Help type this confused soul!

Help type this confused soul!

Hello Guest! Sign up to join the discussion below...
Page 1 of 2 1 2 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 11
Thank Tree9Thanks

This is a discussion on Help type this confused soul! within the What's my personality type? forums, part of the Personality Cafe category; ...

  1. #1
    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Help type this confused soul!

    Hi, I have been reading up on MBTI for a couple of months now but still have trouble figuring out my type.

    I understand it is difficult to type someone accurately over the net but I aim to answer everything as honestly as possible so if there are any questions, feel free to ask. ☺

    1.Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind.

    Just a bit tired but am confident enough to provide clear answers. Female, 19.

    2. Study these two images here and here. Which one do you prefer and why? How would you describe it?

    I prefer the first picture as I have always appreciated environments more compared to humans(for photos).

    I felt calm when I first saw the photo. The vastness of the sea and the sky reminded me of how big the world really is since I never had the opportunity to venture out much from my own country. I have also always wanted to see the northern lights because they are so pretty and too mystical to really exist. It almost seem like there must be something spiritual going on where the northern lights are.

    3. Please describe yourself as a person if you were to introduce yourself to someone else like in a cover letter . What kind of person are you and why?

    “I may seem withdrawn and quiet(& perhaps unfriendly) towards people I am not familiar with. Sorry if it seems like I dislike you but that’s not it. It’s because I am too shy. If we were to spend more time together, I would definitely warm up to you. You would see that within that cold persona lies a really bubbly and cheerful person, and you would probably forget that I was distant before.”

    4. What kind of person would you LIKE to be? Why? What kind of person would you NOT want to be? Why?


    I would like to have more self-confidence. I think I have too little faith in my own abilities. It’s because of this low self-esteem that I get envious of others all the time (someone that I don’t want to be). I want to learn to embrace who I am and what I have because out there in this world there are millions of people who are way less privileged than I am. It seems almost selfish and unfair to them to ask for more.

    5. Do you think there are any differences to how you described yourself and how people actually perceive you? How do you think others would describe you? If there are any discrepancies between these two that are you are aware of; do you know why exactly that is?

    I think people around me seem to think I am naļve, too trusting or too nice.

    While I in general do like to believe the best in others and try to be as nice as possible, it does not mean that I am not aware of their intentions. I just do not show it out of fear of destroying the relationships. It is really difficult to get on my bad side because I forgive and forget easily. However, deep down there is still a line that they must never cross.

    6. What in life do you find to be of importance? Why? If you are unsure you can always take the Value Test and post the results here. Do note that it helps if you narrow it down to 20 or ideally 10 values as suggested at stage 2.


    I value creativity, wisdom, love and loyalty.

    7. How do you react to new situations in your life? Can you describe an event in your life where you were in an unknown situation? How did you deal with it?


    I react to such situations in two different extremes.

    Sometimes I get really excited but often times I feel like running away.

    I was appointed a leader during one of my most vital assignments last year. It was one of the most stressful moments in my life because I had to carry a huge load of responsibilities on my shoulders. I was never the leader sort of person. It became so overwhelming for me that I had difficulties maintaining my composure throughout and had small outbursts time to time.

    It didn’t help when some of my group members were not as committed and didn’t fulfill their tasks on time. As much as I was seething inside I couldn’t bring myself to scold them because we were friends. I felt like a hypocrite when I told them it was ‘okay’ but complained to my close friend behind their backs. It was a terrible experience and I told myself unless absolutely necessary, I never want to spearhead a vital project like that ever again.

    8. Please describe yourself when you are in a stressful situation. How do you act and why? Real life experiences are welcome.


    When I am stressed, I become pessimistic and I lose touch of my creativity. I get frustrated with myself and blame/take it out on others around me (irrationally). I will also obsess over tiny details and become more prone to outbursts.

    Basically, don’t talk or touch me when I am stressed unless you want to get screamed at.

    9. Please describe yourself when you are in an enjoyable situation. How do you act and why? Real life experiences are welcome.

    I can become talkative and start cracking lots of silly jokes. To only a selective few of course. I can’t think of any particular experience but I would say that situations like that only exist when there is no pressure. It would feel like I am floating in the air, my mind free of troubles.

    10. Describe your relationship to socialization. How do you perceive one-on-one interaction? How do you perceive group interaction?

    I have never really enjoyed socializing. I was never the kind to approach and greet strangers but I do not mind if they approach me.

    I love one-on-one interactions. You get to have deeper and meaningful conversations than group interactions. You also get to understand the other party better. Group interactions (about 4-6) are good too if you want to discuss about ideas so you get to hear a variety of opinions. I love to hear about how others think so I often ask for other’s opinions on various topics. Till this day, it never fails to amaze me how different everyone’s point of view can be.

    11. Describe your relationship to society. What are the elements of it you hold important or unimportant (e.g. social norms, values, customs, traditions)? How do you see people as a whole?


    I do not adhere to traditions very much. I don’t like them but I don’t dislike them either. I try to remember my friends’ birthdays but I dread buying presents for them because I don’t really know what to get for them and I am too lazy. I do that sometimes because I have friends who get hurt or upset but usually I try to avoid it if I can.

    I appreciate and value social politeness.

    12. Describe your relationship to authority. How do you perceive authority? What does it mean to you, and how do you deal with it?

    I don’t have much opinion regarding authority but I do think that authority is important to maintain order. Apart from that, having authority does not always mean that the person is right and sometimes people misuse it to force their opinions on others. It’s a love and hate relationship, really.

    I do not usually challenge authority unless I obviously know they are wrong. I won’t be upfront about it but you will catch hints of it if you were observant enough.

    13. Describe your relationship to order and chaos. What do order and chaos mean to you? How do they manifest in your daily life?

    Order to me can mean two things: structured or justice. I highly value justice.

    I also experience chaos every single day. My mind is full of it, for example. My thoughts are all over the place, always disjointed. When I try to share ideas or talk, I jump all over the place so sometimes people get confused.

    My belongings are messy as well. Well, messy in an organized way if you know what I mean. I never bothered to arrange my things because it's such a chore. I like my things to be clean though.

    14. What is it that you fear in life? Why? How does this fear manifest to you both in how you think and how you act?

    I fear being outcasted and hated by everyone. I can’t imagine how I would survive being alone and unloved. I am also afraid to show my true nature to others. That’s why I often repress my negative feelings towards others (not to family but friends). It’s really unhealthy though and weighs like a stone in my heart.

    15. What is it that you desire in life? What do you strive to achieve? Why? Where do you think these drives and desires stem from or are inspired by?

    I wish to fulfill my lifelong dream as an artist. I unfortunately live in a practical country and it can be really challenging. I believe the desire to be successful was further invoked by how the older people around me (luckily my parents were supportive) were opposed to the idea of me being an artist, claiming that there was no future in it. It makes me want to prove them wrong so badly. I never believed in investing our lives into something we have no passion for. I have heard of parents who have forced their children to do something they are not interested in and I am utterly disgusted by it.

    16. a) What activities energize you most?


    Reading fiction, drawing, cracking jokes, staying at home, watching movies, sleeping, browsing the net & traveling overseas.

    b) What activities drain you most? Why?

    Rushing work to meet deadlines, hanging out with big group of people(>6), studying(things I am not interested in), traveling long distances and memorizing things.

    I cannot function well under pressure.

    17. Why do you want to know your type? What type do you think you are? Why this/these type(s)? Is there a type that appeals to you, to your self-perception, that you would like to be? Why? If you know your enneagram, please post this here. If you have done any online function tests such as the Keys2Cognition, it helps if you post these results here as well.


    I would like to understand about my own strengths and weaknesses so that I know how to improve them. I have a few types in mind, but want to avoid mentioning it so that you guys don’t get stuck with what I have.

    18. Finally, is there something else you find to be of importance you want to add about yourself you think might be of relevance when helping to type you?

    If it helps, I have bad memory (my childhood memories are fuzzy) and am oblivious towards my immediate surroundings. I am more observant of people’s feelings though. I can tell a person’s mood easily. I am also very sensitive and emotional but not sentimental. It’s way easier for me to let go of possessions than relationships though. I am also very reflective.

    Thanks for reading and any comment, long or short, will be really helpful to me! I am open to all types so please feel free to tell/ask me about anything! ☺
    Eudaimonia thanked this post.



  2. #2
    Unknown Personality

    I'm far from a professional, but you definitely sound like an extroverted feeler to me. I'm not very experienced but your lack of belief in practicality could suggest you're more inclined to use intuition. Maybe someone more experienced could help you out.

  3. #3
    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    I suspected that I was an extroverted feeler earlier but got confused as I delved deeper into cognitive functions but thanks for clearing it up! I am not very sure about the intuitive part cause I don't have a very good grasp of both intuitive and sensing functions. :)
    Inkblood thanked this post.

  4. Remove Advertisements
    PersonalityCafe.com
    Advertisements
     

  5. #4
    INFJ - The Protectors

    @LeFrozt , I agree with your being an extroverted feeler. How do you feel about ESFJ, ISFJ, ENFJ, INFJ?
    Among these types, I've found that XSFJs are more concerned with being practical, so I'd suggest XNFJ. You also wrote that you don't remember many childhood memories and are not that observant of your environment, which to me sounds like tertiary or inferior Se.
    And haha, this one is kind of out there, but I once read that the idea of really not wanting to study something you are uninterested in is associated with INXJs.
    I'd guess INFJ because you describe yourself as being quiet around people you are not familiar with (plus I identify with a lot of what you wrote above, and I'm INFJ). But you might very well be a more reserved ENFJ.
    LeFrozt thanked this post.

  6. #5
    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    I thought I was an ENFJ once but thought that I probably didn't even have Se in my stack so I dropped the idea. So if no Se, then Si right? Your response got me thinking a little bit since I haven't read up on inferior Se before. I was pretty introverted when I was younger but only grew more extroverted these few years which led me to suspect that my auxiliary extroverted function probably started developing since then. But there is a possibility of me being a reserved extrovert too since I never felt happy being alone too long but can be tired hanging out with people as well. It's not like I am fond of meeting new people though, I prefer hanging out with the same group of close friends. Unless I grow close and comfortable to a person, it can be difficult for me to open up. It wouldn't take too long though.

    Was just wondering if you spotted any Ni statements in my post? I heard Si and Ni function in the same way that they get gut feelings about things. Also, isn't decisiveness a trait of Ni? Problem is, I am not a decisive person. It's cause I know clearly the good and bad things that come with every decision so I have a hard time deciding things and usually ask for a second or third opinion. Or is that trait just a stereotype?

    My thoughts don't usually center around the past, present or the future... it's just about random things eg. feelings, my interests...etc. I can't really explain or actually remember. Haha so that's why I can't wrap my head around which MBTI type fits me the most. Or maybe I am just untypable.

  7. #6
    INFP - The Idealists

    have you ever thought that you might be an ENFP? This is based off of VERY little evidence, but ENFPs are kind of all over the place, scatterbrained, fun, bubbly.... Have you taken the Myers Briggs test? If not, you should. Easiest way to find out your type.
    LeFrozt thanked this post.

  8. #7
    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Well if it had been as simple as taking the test this sub forum wouldn't have existed :D

    ENFP eh... Ne-Fi-Te-Si... well it's not very likely if I am an extroverted feeler right? I think I have pretty developed Fi too, but I relate to Fe more. I identify with the scatterbrained qualities though. Ne causes one to want to explore different things, bouncing from one thing to another because it makes its user lose interest quickly. I am a little like that but not to that extent I guess. Thanks anyway :)

  9. #8
    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by LeFrozt View Post
    Was just wondering if you spotted any Ni statements in my post?
    Totally my subjective opinion, but here are a few statements that seem indicative of Ni:

    Quote Originally Posted by LeFrozt View Post
    The vastness of the sea and the sky reminded me of how big the world really is since I never had the opportunity to venture out much from my own country… It almost seem like there must be something spiritual going on where the northern lights are.
    Ni is big-picture, looking at larger themes, trying to find the underlying meaning of something… The source or essence, if you will...

    Quote Originally Posted by LeFrozt View Post
    You would see that within that cold persona lies a really bubbly and cheerful person, and you would probably forget that I was distant before.
    I do not usually challenge authority unless I obviously know they are wrong. I won’t be upfront about it but you will catch hints of it if you were observant enough.
    The idea of seeing 'the truth' about someone & expecting others to also see it suggests Ni dom/aux to me.

    Quote Originally Posted by LeFrozt View Post
    I would like to have more self-confidence. I think I have too little faith in my own abilities. It’s because of this low self-esteem that I get envious of others all the time (someone that I don’t want to be).
    This isn't a Ni thing in particular, but it seems like you know yourself very well. Ni users have a good sense of their strengths and flaws because they are capable of honing in on the 'main points' about something/ someone.

    Here are some more, mainly for the above reasons. Having a very clear understanding of something, hoping to attain a singular goal, etc.
    Quote Originally Posted by LeFrozt View Post
    I love one-on-one interactions. You get to have deeper and meaningful conversations than group interactions. You also get to understand the other party better.
    I do that sometimes because I have friends who get hurt or upset but usually I try to avoid it if I can.
    I wish to fulfill my lifelong dream as an artist.
    I never believed in investing our lives into something we have no passion for.
    I would like to understand about my own strengths and weaknesses so that I know how to improve them.
    I have a few types in mind, but want to avoid mentioning it so that you guys don’t get stuck with what I have.
    Quote Originally Posted by LeFrozt View Post
    I heard Si and Ni function in the same way that they get gut feelings about things. Also, isn't decisiveness a trait of Ni? Problem is, I am not a decisive person. It's cause I know clearly the good and bad things that come with every decision so I have a hard time deciding things and usually ask for a second or third opinion. Or is that trait just a stereotype?
    I have a friend who is ISTJ (Si-dom), and she gets gut feelings about things in the sense that she is able to directly associate something in present reality with something that happened in the past… And compare the present scenario with the past one in order to make a decision.
    Ni is associated with decisiveness in the sense that Ni-users often have a clear idea of the outcomes of each possible decision, so they ought to know which one to pick. Unfortunately, real life is not so easy! :P Here's a link to an article about mbti 'loops:' https://personalitycafe.com/articles/...disorders.html
    They're supposed to be pretty accurate descriptors of what different types are like under stress. What you wrote reminds me of Ni-Ti (then again, everything reminds me of Ni-Ti, so take it with a grain of salt XD).

    Hope this helps!
    LeFrozt thanked this post.

  10. #9
    INFJ - The Protectors

    You seem like a very intelligent ISFJ with very balanced rounded view of the world and practical approach to bringing application to fruition.

    Fe seems very high. I can see why you may have thought you were an ENFJ, but you do seem too much of an introvert according to your descriptions.

    Your spirituality could be stemmed from the combination of Fe with Si.

    The way you listen and take careful consideration what people say and think along with delving deeper into the subject matter shows a well developed Ti with its possible open endedness to allow for more ideas to seep in which could be indicative of Ne.

    Being that you are 19 too... it makes it that much harder to know for certain.
    LeFrozt thanked this post.

  11. #10
    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    @BakerStreet
    Interesting points you pointed out there. I would never have thought that those are indicators of Ni. I agree with the aspect of knowing myself very well though because I self-reflect a lot. I guess that's pretty common for introverts right?

    I know my strengths and weaknesses pretty well but somehow feel that there are still some things that I can't quite figure out just yet. I guess while I do know myself pretty well, I still don't understand the core of my own personality. What I know about myself could probably be just the surface or may not be entirely true either. Who knows? :) Maybe that's why I can't quite figure out my own dominant function, even though its suppose to be really really obvious.

    I get gut feelings about things too but not really necessarily linking it to the past although I do that sometimes. However I can say that I am able to picture outcomes of decisions pretty well so it could be a contributing factor to my indecisiveness.

    I don't relate a lot to the loops I guess but I would say I can become really panicky and anxious when I am stressed. Doesn't really help much since any type can feel this way. However, I must say that the Avoidant Personality Disorder fits my INFP friend to a tee even though it isn't as bad. I even showed this to her and she agreed with it. Haha :)

    I will research more about cognitive functions of INFJ and see how it goes! And yes it did help a lot, thanks! If there's anything else you would like to ask or confirm about, I am more than happy to answer!

    @Eudaimonia
    ISFJ sounds about legit too. I have read up on Si though but couldn't really identify myself with it. Actually, it's not just Si but others as well. I think whatever my dominant function is has become so second nature to me that I can't see it in myself. But yes, I identify a lot with Fe like you said, although most likely an aux.

    Since Se focuses heavily on its physical environment, it tends to really observant right? For an Se-dom/aux I mean. I am a really oblivious person, usually to my surroundings as well as people. For an example, I have never noticed my pillow cover was blue and always thought it was purple until many years later. I know it sounds absurd! I also don't usually notice whenever there are new changes in my environment, even if it's my home unless of course it's something really huge or noticeable.

    I am only observant towards people's(whom I am interacting or close with) emotions but I guess it would still make sense for Si though since its introverted, meaning its focus is on its user's body sensations. So now I am even more confused.

    EDIT: Is it normal for Si to have vivid memories of the past? I have really unclear memories of the past, even if it may be just yesterday or a really enjoyable event. I will only just remember the experience as fun, tiring, sad, boring...etc or probably maybe not at all. Of course, people with other types can have really good long & short term memory as well. It could be that I just have a particularly poor memory. I think it's because of that I am rarely sentimental or nostalgic.

    It would be great if an Si-dom/aux chips in and give his/her take on this. All those traits of Si I mentioned could just be a stereotype.

    Oh, and I do think I use Ti too though :)
    Eudaimonia thanked this post.


     
Page 1 of 2 1 2 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 2
    Last Post: 06-22-2013, 11:01 PM
  2. A little help for this confused soul!!
    By Kitkatsunshine in forum What's my personality type?
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 02-18-2013, 03:47 AM
  3. Yet Another Confused Soul
    By emibee in forum What's my Enneagram type?
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 09-19-2012, 06:22 AM
  4. Yet another confused soul posting. Help is appreciated.
    By anothernight in forum What's my personality type?
    Replies: 18
    Last Post: 08-16-2012, 02:17 PM
  5. Another confused soul! WHAT AM I
    By moonrube in forum What's my personality type?
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 05-15-2012, 02:27 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
All times are GMT -7. The time now is 11:30 PM.
Information provided on the site is meant to complement and not replace any advice or information from a health professional.
© 2014 PersonalityCafe
 

SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0