Enneagram type, please.
I used the second stickied questionnaire. I hope I answered these questions satisfactorily.
If you have any additional questions for me, or if you want me to answer the optional/extra questions in the survey, just let me know.
Thank you for your help!
What age range are you in?
I am a young adult.
Any disorders or conditions we should know about?
None that I can think of.
1. What do you think your life is about? What drives you in life? This can be something like a goal or a purpose, or anything else that comes to mind.
Most of the time, I feel like the only reason I have to live is to be there for my family. The fact that life will probably be even more miserable if I don't even try is what drives me. Simply, I want to make my life as painless as possible, and I want to have as many fun experiences as I can before I die.
2. What were you like as a kid?
As a baby, I was very quiet. Maybe it's because I was an only child at the time and didn't have many people to talk to. But I loved to learn. My mother would often read to me, and I apparently absolutely loved it. When I was a toddler, I liked reading and playing with interactive toys, and loved teaching myself new things like how to operate the VCR player.
When I was around four years old, I developed a tendency to worry about almost everything, and it affected my positive outlook I had as a kid. I had a very hard time falling asleep many nights.
As a young kid, I kept these characteristics. I remained reserved (especially in public), and I loved the academic part of school. I still had a lot of anxiety. My favorite things to do were read and play the computer. However, once I got siblings, I became very bossy towards them.
3. Describe your relationship with your parents. Does anything stand out about the way you interacted?
I am very close to both my parents. My mother and I have a lot of conversations that friends would have, but she was always able to discipline me if needed. My father is not talkative, so I usually don't really talk to him in that same way, but we still hang out a lot. I do not believe anything stands out about our relationship.
4. What values are important to you? What do you hope to avoid doing or being?
Courtesy, generosity, honesty, and justice. I hope to avoid treating someone disrespectfully or unfairly, and lying.
5. Aside from phobias, are there any fears that characterized your childhood? Have they continued into the present day, or not, and if not, how have you dealt with them?
When I was in middle school, I developed a strong fear of other adolescents. More specifically, I had a fear that pretty much every adolescent I saw was excessively criticizing me, or will bully me. This fear have continued into the present day, but it is certainly not as strong as it was before.
6a.) How do you see yourself?
Someone who needs a lot of self-improvement, but is too lazy to actually do so. Someone with low self-esteem and a tendency to self-deprecate. (Therefore I find it kind of difficult to describe myself to others objectively, for most of the words tend to be negative.)
6b.) How do you want others to see you?
I want others to see me as someone coordinated, tactful, smart, brave, and kind.
6c.) What do you dislike the most in other people?
I cannot tolerate it when people disrespect and are mean/rude to others.
7. Which habit do you most automatically act on? Rank the following habits from most to least automatic, on a scale of 1 (most) to 3 (least).
a.) Work for personal gain with more concern for self than for others.
b.) Strive for a sense of tranquility in yourself and the world around you
c.) Decide what is right for the betterment of something or someone else.
B=1, A=2, C=3
8. Where does the wandering mind take you? What provokes this?
Well, it can take me in many directions. When I am in a good mood, sometimes I like to think about some of my best memories and replay them in a loop in my mind. Other times I want to fantasize about what I would like my life to be like, or sometimes that I am a different person. When I am in a bad mood, I do the same thing, just with my worst memories, and imagine horrible things that can happen to me. Sometimes I just like to think about the things I have watched and replay them, but even more I like to play music in my head.
9. What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?
Whenever I am hanging out with my friends from school and I feel like part of the group makes me at my best. Listening to music also makes me feel notably great. Same with hearing compliments. Being treated poorly by others makes me feel my worst.
Let's talk about emotions. Explain what might make you feel the following, how they feel to you or how you react to the emotion:
Hearing or watching someone being treated disrespectfully is an example of something that makes me angry. When I feel anger, I get a lot of violent thoughts in my mind. But I usually listen to music if I can whenever I am angry, and that helps me cool down over time.
Getting bullied, especially in front of a group of people, is an example of something that makes me feel ashamed. When I feel shame, I keep replaying whatever made me feel that way in my mind and tell myself self-deprecating things.
Having to talk to new people, or speak in front of a crowd is an example of something that makes me anxious. When I feel anxiety, my head feels like it is spinning in fast circles and I get sweaty and shaky. I also tend to tell myself self-deprecating things here as well.
Describe how you respond to the following:
There are two stages to my response here. During the first stage, I wallow in my worries and act extremely unproductively. Sometimes I do nothing but lie in bed and cry. This period can last anywhere from ten minutes to a couple of days. Then I finally decide that I should try to solve whatever problem I am facing. I would seek counsel from my mother or someone else who might be able to help me. Or I would look for solutions in my own mind.
11b.) negative unexpected change
I have a tendency to react explosively to it when I first hear about it and endlessly complain about it to my mother. My coping method here is pretty much the same as stress with the two stages I discussed.
I just try to avoid it as much as possible. If I personally get confronted, I just act dismissively.
12a.) What kind of role are you naturally inclined to take in a group? Why?
In a group, I am naturally inclined to not say much unless I think I have something to say that would be very beneficial for all of us. I would ask someone else what he/she thinks I should do to help out.
12b.) If put in power, how do you behave? Why?
I don’t have many opportunities where I am put in power. When I babysit my younger sisters, I pretty much treat them as my equals. If it matters, sometimes I fantasize about being in power to get revenge on people who have wronged me.
12c.) Do you tend to struggle with others who have authority over you? Why?
No. As long as they treat me with respect, we should be fine. I haven’t had many issues with any of my authorities, at least not yet.
13. What do you see or notice in others that most people don't?
I like to notice the little habits and mannerisms people have. For example, if someone likes to say "so" as a filler word rather than "uh" or "like." Or if someone likes to chip or bite his/her fingernails. Stuff like that.
14. Comment on your relationship with trust.
I have an extremely hard time placing trust in someone who is not in my immediate family, but I can get myself to do so if someone has done something very big for me first. I cannot think of any specific examples at the moment.
15. Briefly: What religious and/or political beliefs do you have? Do you think they influenced your responses in this questionnaire?
My religious beliefs can shift somewhat depending on my mood, but I consider myself to be an agnostic deist. I am mostly apolitical, but I am a centrist who leans slightly towards libertarianism. Maybe my religious beliefs have influenced the first and fourth questions, but that's about it.