ISFJ/INFP (mini personality crisis)

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    ISFJ/INFP (mini personality crisis)

    Hi everyone!
    I also posted this in the MBTI group, but on second thought, this thread would be much more fitting here.

    So, for the past couple of hours I've been searching on all kinds of websites for distinct differences bewteen ISFJs and INFPs. Hoping to find something (anything) that could tell me for sure that I haven't been mistyping myself for all these years.
    I've always considered myself an INFP, but never got the it's-so-accurate-it's-scary feeling they promise you on the website. Although, many characteristics were right. (even the stereotype of the writer)
    But right now I'm not so sure of anything anymore. Let me tell you where I'm struggeling.

    First, the planning bit (P/J)... I don't know, most times I like to mentally prepare myself, just so I wouldn't disappoint anyone or do anything wrong. But on the other hand I'm flexible when someone wants to change plans for example. I don't plan my days out or something like that. If anything I just procrastinate until I have a panic attack, because I'm not getting the thing done in time. (this can be translated in that I never work gradually, but in bursts of energy)
    Also, I'd like to think that I'm laid-back, but maybe that's some sort of wish-fullfilment. Could it be that I fall somewhere in the middle?

    When I'm working on something that I care about, I can become a perfectionist, which can be a ISFJ thing. (or maybe a writer thing, maybe??)

    I feel like I'm more of an open person in contrast to what people tell you about "the private ISFJ", which may be wrong altogether (I don't really know)
    But I'll be glad to talk about anything. My feelings, your feelings, philosophy, psychology... you name it.
    But if I'm uncomfortable I will just close up immedeatly.
    And when I'm meeting new people I can become this extroverted person who just wants to be liked by everyone... They say that ISFJs can sometimes seem more outgoing than they actually are.

    There is much more, but I'm gonna leave it here. If you want to know anything more, just ask.
    I'm just so confused, you guys...
    Any help would be much appreciated!



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    INFJ

    When you read about the cognitive functions does that help clarify things at all? The Si-Fe of ISFJ is quite different than the Fi-Ne of INFP. You might also look at ISFP which is a bit less structured than ISFJ but creative like INFP as well.

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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    I'd never really thought about it before but I can see where this could be a confusing pair! The most basic difference that's coming to mind is that INFPs tend to be horrified at the thought of being just like everybody else, they have a fundamental drive to be original, while ISFJs tend to be horrified at the thought of not being normal, and take on traditional roles and identities.

    Since both types are feeling introverts and use Si, I think their major difference would be their use of Fi vs Fe.
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    First, the planning bit (P/J)... I don't know, most times I like to mentally prepare myself, just so I wouldn't disappoint anyone or do anything wrong. But on the other hand I'm flexible when someone wants to change plans for example. I don't plan my days out or something like that. If anything I just procrastinate until I have a panic attack, because I'm not getting the thing done in time. (this can be translated in that I never work gradually, but in bursts of energy)
    Also, I'd like to think that I'm laid-back, but maybe that's some sort of wish-fullfilment. Could it be that I fall somewhere in the middle?
    Te= external organization, and part of that is planning. So strong Te users are going to be the best with planning.

    When I'm working on something that I care about, I can become a perfectionist, which can be a ISFJ thing. (or maybe a writer thing, maybe??)
    I am a perfectionist also

    I feel like I'm more of an open person in contrast to what people tell you about "the private ISFJ", which may be wrong altogether (I don't really know)
    Fe users are not private compared to Fi users. Fi users deal with emotions on their own, whereas Fe users like to talk about their own and others emotions. And Ne likes to share its ideas whereas Ni likes to keep its idea/s more to itself.

    But I'll be glad to talk about anything. My feelings, your feelings, philosophy, psychology... you name it.
    But if I'm uncomfortable I will just close up immedeatly.
    This sounds like at least Fe.

    And when I'm meeting new people I can become this extroverted person who just wants to be liked by everyone... They say that ISFJs can sometimes seem more outgoing than they actually are.
    Again, I would say Fe, and yes, since ISFJ's use Fe, they can seem more extraverted than they actually are.

    So I see ISFJ for you over INFP.
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    So another thing that I had forgotten to mention, I've been living with an ENTJ and ESFP for most of my life. Maybe that has influenced me a bit? Just throwing it out there.
    @bryn I'm leaning more to fi-Ne. Last night I stayed up very late, comparing the two and while I can see Si in my personality, it's definetely not the leading function.
    @petitpèlerin I've always wanted to be different from others. Like you said, I'm slightly horrified of being "just normal". I've thought about this before when I was doing research about my enneagram type.(which turned out to be -surprise surprise- type 4).
    @Kitty23 First of all, thank you for taking your time to reply! it has given me a lot to think about. I actually do process my feelings on my own, not by talking about them with others. With my best friend (that i've known for over 14 years) I can openly talk about my feelings. But with other friends, I usually keep them to myself. I'm not a very direct person.
    As for your last argument, I have not really figured that one out yet. I'll keep thinking about it.

    Again, thanks everyone for replying!
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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Great insights, @Braverose! The way you describe the way you process feelings alone and how you feel talking to a trusted friend but are very private otherwise, that's exactly like my close INFP friend. (I've known her half my life and have no doubt about her type.) It sounds right to me and I'm glad you feel settled on it.
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    INFJ

    It sounds like you figured out you are INFP after all. Yay!

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    So then INFP for you :)? Ok awesome!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kitty23 View Post
    So then INFP for you :)? Ok awesome!
    I'm sticking with INFP for the moment. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions the last 24 hours, but yeah, I feel like I've figured it out. I may have made it a bigger deal in my head than it needed to be, but hey, at least it made me think. Let's call it progress. :)

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    I'm sticking with INFP for the moment. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions the last 24 hours, but yeah, I feel like I've figured it out. I may have made it a bigger deal in my head than it needed to be, but hey, at least it made me think. Let's call it progress. :)
    Ok :)


     

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