0. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind.
Female, 21 years old. I should actually be doing my thesis now instead of answering this, so a I feel a bit of guilt. I took some tests and I had some asperger traits, but I am mostly neurotypical.
1. Click on this link:Flickr Explore! Look at the random photo for about 30 seconds. Copy and paste it here, and write about your impression of it.
I think that the lady at the back felt a bit insecure about her figure and found herself comparing her body with the slender woman in front.
2. You are with a group of people in a car, heading to a different town to see your favourite band/artist/musician. Suddenly, the car breaks down for an unknown reason in the middle of nowhere. What are your initial thoughts? What are your outward reactions?
My initial thoughts during these situations is: Here we go again. Life loves to tease. Just when you wanted it least to happen, it happens.
I intially would feel annoyed.
My outward reaction would be to see if any of us can fix the problem, if not I will suggest possible solutions such as calling a towing truck (to ensure the car is safe) and riding a cab instead.
3. You somehow make it to the concert. The driver wants to go to the afterparty that was announced (and assure you they won't drink so they can drive back later). How do you feel about this party? What do you do?
It is already late night, and I promised my mom to be back at this time, so I won't attend the afterparty.
4. On the drive back, your friends are talking. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward reaction? What do you outwardly say?
I will disagree instantly. Outwardly, I won't say anything so that I wouldn't embarrass him. If the two of us are the only people in the car and we are really open to each other, I would say that I disagree in a non-offensive way.
5. What would you do if you actually saw/experienced something that clashes with your previous beliefs, experiences, and habits?
I would feel confused. I would think it over the whole night or probably days and ask other people how to explain my experience if terms of what I believe. If I find the explanation satisfying, I am okay. If not, the uncomfortable feeling stays until I can harmonize my beliefs with what I see/do. It is not easy for me to let go of my previous beliefs. (I am currently experiencing this confusion.)
6. What are some of your most important values? How did you come about determining them? How can they change?
I determined friendship as an important value after my high school and college experiences and saw how valuable relationships are. And how beautiful it is to love and be loved and to care for people important to us. It makes me happy to belong to a interdependent community that cares for each other and each one is part of each other. I disliked the world's norms of competitive, dog-eat-dog, and opportunistic society that is prevalent today. How I feel guilt when I feel that I am just using someone!
This probably will never change, as long as I have true friends by my side.
I have always contemplated on what is the true belief, the true religion. Up to now, I am still confused and I realized the cause of this confusion is that people long ago propagated many lies, hence the many beliefs. Also, people today get into trouble because of lies (fake products, fake doctors, fake treatments) so that I really hated it when big lies propagate the world.
My respect for truth will always be, though it is always challenge by the notion that there is no, single absolute truth. If I will believe the latter, then maybe my view of truth will change. Also, I am not an all honest person. I lie to my parent when I feel that restrictions are unreasonable and what I will be doing is necessary (such as school projects.) I lie when I feel that the authority is not using the power properly.
Respect of Freedom
I have always been under the pain of too much restrictions, being an only child. Hence, I have loved freedom and I do not want to impose control on other people.
This can change in emergency situations, such as when a groupmate is slacking or being impractical and we have no more time to motivate peacefully due to t
he coming deadline.
Coherence of Life (What I believe is in line with what I do.)
Ever since, I would love to have a coherent code of life to live by. It is a code I can always defend to others and will reflect in my lifestyle. It is a matching of coherent beliefs with a coherent lifestyle. It is doing what I love and believe in terms of career.
It feels good to have a coherent and consistent life, that is why I value it.
This will never change, I guess, unless I realize the impossibility of it.
7. a) What about your personality most distinguishes you from everyone else? b) If you could change one thing about you personality, what would it be? Why?
I do not know what makes me unique. Probably I am too contemplative for my age on certain matters such as God, philosophy, and life. I had been like this ever since I was a teenager. If I can change one thing, I like to be less uptight and more witty. This will help me in my dream to be a professor since funny professors usually get the students' attention. I also like to be more organize so that I will be less stressed and less likely to lose stuff.
8. How do you treat hunches or gut feelings? In what situations are they most often triggered?
I listen to gut feelings and verify them with external (sometimes irrational) signs, such as a verse from a Bible or a random advice from a friend.
They are mostly triggered during decision-making and life-planning. But I do not rely on them solely, my final decision should also be based on facts, practicality, and possibility and not just hunches.
9. a) What activities energize you most? b) What activities drain you most? Why?
The activities that energize me the most are writing, reading, or making reports on things I really know deep-down. Leisure activities with friends also do. I am drained with doing monotonous drudgery work because I feel no fulfillment for them. Small talk with acquaintances sometimes drain me too because it is hard to sustain a conversation with someone I do not know much.
10. What do you repress about your outward behavior or internal thought process when around others? Why?
I repress the resentment I feel towards a person I am talking with, since I know that what I feel will ultimately show outwardly and I don't want to burn bridges ruin my professional relationships by letting them know that they offend me sometimes.