What's my enneagram type? (Been like, two years since I did one)

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    What's my enneagram type? (Been like, two years since I did one)

    Hey there, it's been a couple of years since I've been on this site, and, I would like to see what my enneagram is. In all relationships I have had, there's always been one thing that's bothered me that's caused failure. More on that later.
    Main Questions


    1. What drives you in life? What do you look for?

    I'm not necessarily sure. I suppose being good at what ever I can get my hands on, I'm also very fearful of being controlled or manipulated. I look for safety, for trust, for compassion and understanding.












    2. What do you hope to accomplish in your life?

    At the end of the day, I want my degree, a high paying job, husband, family. Boom. The dream.

    3. What do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?
    I seriously hate being clingy, oh my gosh. Right now, I'm clingy. It drives me crazy.
    I would values that are important to me:
    Self preservation
    Loyalty
    Trust
    Intimacy


    4. What are your biggest fears (not including phobias)? Why?
    Being cheated on and lied too. Unrelated, well, possibly not. My boyfriend says he's busy, but I always see him on snapchat or instagram and this drives me so fucking crazy. Spend time with me, not your friends on the internet. Jesus fucking christ. /end rant.

    5. How do you want others to see you? How do you see yourself?

    I guess what comes to mind: unphased by anyone else. Or rather, to "want nothing, to desire nothing, to rely on no one", at least from another person. So if I was object a and object B exerted motion onto me, I wouldn't want to exert anything back or be phased by it.


    I see myself as better than most people, stronger, worth your time and energy.


    6. What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?

    Honestly, when people can express emotional intimacy with me. I feel so good when someone can validate my emotions, especially when I have a problem with them.
    What makes me feel my worst is when someone lies, betrays me, tries yelling at me, telling me what to do.


    7. Describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety.
    Anger: Depends on the environment. Work, I hardly ever yell so no one can write me up. Buuuuut everyone has their breaking points and I yell at supervisors and managers.
    Shame: I guess...I just deal with it?
    Anxiety: I freak out. Anxiety hits me HARD. I become anxiety.


    8. Describe how you respond to each of: a) stress; b) unexpected change; c) conflict.
    Stress: I become hyper productive, or I don't do anything at all.
    Unexpected change: rage, irritation
    Conflict: I wouldn't say I enjoy conflict but I mean, no one is going to stand up for you at the end of the day besides yourself.

    9. Describe your orientation to: a) authority; b) power. How do you respond to these?
    Authority: I look for someone and see if I can work under them, or even be under them. Basically, are you worthy?
    Power: I like it, I love taking over group projects.


    10. What is your overall outlook on life and humanity?

    I'm not sure anymore. Basically, I want to lay down my sword and shield and let someone love me. I want to be relaxed. I don't want to be uptight.

    Optional Questions

    11. Discuss an event that has impacted your life significantly; more importantly, how you responded to it.

    12. Comment on your relationship with trust.

    13. List some of the traits you: a) like; b) dislike most about yourself.

    14. What do you see or notice in others that most people don't?

    15. If a stranger insults you, how do you respond/feel? What if they compliment you?

    16. What's something you are: a) thankful you have; b) wish you could have? Why?



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    An oddity considering your signature, but I'm going 6. Lots of little details (lines) here that seem that way - hyper activity, unsureness, loyalty, desire for vulnerable expressions, strength, eye toward a quality of authority, etc. Seems like you want everything to be in front of you, possibly to have control of it..... to make a dust or be quiet. JMO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Full_fathom_4 View Post
    An oddity considering your signature, but I'm going 6. Lots of little details (lines) here that seem that way - hyper activity, unsureness, loyalty, desire for vulnerable expressions, strength, eye toward a quality of authority, etc. Seems like you want everything to be in front of you, possibly to have control of it..... to make a dust or be quiet. JMO.
    Quote Originally Posted by Alice Alipheese View Post
    6 as well.
    Why not self preservation eight with seven?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Slagasauras View Post
    Why not self preservation eight with seven?
    Sorry, how did you get there, exactly?

    Types 2 and 6 are the ones I see the most. 6 mostly just because buzzwords, which makes me kind of shy away from it and want to say 2, honestly. I don't see much 8 at all, let alone 8w7.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paradigm View Post
    Sorry, how did you get there, exactly?

    Types 2 and 6 are the ones I see the most. 6 mostly just because buzzwords, which makes me kind of shy away from it and want to say 2, honestly. I don't see much 8 at all, let alone 8w7.
    Hi Paradigm! Oh my gosh, it has been so long .

    I guess I don't see two because I don't feel the whole "Do an action to get a result" thing regarding intimate relationships.
    Six makes sense in terms of my "I hate you, don't leave me" and "Do you love me" and "Can I trust you".

    I guess I see eight because I've always been really confrontational, I hate the idea of being manipulated, lied to, deceived, someone walking over me. I despise the idea of someone in general trying to walk over me. Maybe self preservation eight would be a long shot, I don't know. Maybe growing up in a home with two ESTP 8w7 parents made me this way lol.

    Yes, I admit I have a back and forth and potential borderline personality disorder tendencies associated with the six when mentally ill, but they've only come up maybe twice in my life where I've been in panic mode.

    Forgive me if I am stereotyping the eight and the six.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paradigm View Post
    Sorry, how did you get there, exactly?

    Types 2 and 6 are the ones I see the most. 6 mostly just because buzzwords, which makes me kind of shy away from it and want to say 2, honestly. I don't see much 8 at all, let alone 8w7.
    Also, if it's any help, in therapy two things came up that might be helpful:

    1) In one relationship I felt like a caged animal, I made myself vulnerable through my emotions and deeply regretted it. It felt incredibly dangerous at the time.

    2) I have a warrior like mentality in order to protect myself, when someone yells at me, I yell back louder. I might be very sweet and laid back, but I don't like anyone yelling at me. It's just fucked up to yell at someone in general for no good reason, there are better things to be upset about. But I digress, the better way to explain this warrior mentality is warding people off when I think they're just toxic to be around. I've cut out a lot of people simply because they're bad.

    3) I value people's emotional intimacy and honesty up front (the former being something that happens slower of course). I absolutely cannot stand liars, I cannot stand people who hide behind facades, that shit gets old quick.

    Maybe these are all human things that after growing up in a toxic environment would make anyone this way? Not sure. I've always got along better with eights LOL.

    Anyways, thanks Paradigm! Let me know, I'll shut the fuck up after this lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Slagasauras View Post
    Hi Paradigm! Oh my gosh, it has been so long .

    I guess I don't see two because I don't feel the whole "Do an action to get a result" thing regarding intimate relationships.
    Six makes sense in terms of my "I hate you, don't leave me" and "Do you love me" and "Can I trust you".

    I guess I see eight because I've always been really confrontational, I hate the idea of being manipulated, lied to, deceived, someone walking over me. I despise the idea of someone in general trying to walk over me. Maybe self preservation eight would be a long shot, I don't know. Maybe growing up in a home with two ESTP 8w7 parents made me this way lol.

    Yes, I admit I have a back and forth and potential borderline personality disorder tendencies associated with the six when mentally ill, but they've only come up maybe twice in my life where I've been in panic mode.

    Forgive me if I am stereotyping the eight and the six.
    Hi! Good to see someone else from back then, too :D

    I mainly ruled out 8 as core because near the end you said:
    7. Describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety.
    Anger: Depends on the environment. Work, I hardly ever yell so no one can write me up. Buuuuut everyone has their breaking points and I yell at supervisors and managers.
    Shame: I guess...I just deal with it?
    Anxiety: I freak out. Anxiety hits me HARD. I become anxiety.

    8. Describe how you respond to each of: a) stress; b) unexpected change; c) conflict.
    Stress: I become hyper productive, or I don't do anything at all.
    Unexpected change: rage, irritation
    Conflict: I wouldn't say I enjoy conflict but I mean, no one is going to stand up for you at the end of the day besides yourself.
    9. Describe your orientation to: a) authority; b) power. How do you respond to these?
    Authority: I look for someone and see if I can work under them, or even be under them. Basically, are you worthy?
    Power: I like it, I love taking over group projects.
    However, I think CP6 with an 8 fix wouldn't be too far off the mark :) You do mention many things that sound 8, but it's "now that you're thinking of it," and a lot of core type things are best 'found' when you aren't thinking specifically of a type. Typing yourself is more about overall patterns throughout your life, less about what is a problem moment to moment. (After all, type is a pattern of behavior, and many patterns are better based on long-term models.)

    I will say that you mention everything that pisses me off, but very little that pisses off the 8s I know. Makes me wonder if a 1w2 fix wouldn't be very off, because disliking things like "lying and yelling for no reason" tend to be based more on "the principle of the matter," not on "my own vulnerabilities." Because the 1 fix would be filtered through your 6 core, and 6s can be very concerned about trust and lies (in different manifestations), it makes sense you (and me) would be more vocal about it than you may otherwise expect from the more stereotypical, passive, 9-fixed, 6.

    I'm not sure of your instinct... You could be looking like SX simply because it's the stereotypical CP (but irl any 6 variant can be CP) and because you sound like you're concerned about your relationship(s)? Heck, I "sound SOC" when I'm in the middle of a social gathering, but it's a huge blindspot every other moment of my life. You do seem to have a strong SP instinct, for sure, so if you think that's your first one, I say go with it.

    Admittedly, type 2 did feel a bit odd because I didn't see a lot of disintegration to 8. I don't really see it to 5, either, tbh - it has to be more than just 'becoming self-protective' (so to speak). You do seem to disintegrate to 3, though... Worrying about how you'll come off, becoming productive to cope, and so on.

    What do you think?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paradigm View Post
    Hi! Good to see someone else from back then, too :D

    I mainly ruled out 8 as core because near the end you said:


    However, I think CP6 with an 8 fix wouldn't be too far off the mark :) You do mention many things that sound 8, but it's "now that you're thinking of it," and a lot of core type things are best 'found' when you aren't thinking specifically of a type. Typing yourself is more about overall patterns throughout your life, less about what is a problem moment to moment. (After all, type is a pattern of behavior, and many patterns are better based on long-term models.)

    I will say that you mention everything that pisses me off, but very little that pisses off the 8s I know. Makes me wonder if a 1w2 fix wouldn't be very off, because disliking things like "lying and yelling for no reason" tend to be based more on "the principle of the matter," not on "my own vulnerabilities." Because the 1 fix would be filtered through your 6 core, and 6s can be very concerned about trust and lies (in different manifestations), it makes sense you (and me) would be more vocal about it than you may otherwise expect from the more stereotypical, passive, 9-fixed, 6.

    I'm not sure of your instinct... You could be looking like SX simply because it's the stereotypical CP (but irl any 6 variant can be CP) and because you sound like you're concerned about your relationship(s)? Heck, I "sound SOC" when I'm in the middle of a social gathering, but it's a huge blindspot every other moment of my life. You do seem to have a strong SP instinct, for sure, so if you think that's your first one, I say go with it.

    Admittedly, type 2 did feel a bit odd because I didn't see a lot of disintegration to 8. I don't really see it to 5, either, tbh - it has to be more than just 'becoming self-protective' (so to speak). You do seem to disintegrate to 3, though... Worrying about how you'll come off, becoming productive to cope, and so on.

    What do you think?
    How've you been?


    I'll have to certainly dig up more on the 6-8-x or 6-1-x paradigm, I say as I type this with an ice cream in my left hand.

    I think an eight fix wouldn't be so far off the bat. I don't really relate to one and their "use of perfection" if you know what I mean? Maybe you can clarify on that, what you think the one is compared to the stereotypical one. I'm trying to think of how I can think of this from an unbiased standpoint.
    Any idea of what my MBTI is btw?

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    LMAO I read that enneagram sixes do what they fear--oh boy. I got so neurotic in one instance that I thought my boyfriend didn't love me so I just blocked him for a week. I'm not mentally healthy.


     
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