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#1 ·
Hi guys! So I need a little help here finding my type, I´ve taken tests thousands of times and I always get different results, I tried to understand the functions but I think it´s impossible for me to type me myself because I´m not being objective, so I came here to find objective opinions from people who have a much better understanding of MBTI. If you´re bored and feel like reading a lot then go ahead and feel free to comment whatever you think! (And if you can point out what functions you see in what I wrote that would also help a lot) What I do know is that there´s no way in hell I´m an ESTJ/ENTJ/ISTJ/INTJ.... probably. Also sorry for any grammar mistakes since english is not my native language! Alright here we go:

-First of all I have social anxiety, it really isn´t THAT bad, it could be a lot worse. I just get irrationally nervous when meeting new people or when I´m introduced to new situations which involve new people, also when I don´t know what to expect in different situations it makes me really anxious. This started to happen to me I think 3 years ago so it wasn´t always like this. Since I have this problem it´s difficult to tell how I actually am in new situations I mean, if I didn´t have that irrational anxiety I´d probably act totally different, more freely.

-I usually take a more rational and logical approach to life, I try to not complicate myself and just let things be and accept everything as it is but I can´t help questioning everything at the same time, and I have a very hard time dealing with things that just doesn´t make sense to me, my social anxiety which I find completely irrational, for example. I´d often think 'there´s no reason for me to feel this way this makes no sense' and things like that, I just rationalize my feelings a lot in general, I analyze my emotions and try to understand WHY I feel the way I do and if I can´t find an answer I get frustrated.

-I´m very people oriented even when I try not to be, I love to start new things (though it´s also complicated and hard because anxiety) and one of the things that excites me the most about it it´s the new people I´m going to meet, so when I start to take new classes instead of focusing on learning I focus more on people, if there isn´t good people to share the experience with me then that just takes the 70% of the fun.

-I´ve always had a huge need to communicate, to say what I think and to discuss things and share opinions and stuff. My way of communicating is kind of spontaneous... I don´t think what I´m going to say, I prefer to just say it and think later, same with decisions, I don´t like to spend a lot of time thinking and going back and forward, I prefer to just decide and move on, I don´t have a lot of patience...
I rely on my ability to improvise 110%, it has got to a point in which is blind optimism more than anything. I´d have to study for a math test and I´d think 'I´m sure I´ll find a way of dealing with this tomorrow' and I´d manage. I ended up graduating from high school I´m not even sure how

-I push my limits a little too much, I always leave everything for the last minute, I´d not study and see how far I could go without doing it, I´d not go to school and see how far I could get away with that, etc. If I didn´t feel like what I had to study wouldn´t apport me anything I considered important, then I´d just cheat and get away with it without feeling remorse and things like that... yep. I just can´t do something that doesn´t interest me or motivate me even if it will reward me in the future, instant gratification is more important and it complicates my life sometimes

-I´m independent, I only ask for help when I REALLY need it, when I just can´t figure something out myself. Small talk bores the hell out of me, I don´t have time for that... I can only stand it if it comes from close friends. I love to talk, if I´m talking it means I´m in a good mood, but I can also be really quiet, especially in new situations when I don´t know how to react or how to adapt myself to that environment yet. I can be very observing.

-I´m very good at reading and understanding peoples emotions and where they´re coming from. I´m also very good at understanding group dynamics, even if I´m not interested in being part of it, I just pay attention to those things. People's moods around me influence me a lot, if my friends are in a bad mood I just can´t be in a good mood. When I see someone crying in a movie my eyes immediately fills with water, don´t know what´s up with that. Same thing if they´re laughing, movies can influence my mood as well.
Recently I found out that I can understand my feelings so much better if I talk about them instead of just trying to analyze them in my head

-I don´t like to read much but sometimes I find something that really interests me and I literally OBSESS over that thing, it can also be a series, etc. I can spend some time alone as long as I´m entertained, doing something, if I start to feel bored I feel very anxious. And if I spend too much time on my own I start to feel sad and anxious (I´m not sure if this is even normal, I may really need a psychologist like, right now)
I don´t sleep much because I have this extreme necessity to live and not waste my days

-The only thing I really want from life is to just... experience it and learn and grow as a person, I´d happily spend the rest of my days travelling around the world with people I like, because I think that experiences develops in learning something and growing. So I just want to see the world and what it has to offer. The idea of spending my life working in a office always with the same routine, without the chance to do something different, makes me feel incredibly anxious.



Okay that´s enough I think! If someone actually has the patience to read all of this: THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU´RE AMAZING
 
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#2 ·
What is your complete name? I can see yourselves through your complete name. Tell your complete name. PM me :)

I will tell you shortly.

Since i have no ability to put the link (yet). You can refer this issue to my thread. Try searching with these keywords: "The Power of Name & The Four Temperaments". It was placed on "Personality Test Resources".
 
#3 ·
It's hard for me to say without more information, but I'll give it a shot. Even though you have social anxiety, you sound like you're an extrovert. You keep talking about experiencing things, which makes me think you use Se (so you would also use Ni). Your tendency to analyze your feelings, which you don't understand, sounds like a combination of Ti and Fe. You also said that you naturally empathize with others, which also sounds like Fe. Basically, if I'm interpreting this right, your cognitive functions match that of an ESTP. I could be wrong though.
 
#5 ·
Hi guys thanks for your answers! I just read some ESTPs descriptions but maybe it´s just that the way ESTPs (and all the other types) are represented it´s based only on stereotypes... because I always find it hard to relate to those descriptions. Can I still be an ESTP while not being a party animal and obsessed with adrenaline in general? I MAY be an ESTP but not as extreme as that.
And about the functions I always suspected I was a Se user, not sure if it´s my dominant function but it was there, I´m not sure about what function may be my dominant because I always thought that it probably would be so natural in me that I´m not even aware I use it so I´m confused about that

Anyways I filled a questionnaire to give more information:

0. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind.

Nope, I´m okay right now. I´m female and I´m 19

1. Click on this link: Flickr: Explore! Look at the random photo for about 30 seconds. Copy and paste it here, and write about your impression of it.

flickr.com/photos/bruce-hood/15786955462/in/explore-2014-11-13

Okay the landscape it´s beautiful, I love the colors and the warm feeling I get from the picture but what the hell is an electric guitar doing there. It probably has some abstract concept but it ruins it a little for me because I feel like it´s completely out of place and I doesn´t let me appreciate the rest of the photograph.

2. You are with a group of people in a car, heading to a different town to see your favourite band/artist/musician. Suddenly, the car breaks down for an unknown reason in the middle of nowhere. What are your initial thoughts? What are your outward reactions?


If I´m going to see my favourite band I´d be in a very good mood so it wouldn´t piss me off as it´d be if it was in a different context. At first I´d be like 'damn, okay, what happened, what´s wrong' and I´d remain calm since getting nervous won´t help at all and just focus on finding a solution to the problem as fast as possible. If we spend like two hours trying to fix it then I WILL start to get nervous and think of all the possibilites we have left

3. You somehow make it to the concert. The driver wants to go to the afterparty that was announced (and assure you they won't drink so they can drive back later). How do you feel about this party? What do you do?

I guess this people are my actual friends because I wouldn´t go to another town in a car with strangers.... probably not.
I trust my friend and I´d be very excited to go to the afterparty since a) in those kinds of partys the members of the band are there or something like that b) I do enjoy partys, I like to lose myself in the crowd, but I get bored easily and leave like 2/3 hours later though

4. On the drive back, your friends are talking. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward reaction? What do you outwardly say?

I don´t believe in anything too strongly so... it wouldn´t really bother me. I´d discuss it just for the sake of it since I enjoy this kind of talks and discussing things in general and knowing how other people see things but that´s it because there´s actually no point in discussing it, we are all different and we have all experienced different things that led us to believe what we believe and to think what we think about life. I´d also try to explain my point of view so he/she can also understand that there are other ways to see it

5. What would you do if you actually saw/experienced something that clashes with your previous beliefs, experiences, and habits?


I´d be completely shocked for a while, then I´d try to process it, then I´d try to adapt and keep on living my life while having this experience integrated in me (I don´t know if this makes sense sorry my english is not working!)

6. What are some of your most important values? How did you come about determining them? How can they change?

AHHHHH damn it this one´s hard. I actually asked a close friend about this one, I never really gave it a thought, I´m bad at introspection sorry guys! Well she said: loyalty, honesty, sense of humor (is this even a value), confidence, happiness, justice, fairness, open-mindness, wisdom and free-will, I thought it was pretty accurate so uhm yeah. I don´t think they can ever change I mean I consider them to be really basic, maybe if starting from now I experience a lot of extreme situations that leave me badly scarred it´ll probably make me change the way I see things and what I consider most important in life and in people

7. a) What about your personality most distinguishes you from everyone else? b) If you could change one thing about you personality, what would it be? Why?

a) I have my own way of doing things, I follow my own ''''moral''' compass, though I´m not sure if it´s ''''moral''' because I just do whatever I think makes more sense to me, so I think it´s something more logical than 'moral'.

b) My social anxiety it´s fucking everything up even though I don´t count it as a part of my personality. Also I´d like to be more future oriented, I live too much for instant gratification and it´s important in life to sacrifice things in the present to have a better future. I´d like to be better at dealing with routines and mundane tasks and I´d like to stop being so self conscious and people-oriented (sometimes)

8. How do you treat hunches or gut feelings? In what situations are they most often triggered?


I trust them a lot, if I´m under stress I just don´t give a thought to anything and go with my gut feeling

9. a) What activities energize you most? b) What activities drain you most? Why?

a) Doing something fun aka: going out and doing something different everytime, talking with friends about interesting things, talking with friends in general, watching scary movies, dancing, painting, drawing, finding something interesting to learn, obsessing over books/series/something I find interesting, listening to music, finding new music, meeting new people I find interesting, starting something new (though as I said before, it´s very difficult for me because my anxiety, but even so, I really appreciate the experience), getting what I want or what I expected, etc

b) mundane tasks, routine, having to deal with things that doesn´t interest me at all, being bored, stressful situations caused by my anxiety, etc

10. What do you repress about your outward behavior or internal thought process when around others? Why?

Probably my gut feelings since I can´t even explain them to begin with, and I think in general giving explanations to people of why I do/did something, I hate having to explain myself to other people so I never do or I try to avoid it as much as I can.
Also in new situations I repress myself in general a lot, this could be because of my anxiety but I´m not sure. I observe at first, try to adapt myself to the environment, I gradually start to warm up and opening up. This surprise people a lot because the first impression they have of me is that I´m quite but then they find out I´m actually very loud and expressive


Well this surely took a lot of time, I hope it helps!!!
 
#6 ·
Hi guys thanks for your answers! I just read some ESTPs descriptions but maybe it´s just that the way ESTPs (and all the other types) are represented it´s based only on stereotypes... because I always find it hard to relate to those descriptions. Can I still be an ESTP while not being a party animal and obsessed with adrenaline in general? I MAY be an ESTP but not as extreme as that.
Nobody id going to identify 100% with any of the stereotypes. Type is more about what cognitive functions you use. Besides, I think that having Ti as an auxiliary function keeps the dominant function in check a little. For example, both ENTPs and ENFPs have Ne as their dominant function, but ENTPs have Ti as their auxiliary, so typically their Ne isn't as expressed as much as ENFPs' Ne.

And about the functions I always suspected I was a Se user, not sure if it´s my dominant function but it was there, I´m not sure about what function may be my dominant because I always thought that it probably would be so natural in me that I´m not even aware I use it so I´m confused about that
There's a thread about this that might help you: http://personalitycafe.com/cognitive-functions/383642-blindness-your-dominant-function.html

Anyway, based on the questionnaire I still say you're probably an ESTP because it sounds like your cognitive functions match up.
 
#7 ·
I find myself to be maybe more emotional than normal ESTPs...? Like I react very emotionally and I´m very expressive and open about my feelings and I need to talk about them in order to understand them, so I started to think I´m an F, maybe an ESFP, but I use a lot of Fe instead of Fi, so it wouldn´t make sense.
And then I thought that maybe since my thinking function is introverted, then it wouldn´t show in my outward behavior, but since Fe is extroverted it does show, so I seem like a very expressive, in-the-moment person, but I do analyze things a lot and I´m actually very rational and a no-nonsense type of person, am I making sense? If this does make sense then I´m pretty sure I could be an ESTP! (a more relaxed and calmer kind of ESTP though)
 
#8 ·
That does make sense. Being emotional from time to time doesn't make someone a Feeler. It's more about how you make decisions. If you usually make decisions based on logic and reason rather than emotions, you're probably a Thinker. Besides, Thinkers sometimes do have strong emotions, but they don't always act on them. It's better to express your emotions and deal with them in a healthy way than to bottle them up and try to ignore them.

Fe in general does tend to be more outwardly expressive than Fi. From what I've read, it seems than Fe users are more expressive of emotions but somewhat detached, whereas Fi users are more private about their feelings but their feelings are more closely tied to their sense of identity (I think).

Maybe you're so calm because your Ti is well-developed.
 
#9 ·
It could be! Even if I´m very expressive with my emotions people in general still find me to be more logic oriented, especially people who knows me well

Oh and I looked up the thread you linked before and it helped me to have a better idea of my dominant function, I´m leaning towards Se because I always saw it as such a basic function, I even found it hard to understand how people can not use Se, I don´t have to consciously make an effort to be aware of my surroundings, it just happens, and based on that I automatically start analyzing everything around me, which makes me think I use my Ti through my Se a lot, like what I analyze in my head has to do with the present moment, the current situation I´m in, I analyze my surroundings and the people in it, etc, so yep at least on terms of cognitive functions ESTP is pretty accurate for me! though not that much if we base it on stereotypes
 
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