Im completely sure Im an 8 sx/x (I think with a 7 wing), but I got this tritype on a test and I'm not sure about it: 8w7, 5w6, 3w2. So please give me your opinions!
What age range are you in?
Any disorders or conditions we should know about?
1. What do you think your life is about? What drives you in life? This can be something like a goal or a purpose, or anything else that comes to mind.
I don’t know what life is about, sometimes I overthink about humanity and why we are here, what will happen, etc. I don’t know what life is about but I know how to survive and move around here in the world, I’m kind of realistic. So if I had to say, I’d say life is about surviving, about keeping you and the ones you care about safe and also about enjoying the physical things: sex, having a few but very close relationships, food, things you like. I think life is about living, about being completely human, about trying everything and being passionate with the things you tried and liked, and keep doing it without caring about what others think about it.
2. What were you like as a kid?
I was temperamental and bossy to everyone, my dad, my mom, my little brother and others (but really respectful with other adults), I knew what I wanted and I was going to get it no matter what. I didn’t cried, I hated crying, when I got my leg injured or something like that I tried not to cry so bad. I didn’t want to feel vulnerable. I also asked Why? Why? a lot. I had excellent marks at school, I loved reading (I asked my mom to teach me when I was 3) and learning new things. I was strongly independent.
When I was 4 I moved with my parents to a new country because of economic reasons, I hated them for a long time because I couldn’t see my grandparents, my cousins, the rest of the family. I missed my home and felt betrayed by my own parents. The good thing was that my fav aunt lived here too. For that reason and I had to become responsible, I grew up very quickly, I had to take care of my 2 years old brother since I was 4 (my dad was sleeping next to us because he worked all day and all night, so we were not alone at all), when I was 6 we stayed at home alone for hours without any of my parents. I was like my brother second mother. I had a little cousin and I was very protective to her too, I took care of her everytday and I was just 8.
I was very protective and decisive. In my class there was a girl who wanted to control the other girls and she even threatens us, all the other kids let her control them but I didn’t. For a whole year no girl in my class would talk to me (I was 8 years old) but I did not surrender (the teacher told my parents she was impressed) and at the end almost all the other girls followed me.
When I was 10 my aunt and my cousin moved on and left the country, so I felt betrayed again.
I did never talked about my feelings, and when I was 13 I became really unhealthy and went through an emo phase, I wouldn’t talk to nobody, only to “my one and only best friend who understood me perfectly”(I used to say that), my parents were truly worried. I just didn’t care about anything. This phase lasted a year.
3. Describe your relationship with your parents. Does anything stand out about the way you interacted?
We have a good relationship. With my mother I get on well a lot, we do mother and daughter things, etc. But with my dad we make everything too extreme (since I was 6 to when I was 16 we did not get really on well, we were always arguing because we have similar personalities), we shout each other or we are the best friends you’ll ever seen, I feel I have a special connection with him, I’m his little girl and he is my dad, our relationship is getting better now that I’m growing up and I want it to get even better. He understands me deeply, but my mom is sweet and caring and I love her too. I think dad and I have a more intense relationship, and with my mother I have a more monotonous relation, she is a calm sea, and my dad is a storm.
4. What values are important to you? What do you hope to avoid doing or being?
Honesty, loyalty and to stay true to yourself.
I avoid lying and faking, I never do those things and hope I never will.
5. Aside from phobias, are there any fears that characterized your childhood? Have they continued into the present day, or not, and if not, how have you dealt with them?
As I said, my biggest fear is appearing vulnerable, it started when I was very little and it has continued into the present day. But now I can show my vulnerability to some people, only my closest friends but never my parents, I don’t know why because I know they would protect me and give me good advice, but I just can’t be vulnerable in front of them. If I do it I feel ashamed for one or two months.
Another big fear is that some person I love betrays me, I fear losing those people.
6. a.) How do you see yourself?
I love myself. I see myself as a strong person who can deal with whatever I have to deal with. I am confident. I see myself as a loyal person that will never betray another one. Also, I am a very principled person, I have my morals and this is really important to me, I hate unfair things and I try to don’t let them happen. I tend to see people in three levels: below me (stupid people), the same as me (almost everybody) and above me (people who I truly respect, trust and sometimes idolize, but I only in a field: for example, a very good teacher).
I’m impulsive and I like it, I like acting under pressure, I’m versatile and can adapt to almost everything, I’m independent.
I like to learn things (sometimes I find myself looking for information on topics that I am interested in but are not “useful” for my studies, for example) and be interesting, I also like interesting people. I think knowledge is power, you can defend yourself knowing things.
I can get very possessive and controlling with people I love if I lose my trust on them.
I’m the kind of person that can be told “do this thing this way” and I’ll say “ok whatever” and then go and do it however I want.
I like to have close relationship better than a lot of friends. I love being “only one” with other person, knowing everything about them and they knowing everything about me, also, I would do whatever I had to do to protect them. I need intensity and passion in everything I do. I’m a chaotic person, my bedroom is never tidy. I love painting, it makes me travel to my own world.
I can be very charming and warm if I want, for example, when I meet someone knew and I like them, I just make them feel special by making every single thing they say sound interesting: "Oh, really? Thats cool! Tell me more about it!!" thats me sometimes, but not always. I do it when I like the other person.
I am sociable but when it comes to work on something I prefer to do it alone (or only with another person that makes a perfect team with me), I dont like groups too much.
b.) How do you want others to see you?
The same as I see myself, as a strong person, I want them to respect me, not necessarily admire me.
c.) What do you dislike the most in other people?
Faking and lying, people without personality and tastes. I dislike when someone tries to please another person and even more if they try to please me by understimating themselves, for example, when somone ask another person for help and say "please help me, Im so stupid and youre perfect, help me please", I dinf it very fake and disgusting. I dislike when people is too dependent and I hate it when kids are (maybe because I could not be dependent when I was a child). I hate people who are slower than me, they get me nervous, I like things to be fast. I dislike unpassionate people. I dislike weak people, and people with no morals.
7. Which habit do you most automatically act on? Rank the following habits from most to least automatic, on a scale of 1 (most) to 3 (least).
a.) Work for personal gain with more concern for self than for others. 2
b.) Strive for a sense of tranquility in yourself and the world around you. 3
c.) Decide what is right for the betterment of something or someone else. 1
8. Where does the wandering mind take you? What provokes this?
I dont really get this question, but Ill answer what I think. My wandering mind takes me to a few years more, with a man by my side and travelling around the world learning about other cultures and helping poor people (I want to be a doctor) together, learning knew things and not being ignorants. That for two years or a year, then, having four kids and being happy with my family.
9.What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?
Being a “hero”, making fair things happen, protecting others, being true to myself. Having a close relation with someone. Also eating, sex, speed, adrenaline, etc: being human.
What makes me feel the worst is not being enough to someone, not being able to protect them and the worst thing lying to them. (I don’t lie but once in a while I have a misunderstood with a friend and they think I lied to them) I hate feeling like a liar.
10. Let's talk about emotions. Explain what might make you feel the following, how they feel to you or how you react to the emotion:
a.) anger A lot of things. Specially I would like to describe how it feels to me, when Im angry it’s like if my entirely body was burning, I need to let all this fire go and sometimes I do it. When I let it go, I am noisy; I shout and start hitting things to make people hear me. When I repress it, it stays there and someday It will come out and it will be worse.
b.) shame Being vulnerable in front of other people who I don’t truly trust: crying, talking about feelings, etc.
c.) anxiety Having too many things to do, because I cant organize myself and my time and I do everything at the last minute (I get it well done). Also, when someone is too invasive for a long time, a person who cries over everything all the time and is very pessimistic.
11. Describe how you respond to the following:
a.) stress Well if it is a stressful situation I tend to be calm and let things happen, I don’t worry about it. But when it happens several times the stress start accumulating and finally I have anxiety and sometimes an anxiety attack.
b.) negative unexpected change Hmm it depends, sometimes I become empty, I am sad and I don’t want to do things or to talk to some people. It makes me sick to go to class and things like that, I hate having responsibilities, I just want to lay down and do nothing. I force myself to go out and try to have fun so I can get over the negative change faster. But eventually I will be the same person again, but a little bit stronger.
c.) conflict I tend to be assertive but I’m manipulative too. It’s like ok I’ll be assertive but finally I’m getting what I want. Sometimes I get really aggressive, with my family always respond aggressively.
12. a.) What kind of role are you naturally inclined to take in a group? Why?
Normally the leader, but not in a bossy way, I just know how to do things properly and sometimes I feel that this depends on me, it’s my responsibility to make everything work.
b.) If put in power, how do you behave? Why?
I like to be fair and to get things done, I hear everybody’s ideas and then I use the best ones, sometimes I can be rude with incompetent and/or dependent people, everybody in my group must work independently.
c.) Do you tend to struggle with others who have authority over you? Why?
If I think they deserve being the leaders, no, but I dont usually think this, so yes, I tend to struggle with them. I just don’t like to be controlled and I like to work and do things on my own.
13. What do you see or notice in others that most people don't?
I don’t know, but I have like a strong intuition with people; the first or second time I talk to somebody I know if we are going to be friends or just going to get on well but not being friends. I also see what people want or how to make them happy, but I dont always do it.
I can see what kind of people they are.
14. Comment on your relationship with trust.
I’m kind of innocent, I trust almost everyone by intuition, when I know someone new and I like them and think we could be future friends they have 100% of my trust. But if they do just a little thing, a stupid lie, my trust on them fades away automatically and I become controlling and territorial with them.
15. Briefly: What religious and/or political beliefs do you have? Do you think they influenced your responses in this questionnaire?
I am not religious, but I think that maybe it could be something, some kind of force, I believe in karma to a point, for example.
I think we would live better in a more anarchist society, living in small groups supporting your mates and having a leader that everybody likes and trust. But I know that’s a little bit impossible because humans are extremely ambitious.
Optional Question (due to personal nature)
Discuss an event that has impacted your life significantly; more importantly, how you responded to it.
I have already talked about it but I’ll repeat. When I was 4 I moved to another country and I felt betrayed by my parents, had to take care of myself and my brother, so I became stronger and more mature.
Also, my first boyfriend changed me a lot, I was 14-15 and I was going out of my emo-phase, I didn’t trust people, I was like a rock, nobody could see my feelings and I didn’t want to feel vulnerable. Thanks to him I am more open and trust people more.
Which of the following temptations do you find yourself acting upon the most? (And briefly state why)
- To constantly push yourself to be “the best”
- To be without needs, well-intentioned
- To replace direct experience with concepts
- To have an extreme sense of personal moral obligation
- To think that fulfillment is somewhere else
- To cyclically become indecisive and seek others for reassurance
- To overuse imagination in searching for yourself
- To avoid conflicts and asserting yourself
- To consider yourself entirely self-sufficient
This one. Because I know I’m enough to me, I can survive, I could live alone and need nobody. But I chose not to do this, I like people, but I don’t need them.
What's something you are:
a.) thankful you have My family and my friends, I like having them, they are important to me and I’ll always be by their side as long as they are by mine.
b.) wish you could have? Why? Right now I wish I had a boyfriend, when I have a partner I feel completely full. I don’t need to have one but I love to, I love the feeling or “you and me”, “us and nobody else”, the feeling of that person being yours and you being theirs.