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I'm journeying to find my true type: INFP or ENFP. I've tested as an ambivert on every test, show strong Ne and Fi, and have resorted to trying to identify my inferior function.

I've started numerous threads on my adventure, and at one point someone pointed out to me that using your inferior function exhausts you, which I thought was really interesting. This exhaustion can lead to stress and frustration. So, my idea is to make a list of what causes me stress and exhaustion and then see if there is a pattern that aligns with either of the two inferior functions. I'll be posting this list in numerous threads to make sure I reach everybody who's helped me thus far, so if you're trying to track my progress then rest assured that every thread will have this same information.


I've done some heavy reflecting, and here's what I've noticed exhausts or stresses me:

- Thinking about opportunities I've missed/what I could have done differently
- Thinking about how much more I could have accomplished in any given situation had I been more organized or driven
- Basically the contrast between my dream to be self-driven and my reality of being more relaxed is the source of a very significant amount of stress in my life
- Fearing making the wrong decision
- Comparing my past/present to those of others, worrying that I'm missing something
- Knowing that I'll need to know a specific set of facts for an anticipated situation, even if I have them memorized I have this exhausting fear that I won't be able to recall what I need to; e.g. trying to remember driving directions or lines for a play... the actual memorization isn't stressful, but thinking about how I'll need to know it and this obsession that I won't be able to recall it in the moment really freaks me out
- Contradicting myself or feeling uncertainty; a perfect example of this is the whole journey of whether I'm INFP or ENFP, I'm having fun with it, but whenever I think about it too hard and find myself changing my mind about things, I get overwhelmed with uncertainty and it's exhausting
- Wondering how different my idea of myself is from my actual self; it seems selfish, but this actually really freaks me out. In my head I'm Phoebe from Friends but my friend insists I am Chandler, if that made any sense
- Wondering about how I'm perceived by others, but not like in a "What does she think of my outfit" way, it's much more like a feeling that I'm in this outside perspective outside of myself, wondering how I'm perceived by others. I think about this a lot. Like when I'm with younger cousins, I get swamped by memories of how I always viewed my older cousins when I was their age, and the idea that now I'm in that role and is it the same for them and am I living up to it, etc etc (I'm not sure if this one actually exhausts me as the others do, but it's still a thought I get lost in really intensely.)


I can add more as I think, but those were the first things that came to mind. The question is, is anything pointing to inferior Te/Si?

Thank you for reading, and I hope to hear from you soon!
 
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Well, it all sounds like an inferior Te to me. It seems like your Fi constantly rejects your Te, since any time your Te starts working you feel stressed and pressured. Your Te tries to show new logical connections and possibilities, but you take it all personally and feel like it's a criticism of your ego. Si doesn't work like that at all.
 
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