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    Help me figure out my Enneagram type?

    If it helps, I'm an INFP.

    Main Questions

    1. What drives you in life? What do you look for?

    The drive to become skilled, successful, kind, heroic, and intelligent. Things such as love and friendship are also extremely important to me, but it’s always quality over quantity for me.

    2. What do you hope to accomplish in your life?

    Affecting the world in some grandiose way and contributing to the betterment of society.

    3. What do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?

    I don’t want to be someone that isn’t successful, helpful, skilled, etc. Loyalty is extremely important to me. Although I don’t feel a sense of loyalty toward many people, I would never abandon the ones I am loyal to and love. I don’t want to be a bystander; I’d rather take some form of action (which I don’t usually end up doing, but that’s the kind of person I want to be).

    4. What are your biggest fears (not including phobias)? Why?

    The person I love hating me, being a failure, not doing anything with my life.

    5. How do you want others to see you? How do you see yourself?

    As someone that’s good at what they do, someone that’s kind and capable. I see myself as someone with potential and ambition.

    6. What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?

    I feel my best when I accomplish something (like good grades) or become better at doing something. I feel my worst when someone I care about brushes me off or if I feel like I’m annoying them. It makes me feel like my existence is unnecessary and useless.

    7. Describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety.

    I usually get angry when I’m frustrated, like when I can’t accomplish something that means a lot to me. I usually become kind of irritable.
    Usually happens when I accidentally make others feel bad in any way. Although I feel like I have a crappy self defence mechanism for this. Around others, I kinda keep going along with what made me feel shameful because I’m too embarrassed to express my shame, if that makes any sense.
    Happens if a future awkward encounter awaits me. My mind gets filled with anxious thoughts and I feel physically anxious.

    8. Describe how you respond to each of: a) stress; b) unexpected change; c) conflict.

    Ignore it until it becomes too much, then get really anxious.
    If it’s positive, I’m a bit skeptical at first but then quickly adapt. If it’s negative, I feel a bit frustrated.
    Sometimes I actually enjoy some sort of conflict if I don’t care about the outcome or my relationship with the other person. But usually I absolutely hate it and become really sad if it occurs.

    9. Describe your orientation to: a) authority; b) power. How do you respond to these?

    I don’t really feel comfortable with asserting control over other people, probably because I’m quite self conscious and unsure of myself.

    10. What is your overall outlook on life and humanity?

    I feel like the goal of life should being happy in the current moment and ensuring happiness in the future, without crushing the happiness of others.

    Optional Questions

    - Comment on your relationship with trust.

    I’m not trusting of other people most of the time. I have to really know the person before I trust them at all, but even then it’s hard for me to trust them with my innermost thoughts and secrets. I feel like most people don’t have any reason to keep my secrets and might tell someone else, or judge me, if I’m not sure about how they feel about me.

    - What do you see or notice in others that most people don’t?

    What they look for in life and what’s most important to them.

    - If a stranger insults you, how do you respond/feel? What if they compliment you?

    Mixed feelings. Part of me doesn’t really care about what they think about me because they don’t know me and I get a bit irritated about the fact that they judged me. At the same time it kind of lowers my self esteem. If they compliment me, it raises my self esteem.
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    Type 3, Type 3, Type 3!

    The drive to become skilled, successful, kind, heroic, and intelligent.
    The desire for success is often correlated with 3s, but I think the bolded is actually more telling here; plenty of types want to do well in the world and all. But skilled, on the other hand, dovetails right into the Type 3 competency focus, especially since you mention it so broadly here rather than applying it to a specific area.

    I donít want to be a bystander; Iíd rather take some form of action (which I donít usually end up doing, but thatís the kind of person I want to be).
    I feel my best when I accomplish something (like good grades) or become better at doing something.
    I usually get angry when Iím frustrated, like when I canít accomplish something that means a lot to me.
    There's this running thread with your responses about doing and accomplishing things. Again, it's pretty human in general to want to do something with your life, but 3s define themselves by their inner resume.

    "Am I a good person? Yeah, I think I've got the stuff for the job. I've got skills in empathy, generosity, and listening to others emotional needs. If I develop my honesty I could do even better."

    Would you relate to this sort of checklist? Not necessarily the same words, or even the same conclusion, but the idea of being the sum of your skills and abilities?

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    3w2, but your tritype is 361.
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    Quote Originally Posted by He's a Superhero! View Post
    3w2, but your tritype is 361.
    I agree, I would also add that she's likely SO-dom due to the desire to achieve for the 'betterment of society' and/or for the greater good (unless this is for goal of fulfilling a perfect exemplary image).

    1w2 3w2 6w7
    3w2 1w2 6w7

    Potential tritype: 136, 137, 126
    Potential instinct: SO/SX SX/SO
    Less likely: 4, 8

    Her concise and declarative writing style strikes more as someone with a strong 1-fix. She seems very clear-minded about her principles which suggests a stronger 1 and 3 is core rather than 6. 1-ish shiny knight sense of idealism (as reinforced by her profile picture haha). High social perfectionism.

    Usually happens when I accidentally make others feel bad in any way. Although I feel like I have a crappy self defence mechanism for this. Around others, I kinda keep going along with what made me feel shameful because I’m too embarrassed to express my shame, if that makes any sense.
    Indicative of 1ish guilt and self-criticism.


 

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