As the title suggests I'm trying to figure out whether I'm infp or infj. I'm not really looking to be told my type so much as being told why I'm that type. I can go find an online test that will tell me a type and it will be wrong. I know it's wrong because I get different answers when I do.
Ok a little background:
A month ago I had no idea about anything typology related, since then I have read a book and some online things about it, taken online tests in which I typically come out as INT*, but I have come up as about as many different types as there are. Up till a few days ago I was convinced that I was INFP to the point that I argued it to someone who thought I was ENFP. The problem is that I've noticed um... discrepencies, between me and INFP, and that I seem to have things in common with INFJ that an INFP would not, although I'm still very unsure of the differences. When I look at the differences bw INFP/INFJ I tend to find that I seem to have a lot of characteristics of both.
I'm not really sure what's relevant to this or not. Ask me whatever you want to figure it out.
I'm about the most disorganized person you'll meet, my car is a mobile closet. I tend to live in the future more than the present. I do like to predict things, but I also like experiencing new and unusual things. I love hearing others point of views on things, and do try to see things from other people's perspectives. I've been called both muleheaded and a pushover. I tend to avoid conflict when I can, but don't really have a problem with it once I'm actually in it and easily get carried away with it.
Since I know that a person's perspective can cloud what they are by biasing what they say towards a type they want here's the direct qoutes of my platoon tac from LDAC (I'm in ROTC). It's the only objective view I can find at the moment:
"A marginally average leader; quiet and reserved when following and in leadership; general attitude can be perceived as lacking initiative and motivation"
"Great planner; thoroughly thinks through all possible courses of action and chooses the best one; possesses a firm grasp of the OPORD format and how to utilize it to produce effective plans"
"Very analytical and logical mind; takes the time to fully analyze a situation and make informed decisions; deliberate decision making process and hinder him in situations that require quick action"
"Very quiet and reserved; lacks a strong command presence and sometimes takes a back seat in tough situations when stronger personalities try to take control"
"Has the ability to succeed as an Army Officer given proper mentorship and coaching"
I got interested in type to help me understand other people to better motivate them, predict how they'll act in situations, and how to get my point of view across to them the best way I can.
I'm mostly trying to figure out what type I am so I can better anticipate how I'll react to situations and what
strengths and weaknesses I have.
I'm trying to be convinced of what type I am, if all you're gonna do is say "you're type xxxx" thanks, but don't bother.
Ask me whatever you need to, I don't know what is or isn't relevant
Don't worry about upsetting me, if you do manage to, I'll get over it
If it seems like I'm arguing with you (which I prolly will) I'm likely just trying to better convince myself, don't take it personally but let me know if I offend you.
If you made it this far, thanks for the interest and help, I deeply appreciate it.