(I put this in the enneagram thread too since it's more proper)
Hi! I asked what my enneagram type was on another forum and they said 7w6. Funnily enough, I've never tested as that-I get 9w1, 5w4 and 4w5. 7w6 is starting to jive, although it was a surprise since I'm an introvert and 7s are usually extroverts. Maybe you guys think differently-those other types fit too. But what I'm really curious to know is what my tritype is and my trifix! Maybe all those types fit in somehow.
1. What do you think your life is about? What drives you in life? This can be something like a goal or a purpose, or anything else that comes to mind.
What drives me? Exploring the new and uncanny. Eating foods from all over the globe, traveling to new places, meeting unique animals. Feeling the wind on my shoulders and just being at peace. The feeling of success, whether it's beating a quest in a video game or acing a test. Feeling immersed in another world, whether that of a video game or a book. Seeing the beauty of color, of nature, of animals.
My goals? Career-wise, I want to find something that combines my interests. I'm drawn to cooking because it combines travel, art, and helping others. I need to feel inspired! When I graduate college, I want to live a life of both comfort and adventure. Focusing on experiences over material goods. I want to live in a cozy house with lots of tea, animals, video games and books. I've been mentioning travel-it's my biggest dream! I'm just so interested in all the different cultures and environments! My top 5 destinations would be Japan, Iceland, New Zealand, Poland, and Morroco.
2. What were you like as a kid?
I was the kid playing with imaginary fairies at recess. My 3rd grade teacher wrote on my report card that I was too shy! I was dubbed the smartest kid in class in 4th grade and was known for my stories! I had encyclopedic knowledge of cats and countries and was the librarian's pet. My hobbies included arts and crafts and gaming. I liked making up my own characters, my own card games, and random inventions! As I got older, I actually grew more shy. I was still smart but my grades got ruined by daydreaming and anxiety/depression. It was hard to relate to anyone, although even if I did it was still hard to make friends. Was seen as quiet, smart, weird, and nerdy.
3. Describe your relationship with your parents. Does anything stand out about the way you interacted?
What stands out? Welp, constant fighting with my mom because she was an alcoholic. My dad and I were distant growing up, but hey, we're both introverts and he worked a lot. We get along well currently- we like to joke around and we see each other as a team. My stepmom and I get along well too-we like discussing new ideas and questions.
4. What values are important to you? What do you hope to avoid doing or being?
I try to keep a "I'll try anything once" attitude. I don't think I'm ready to go skydiving or anything, but yeah, it's mostly the examples in question one. Variety is the spice of life! I like to be different and unique, whether it's the clothes I wear or the foods I cook. I always try to accept others for their differences too-I root for the underdog! I. There's being helpful and generous-it contributes something to the world and makes people happy. Trying to better myself everyday, whether learning something new or improving my health. Why shouldn't I? Lastly, wasting not.
I hope I don't become someone without any drive, ambition or passion. I don't want to become an alcoholic like my mother. We're pretty sure it was because of her loneliness. I don't want to be lonely! Sure, I'm introverted, I like my alone time, but I'm already friendless and isolated from my family enough. I want to change that.
5. Aside from phobias, are there any fears that characterized your childhood? Have they continued into the present day, or not, and if not, how have you dealt with them?
Well, there was being painfully shy, which led to being scared of silly things like going up to get crayons, seeing people I knew at stores, or asking questions. I'm still shy and deal with these to a point, but it's gotten better overtime. If this counts as a fear, I was super indecisive! I'd be picking between two ice cream flavors, then after I choose one yearn for the other. Or someone would offer me to buy me something at the store. I'd debate how useful it was or how often I'd use but, but I'd usually cave in. Hard to say no. I'm still indecisive now, but I've improved! For something like an ice cream flavor, I try to pick the most unique one, keeping in mind I could probably get the other flavor next week. I guess it's really the fear of missing opportunity. Big decisions are still hard, but I guess they're hard for everyone. Saying no is still hard too-I just hate disappointing people.
6. a.) How do you see yourself?
A shy but adventurous lone wolf. Creative, very curious and open minded about an array of subjects. Has a calm and composed look but has feelings running deep(prone to anxiety, overthinking and depression). Gentle and tolerant towards other people. A mediator and peacekeeper. Secretive yet honest. Modest yet ambitious and competitive. Has a good sense of humor and is quietly excitable.
b.) How do you want others to see you?
As unique, smart, kind, creative and adventurous! Hopefully as an overall good person. I'm seen as the quiet and peaceful one, but I want to be more than that.
c.) What do you dislike the most in other people?
Close-mindedness, perviness, ungratefulness, and people thinking they're better than everyone else
7. Which habit do you most automatically act on? Rank the following habits from most to least automatic, on a scale of 1 (most) to 3 (least).
a.) Work for personal gain with more concern for self than for others.
b.) Strive for a sense of tranquility in yourself and the world around you
c.) Decide what is right for the betterment of something or someone else.
8. Where does the wandering mind take you? What provokes this?
Thinking back to old scenarios and playing out what I could have done diffferently, or imagining scenarios that settle those old conflicts. Deep thoughts about the future, like robots taking over. Asking random questions like, "When was this invented?", "When did this tradition begin?, "What was this like in the olden days?". Imagining myself in a music video. Making up episodes of a favorite show in my head. I do have a lot of anxiety, but either way I'm in my head a lot daydreaming.
9.What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?
Best: Crazy coffee drinks, watching a good movie, visiting new towns, making and viewing art, dancing to music, eating new foods, playing and winning games, cool weather, going to the fair, bookstores, bingewatching a good show, libraries, being with animals
Worst: Overstimuli, bad memories, being left out, lack of space(socially and physically), crowds, doing the same thing over and over, not being noticed for talents or being different, sports, failure
10. Let's talk about emotions. Explain what might make you feel the following, how they feel to you or how you react to the emotion:
Most of my anger is sheer annoyance, like when people talk too loudly, or being tense from anxiety. But my deeper rooted anger is evoked mostly by people manipulating me or hurting those close to me. Still, I don't really show it to others. In the rare occasion that I do, I'm passive aggresive. It's just not a emotion I really feel deeply. I mostly just isolate myself, tense up, pace around and play angry music.
Comes from crappy things I did in the past, which I dwell on a lot. Also comes from embarassing moments, failure, and letting others down. I become self deprecating and very anxious, especially about the past.
A common feeling. My anxiety is caused by chain reactions. I get anxious by something, and then my mind goes to a bunch of unrelated but anxiety-inducing scenarios. More specifically, I mostly get anxious from bad memories, loud noises, and new people. More isolation, pacing, and music. My mind races, I'll have trouble catching my breath and I get tics. I might cry; I cried like 20 times on the first day of college!
11. Describe how you respond to the following:
More music and pacing! I get tense and overreactive to stimuli. I might even cry a little. I distract myself with gaming, TV, something like that but will feel guilty about it and get even more stressed. I'll either drink coffee to motivate me or tea to calm me down.
b.) negative unexpected change
Disappointed! I was probably excited about something and it got cancelled! I'll mope around a little, but I'll get over it. Or, I'll be stubborn and make up silly excuses to stop something from happening.
If I hear conflict, I'm leaving. I feel empathy for the person being yelled at and therefore get upset. Sometimes I'm even more upset then they are. If I'm in conflict? I try to stay level headed and make compromises. I feel like I take too much crap and back down too much. At my best, I'm salty. I'm very forgiving. Luckily, I don't get into much conflict.
12. a.) What kind of role are you naturally inclined to take in a group? Why?
What kind of group? I'll picture this as a group project back in school. I'm probably not going to be a leader since I'm so introverted, unless I'm passionate enough about the topic. Group projects make me feel awkward and left out, so I'm probably going to take up a quiet, busy role like a writer.
b.) If put in power, how do you behave? Why?
Unlikely. But if so, I'd make sure people like they're treated fairly and that their strengths are played to. I'd hate to make them feel left out. I'm passionate and protective about my ideas, but I'm not going to shut out anyone else's.
c.) Do you tend to struggle with others who have authority over you? Why?
I mean, I'm pretty behaved. But they tend to make me feel like an imbecile. I feel like me being shy and sweet makes other people think I'm naive and don't know anything when I do. I hate it too when people deter my creative mojo(I'm thinking more teachers/professors here).
13. What do you see or notice in others that most people don't?
This might be vague, but I'm good at picking up other people's emotions and vibes. I remember this one time where I got bad vibes from a popular teachers' voice, and soon, he was arrested for domestic assault.
14. Comment on your relationship with trust.
Despite my go-with-the flow nature, I'm not too trusting deep down. Especially in social situations. I lived with my roommate for 4 months and by the end could barely make conversation with them. When invited to hang out with people, I assume I'm going to be ignored. If they invite me to sit with them, it'll take me awhile to feel comfortable sitting with them again, even if they're good people.
15. Briefly: What religious and/or political beliefs do you have? Do you think they influenced your responses in this questionnaire? Politics probably didn't influence much. I'm a democrat, but I don't care too much about politics. I'm more spiritual than religious-organized religion is ick. I want to develop my spirituality more so I can find inner peace-meditation is pretty nice.
There we go! By the way, my MBTI type is INFP. Feel free to ask more questions!