This is a discussion on All about me me me. within the What's my Enneagram type? forums, part of the Enneagram Personality Theory Forum category; Originally Posted by Drunk Parrot Both of us being so/sx would explain why you're so fond of me I hate ...
I've met some INTJ's who are SHOCKINGLY social, especially females. They have a mask of friendly, laughing, jovial, helpful.
under that about 4 layers is a snarky person. under that somewhere is someone who gets really fucking sick of all people once in a whlie, and needs a lot of quiet time. Under all that, is even more.
For a person to have all those layers, they tend to be VERY intelligent using any measure you wish.
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The personality types corresponding to Karen Horney’s Aggressive strategy are the Three, Seven and Eight. All three are generally bold and energetic and respond to problems, threats and obstacles by expanding and reinforcing egoic boundaries. In other words, they see the world as offering up that which they need and their personal philosophy tends to be that the best things come to those who actively go after them. Therefore, they will assert themselves and demand that their needs be met.
as for Karen Horney's work, I'm not a fan of it in general, and her take here is completely off
1) 3s are not bold. they are hyper-conscientious and reluctant to express anything which has the possibility of making them look bad.
2) 3s don't generally make demands. the exception is that they may demand things after they have put in the work and feel as if they were overlooked, unfairly compensated or left out of the credit
3) 3's egos are seldom shown externally. most present as more false-humble and, if anything, would rather appear 1-ish than 8-ish or 7-ish
a lot of what was said her applies to 2s, 7s and 8s more than 3s.
If they weren't bold, they wouldn't achieve anything. They are much bolder than 5 for example.
They are aggressive in that they are imposing their will on the environment in some way. Trying to affect it. Trying to get ahead in it. What you are describing is still moving against people. Which 3s do. Doesn't matter if they are conscientious about it or whatever they are still doing it.
OK guys you're boring me now with the talk about 3s.
Does anyone think I'm relating to 5 so much because of being unhealthy or because it might be in my tritype?
We've established I don't really have the 6 thing happening because....well let's face it, I'm not that healthy and surely it would have popped up by now for you all to say I was one.
they can be.They are much bolder than 5 for example.sort of. I'll admit you have a point hereThey are aggressive in that they are imposing their will on the environment in some way. Trying to affect it. Trying to get ahead in it. What you are describing is still moving against people. Which 3s do. Doesn't matter if they are conscientious about it or whatever they are still doing it.