Hey guys, I'm new here and I've recently (2-3 months) gotten into MBTI/Enneagram. I believe myself to be an INFJ as that's what I tested pretty strongly on the 16personalities test and I identify with many things common with the INFJ. However, I'm aware that I'm not the most well versed in the cognitive functions and I would like some more experienced insight into what type you all think I am. Any feedback is greatly appreciated and thank you in advance :)
1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
Stated above, I do believe myself to be an INFJ but would like other insight/perspectives so I'm not being blinded by my own perception (especially when I don't know too much in depth about the functions)
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
It sounds cliche but my first thought after reading this was to be happy and satisfied with the life I have lived by the end of it. I want to be able to be completely true to who I am and what I want to do so I can look back at the end of my life and not regret the choices I've made. If I settled for a profession I wasn't passionate about for financial reasons it would cause a great inner struggle within me because I would see this as being not true to myself and would question if I could ever "live" with myself or be happy since I made that decision.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
I've struggled with social anxiety most of my life and usually I feel the most pleased with myself when I have a good day socially, if that makes sense. If I'm not in my head all of the time when I'm with people or awkward and show the side of my personality that's witty and personable, I view that as a huge success in my head because I feel as if I'm making connections with people. I've struggled with having friends so any step I feel I make in the right direction with having deeper relationships makes me feel really proud of myself and optimistic. Another instance that equals that feeling but in a different way would be getting a good grade on something I worked hard for.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
Going back to the social anxiety, those times when I can't get out of my head and dissociate from reality are times when I feel inferior. During these times, I'm disconnected from reality and I've realized I do this as a defense mechanism because often being in my own head and not with people makes me feel more at ease because I'm not having to deal with the present situation.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
When making a big decision, I have to take a lot of time to think because I hate being perceived as fickle and want to ensure I'm making the best decision for myself and everyone involved. First and foremost, I make the decision based on what's true to me. I'm able to look at my feelings objectively and realize why I'm feeling a certain way and what that could mean. On the other hand, I usually have no idea what my feelings mean and all I know is I feel them quite often and strongly. I also care about if it will affect the people I love. I will wonder what they will think about it and worry how they will perceive me but ultimately calm myself down because I know whatever is right for me will turn out to be the right decision, as I believe in fate and everything happening for a reason.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
On a group project, I tend to be the quiet one that no one knows is there but ends up contributing the most to the project. I like to know that the work that is associated with my name will be of good quality. If I'm working on a personal project, I emphasize time management for getting things done by making detailed schedules of how to complete every single task and when. (down to the hour)
7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
A time when I had a lot of fun was when I first came out to college and was exploring the city with some friends for the first time. I remember feeling optimistic and excited about the future and happy to finally be "on my own" and living independently.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
When learning something new, I usually have to read a lot about it/watch videos to gain a clear understanding. I often get confused with hands on learning, as there's nothing tangible to refer back to.
9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
I'd like to think of myself as pretty organized. I definitely have dozens of notebooks filled with random lists and schedules. I have to do at least one every day or else I feel so much more stressed and unorganized, even if I don't accomplish everything for that day.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
I tend to look at different perspectives of the idea then try to understand why people believe a certain way and then see how my own morals and thoughts align with this idea.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I'd say I do both of these. I do strive to make people comfortable in social situations and sometimes do very extroverted things (usually around introverted people I've recently met) that afterwards I question what came over me. I strive to make sure every one is doing alright and extend my help if I feel they need it. However, I also want to be true to myself and follow what I believe because I am going to have to live with who I am and the decisions I make at the end of the day.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I definitely think a lot before speaking. My friends always laugh at me a bit because sometimes it can be a bit excessive as I sit there for 45 seconds in thought with their hand waving in front of my face and asking, "where are you?" I definitely prefer one on one communication. I'm often shut down and overwhelmed by groups. With one on one discussion, it's easier to read the other person's energy and personality and tailor my behavior as such that aligns with them. When there's too many people, I often feel so overwhelmed with everyone's levels of energy so I end up shutting down to escape.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I would say I like to know where I am jumping before leaping. I want to know the plan from the start before I commit to anything drastic. The second question has always been difficult for me. I feel like my natural state is trusting words over actions even though I understand actions can be more revealing of a persons true intentions. Since I've been in positions where people's words didn't have weight to them I do believe actions show more about how a person is feeling subconsciously. However, I am inclined to state that it feels more natural to me to trust in words over actions, as I'm usually not action oriented and convey how I am through words.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
If I said no last week, I'll suck it up and go out to force myself to not be antisocial. Sometimes, I do hope people want to ask me to do things so I'll get excited when this happens, depending on the people. However, if the pajamas are already on and the food's already ordered it's game over.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
I'm usually very self absorbed and get very irritated when anyone does anything to help. I'm overly focused on what I'm stressed out about and can be short with people (only if I'm closer with them, i'm never rude to people I don't know in situations caused by stress) if they get in the way of me finishing a task.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
Arrogance and Ignorance would be the qualities I dislike the most. I can't stand when someone is so caught up in their own beliefs they aren't even willing to look at things from the opposing side. Arrogance and cockiness also irritate me as I feel that this portrays the person feels they are in some way above everyone else and isn't concerned with how they are coming across.
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
I love talking about literature, music, and psychology with people! (Recently I've been into boring people with enneagram)
18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life
I'm really bad at things for my physical health, such as eating. I'm the type of person that is going all of the time and realizes they haven't eaten all day when its 1am. I can't really think of anything else.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
My friends have told me many times that I'm extremely weird, which is true, but they don't even know the half of it. They also perceive me as quiet and funny. Usually, if I'm comfortable with the people/group, I'm perceived as the "funny one" because I'm good at coming up with quick one-liners that are usually weird/dark observational humor. Or bad puns. I like those too. They would never say I'm aggressive. Many people often ask me if I've ever gotten angry in my entire life. I'm not an aggressive person at all, but I do get angry if I feel you've crossed a line with me or with someone else who isn't confident enough to defend themselves.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
I'm going to sleep, research more about personality, play music and get a bunch of good food and binge watch tv.
Thanks y'all and sorry if there's any grammatical/spelling errors