Hey everybody, new to the forum here, looking forward to chatting with many of you all and getting to learn more about myself and all of you. I have always been interested in personality type and of course have taken many different versions of the MBTI personality type quiz. I have always felt that while a lot of our personality comes from how we are raised, that there is definitely a decent percentage of our personality that is just based on our soul and who we are internally (I see it with my nieces every time I see them, raised almost identically but 2 totally different personalities).
With that said, I have always struggled on my personality type, the vast majority of the time I get INFJ but there have also been 2 times where I did get ISFJ. I have looked at various INFJ descriptions and while I believe it does fit me decently good I still debate on the Intuitive vs. Sensing aspect of the personality type. I have always been rock solid on being Introverted and Judging, and after some reflection have realized that my Feeling side is pretty strong as well, but I have always struggled with whether I am fit more of the Intuitive or Sensing type and wanted to see if you all had any feedback. I am going to fill out a common questionnaire on here and if you have any other questions that you think might help to decide where I am at definitely let me know. :)
1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
Well as I mentioned above I struggle with the N-S aspect of my personality type. Most tests show I'm INFJ, but they talk about how they can sense how people are reacting or intuitive know something to be true without knowing how, and how some even have a psychic nature. I don't really feel like I'm that intuitive. I mean sometimes I do just trust my gut feelings and I guess at times I intuitive think about whether I would trust someone or not and most of the time it's right, but I don't know if I consider myself that much of an intuitive. When it comes to sensing I try not to get too bogged down in the details but I do value some amount of practicality in things and depending on what I'm doing I do like to follow a specific sequence to get to a certain result. I feel like this is my weakest aspect and I go back and forth on which one I really am.
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
I really yearn to have a network of close friends that I can always trust and count on (and people who I will always be there for). I yearn to be in a relationship with someone who loves me for who I am and who I can share my entire personality with. Most of the people in my life now (including my family) I really love but most of them I feel like I can not share my whole personality with because they wouldn't understand. I want to get to a place where I am content and at peace. I want my fair share of action and excitement but I also want those times of peace and tranquility.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
I would have to say when I attended one of my best friend's wedding and got to take pictures of them and create a scrapbook as their wedding gift. As I don't have a huge friend network getting to attend these types of events are really important for me. I really enjoyed making the scrapbook as I like to give people things that have intrinsic value and I loved giving them something that was uniquely theirs. I wanted to give them something they simply wouldn't just throw away a few years later. While I do not consider myself that creative I do enjoy photography, so being able to capture those memories and put it together with memories from their childhood years and while they were dating gave me an opportunity to be a little creative and I had a great time doing it.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
I am not someone who is authoritative or someone who commands attention when they walk into the room. In many ways I simply like to blend in and talk with people I know well. At times I feel like everyone else has had more success in their lives than me and that they have more to show for it than I do (whether it's because they have a family, traveled extensively overseas, know other languages, developed a good friendship network, etc.)
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I would almost say all of the above. Mainly I try to decide if I feel like the decision is the right one for me and how it will effect me in the long term. I also do look at the pros and cons and how the decision will effect my family and to a lesser extent my friends.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
I really enjoy the feeling of finishing a project, so I enjoy the finished feeling over simply working on it. With that said, after I have finished the majority of the work I try to make my work perfect before I consider it finished. I honestly can deal with having completely control of the outcome or not, as long as I have control over the part I am working on.
7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
Probably during my junior year in college when I was on an internship. I stayed at home for college so it was first time away from my parents for an extended period of time. Everything was so new and exciting, I didn't know what was going to happen, I was venturing into the unknown, and that was exciting. It was my first taste of complete freedom and that was amazing as well. Life was also a lot simpler, I lived more in the present back then and I think that is what made it a lot of fun. No medical worries (I have a few medical issues now, minor, but they are there), no worries about saving for retirement or buying a house, getting married, having kids, settling down, starting a career, any of that. Completely living free and in the moment.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
I would say a mix of reading about something (basic instructions) and being hands on, but mainly hands on.
9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
Well at work I am very organized. If my desk is messy I feel like I can't really get anything done. I would spend a few minutes to clean everything up. At home I try to stay organized as well and consider myself fairly organized, but I am not as much of a perfectionist. There will still be clothes on the floor, stuff not where it needs to be, etc. I am organized but not OCD where I am measuring everything to make sure it's in the right place.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
Well typically I look at who originates the idea and how their past ideas have gone. I try to understand how it is going to help our company and help my specific position.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
Probably a mix of both, I have my values that I do not compromise on and will always believe in but other things I am more flexible on. I do try to listen to other points of view and I try to keep everything positive for the most part. I really don't enjoy negativity and avoid getting into arguments even though I am not afraid to if it comes to that point.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I definitely prefer one on one communications compared to group discussions. I also definitely think before I speak, sometimes excessively. Because I don't blurt out quickly I feel like my voice gets drowned out in group discussions and feel like I don't get much of a chance to speak. I will typically talk to specific people after a group discussions if I have something to bring up.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I am definitely more cautious in this regard, I like to evaluate the situation and have some good thinking time before going into something. I definitely like to look before I leap.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
Depends on what I'm feeling like. If they are close friends or family that I really enjoy seeing I will probably hang out with them. If they are just casual friends or if I am just not in the mood for any reason I will typically stay in.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
I will typically withdraw to someplace where I know I will be by myself and can think about what is stressing me out. I typically do that and if I need to talk to someone about it I will do that later. I like to think about what is stressing me out though and visualize what I can do about it.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
Mainly people who feel that they are better than others simply because of their looks, money or personality. People who think they are more important than others just because of their position or any other reason.Also, I can't stand people who are fake and (maybe to a fault) I think a lot of people are fake. They try to put up an outer shell that they want others to see or are nice to people when they really don't want to be. As an introvert I also put up an outer shell as well but I feel like it is mainly to protect myself more than anything else, and I am trying hard not to do that. I also don't try to be fake nice, if I don't want to talk to you I'm not going to talk to you unless I have to.
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
I really do enjoy talking about deep topics, such as cultures, people, personalities, our world, beliefs, etc. I also enjoy lighter topics though such as reading, movies, gaming, photography, sports, traveling, outdoors, etc. It really depends on the person, if I trust the person to respect me I will talk about almost anything, if not I typically know which topics I can bring up and which topics I can't. That's why my friends are so important though, because I typically like talking about deeper topics and not shallow (aka what were you up to this weekend type topics) topics, and really you can only do that with friends.
18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life
I would probably say my career. I have a decent job right now but I know it's not going to be my career. I am not sure what my passion is yet though and I need to really do some soul searching and figure out where I want to go before looking at other jobs. I figure once I have a better understanding of who I am as a person and what my passions are, then I can look at potential careers. Plus with the job market the way it is right now there isn't much need to look unless you are 100% sure.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
Someone who will always go out of his way to help you, someone who is amazingly nice, someone who has his life together, someone who is a realist, someone who really cares and will never give up on you. Most of how my friends perceive me are correct, but I would say what they don't see is that I will only be nice to you if I want to be. I have found that being fake nice is just exhausting to me. I also know that I don't have my life together, I am satisfied with my life but I know it can be a lot better and that my life is still a huge work in process. Finally, I am a realist about some things (out of necessity) but overall I am a dreamer. I get lost in my thoughts more than my friends ever know. In terms of what my friends would never say about me, off the top of my head they would probably never say that I am fake, materialistic, immoral, cut throat and untrustworthy.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
Probably a little relaxation in the morning, maybe sleep in and take a nice long bath. If it's a nice day outside maybe go over to the beach, go swimming, or maybe take a day trip to a historical city or museum. If the weather is nasty maybe go to a bookstore and find a good book to read or do a movie marathon and just stay in my pajamas all day. :)
So I hope answering these questions help you find out more about me. Let me know what you all think and if you have any additional questions you think may help please let me know. Thank you all and I look forward to getting to know some of you and engage in some good conversation on here!