conflict, eschew conflict and am very forgiving. I relate to the disintegration points too. I am ambitious and confident when happy like a 3 and tense and suspicious when down like a 6. But the wing is hard.
I do enjoy some conflict actually, which makes me wonder 8 wing. It's more the fun kind though. I have a sassy streak and like to debate over random things with people. I like to pull pranks on friends and troll. I also like friendly competition- could be integration to 3 though?
When it comes to anger, I rarely blow up at anyone and rarely show anger in general. I hear 8 wingers are more likely to explode out of the blue? I don't really relate to that. I relate to more of the passive aggressiveness of 9w1s-like I might walk off or roast someone. When I'm angry, I pace around the place and drown out my feelings with music or something. It's usually frustration, but things that make me angry are being controlled, criticism, and people being judgmental towards me or others.
When it comes to 1 perfectionism, it's hard to tell how perfectionistic I am. Growing up, I remember fretting over silly details that would get in the way of me finishing homework. I feel guilty a lot-like from failure. But I am also terribly disorganized. As for rules and stuff, I follow them out of avoiding conflict, but I don't think they're all that important. As long as breaking the rule doesn't hurt anyone, what the hey?
I discovered I like to lead like a 8 winger. I mean, I don't often because I'm an introvert. But while I'm often unopinionated, if I'm passionate about something, I'll want to lead. It feels awkward at times, but I like being in control.
I got my moral compass like a 1. My biggest values are open-mindedness, fairness, and loyalty. While I don't think in black and white much and am relaxed about most of my beliefs, I get upset if I see people or animals on TV or something get hurt. I am generous like an 8, although I know that's not an exclusively 8 trait. I just find nice to help, share food. In romance, I like gift giving and planning the dates.
Something about the 9w8 that stood about me is that they remain calm out of strength and not just out of avoiding conflict. And while I stay calm to avoid conflict too, a lot of why I remain calm is for that strength, and I just find it silly to get worked up over little things.
So, what do you think? Throw me some questions. I feel like a 9w1 around acquaintances and 9w8 around friends