0. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind.
I have a form of OCD. Female 23 years old, who is also dating a man 7 years older than me, has some disorder like me, but shares the same values in life as me. There had been several stressful times these months.
1. Click on this link: Flickr: Explore! Look at the random photo for about 30 seconds. Copy and paste it here, and write about your impression of it.
Ooh, I got this photo?
Somehow the first word that comes to mind is...'sadness.' It took me several minutes to figure out why that word came to mind. At first I wanted to say, it's just a vibe I get but that would be a cliched answer. I'm not even sure if it's the body language of the person in the photo or the settings..Maybe I wonder about the motivation of the photographer.. Maybe it's from a feeling of how the photograph is 'communicated'..A part of me feels as though the photographer may be communicating a feeling of 'loss' or 'searching' with this photo, with the person seeming almost like a dim outline in the photo, looking ahead at an almost setting sun.. The plants almost look as if they're 'bowing'..I get the feeling the photographer might be using all of these details on purpose, to communicate some message.
Another part of me however says that I might be wrong, the photographer may be communicating a feeling of love for nature and is trying to express it in a way that may not be conventionally expected. The photographer may be communicating,'' I appreciate all parts of nature, and never want to miss a single detail.''
2. You are with a group of people in a car, heading to a different town to see your favourite band/artist/musician. Suddenly, the car breaks down for an unknown reason in the middle of nowhere. What are your initial thoughts? What are your outward reactions?
I would freak out -__- Not good for OCD.
My initial thoughts would be,''what the fuck, I need a break, why is this happening to me?'' I would vent and vent, and call someone for help.
3. You somehow make it to the concert. The driver wants to go to the afterparty that was announced (and assure you they won't drink so they can drive back later). How do you feel about this party? What do you do?
It depends on the company and what kind of party. I might agree to go, but with the condition that I truly trust the driver will not drink.
4. On the drive back, your friends are talking. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward reaction? What do you outwardly say?
At first, I try to understand why he/she clashes with those beliefs from a broad psychological standpoint (please note, this doesn't mean it limits to,'I'm scared I offend his/her feelings). If I find that there's some inconsistency, values that I consider hypocritical and also some hidden motives in how he/she expresses those beliefs, I would be pissed. Then I would decide how to show him/her why I would disagree with him/her. I would ask about his/her experiences then bring forward some of my own experiences in life, while I believe experience is a great teacher, I believe the opportunities for understanding - when they are available - can be useful in bridging people's understanding towards each other and each other's beliefs.
It also depends on my mood though. If I'm tired from the party, I might be quiet but I'd bring it up some other time. It depends though on the nature of argument if it's important to me. I know that some people can simply say things in the heat of the moment - and I might not care about it because of that. On the other hand, if it's really serious, I will bring it up again.
5. What would you do if you actually saw/experienced something that clashes with your previous beliefs, experiences, and habits?
It depends. It may be an unusual path leading me to a different path that will change some outcomes in my life, but I believe the general theme of my beliefs will always be there.
6. What are some of your most important values? How did you come about determining them? How can they change?
I believe in justice, I believe that small things contribute to big things. For example, I say I value tact, not because I want to go on eggshells around everybody else's feelings and bend over backwards..But more so because when we try to be more tactful when we possibly can, we can show others better understanding and they can be open to better self improvement. I think a post I once wrote under an INFP thread may be more useful in answering the question;I value love as well. It's my savior during times of darkness - but that doesn't mean I don't have a dark side. I can be manipulative and cold, but I want to, over and over again, stand for justice and what I think is right.''Nonetheless, in a world that is seemingly starved from kindness, should we care about people and their motives when they do these deeds? Or should we see a "good" gesture as something so scarce that we essentially have to "take what we can get?" If this is easy for you to answer, does your response change when you take a less worldly view and apply it to people who do kind acts for you? If they had ulterior motives, but still helped you out in some way, was it worth it? Or would you have rather struggled through the task on your own?''
I think it depends. There are also the situations of which motives can be mixed. For example, a person may be thinking,'' I'm helping her because I feel it's the right thing to do..at the same time, later, if I feel bad about myself, I can remind me of this so that I won't get into the dumps again.'' Psychology can be a tricky thing.
Also, I know this may sound idealistic and a number people may not agree with me, but I do think intentions matter. There is a quote from a movie - Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth - and I actually believe in it. Life will not often go as planned and bad things happen to the point that we need to see the good that's left, but truth still has ways of showing itself. The motives of a person always reveal themselves through time, at least from my experience it does. And if they are not revealed to me, they would be revealed to others or may have impacted my life badly in a way I didn't expect. For instance, in the far past, when I was more naive, I remember trusting a few people based on 'good gestures' they were doing to me. But for some reason I always had that little voice inside I tried to ignore that was saying,'' something isn't right'' and then I would get the subtle cues / 'signs' like them giving subtle sarcastic insults, pretending to joke around and saying things as if to note themselves more superior than me and others. Also, there would be some inconsistency - claiming to advocate principles, to the point of being so convincing that they'd write and talk about it a lot, and with emotionally convincing dramatic flair, and advocating it openly on facebook or forums whatnot - but then they would later (when they thought no one was watching) show, in the little things they do and behave, that they don't really believe in what they were saying.
In my opinion, good gestures are made more possible from good intentions and motives matter to me. Of course, bad motives may not subtract the actions themselves, but they still have their ways of harming people, making the bad outweigh the good in the long run.
They are determined from observations of things that happen around the world, of the sufferings endured by others etc. And my value in justice will never change.
7. a) What about your personality most distinguishes you from everyone else? b) If you could change one thing about you personality, what would it be? Why?
a) I'm INFJ and it's been said that INFJ values social harmony, but it doesn't make me a social conformist in most matters (I suspect it's the same for many other INFJ's, they don't just blindly conform). I care about social justice, and I think that a way to lessen the stereotypes/ unnecessary labeling in this world also start in private sectors, homes, communities, small things like basic discussions and forums which then can contribute to the bigger picture. For example, I don't feel the need to people please or be attached to too many people to do something better for humanity, I can analyze socio-political affairs, socio-political issues, how they effect well being of many people around the world, but I don't have to bend myself backward or be all butterflies/sunshine-y (LOL)
Also, my boyfriend said once that underneath all the anxiety and occasions of scatter brained confusion, I am the most selfless person he knows that I have a bigger heart than normal. He says it's because I put others first in my heart. I don't believe him, though.
b) It's my paranoia. I know my paranoia about other people's motives is very useful. But at times, it is a hindrance to my health and I'm aware of it.
8. How do you treat hunches or gut feelings? In what situations are they most often triggered?
I treat them as reminders to be assessed. There's no specific situation, a gut feeling can come anytime.
9. a) What activities energize you most? b) What activities drain you most? Why?
A) Studying politics and writing/reading poetry energize me most. I need to vent to the people closest in my life for hours about things that bring me down/worry me (I only do that to a select few, I'm not stupid, I know not to cross other people's boundaries) as coping mechanism.
Activities that drain me can be when for example I'm in a group of people, and they talk about something 'spiritual' while it's only 'spiritual' on face value but it's actually superficial and critical and most of all, hypocritical in nature. I hate that kind of inconsistency and I hate pretentious nature of discussions/gatherings, they drain the fuck out of me.
10. What do you repress about your outward behavior or internal thought process when around others? Why?
It's not so much that I repress, it's more that I hide.