When I discovered this personality system last year, I was sure that I was INFP because everything in my life was very much based on my own feelings and internal system of values. At the time, I was having a couple of mental health problems and couldn't think of a lot more than my own miserable set of emotions. However, since then I have changed a lot, and whilst I'm still young I feel that I have a much better sense of who I am now. I am a little more inclined to be sociable (I did wonder if I had became more extraverted, although I do still put the whole issue I had with people down to my poor self esteem), but I am by no means convinced that I am ENFP as I cannot relate to their seemingly more outgoing and bubbly nature; I take social situations for what they are, and by no means would choose to be involved in them unless they had specific meaning to me as an individual soul. There are certain people whose energy I am able to bounce off, causing me to appear more extraverted and energetic, but with a lot I feel out of place and uncomfortable, like I exist on an entirely different plane to those around me. Whilst I am able to draw inspiration from my surroundings and arguably use a fair amount of Ne (which caused me to briefly wonder if I was ENFP), I feel that my understanding of the world around me mainly comes from within.
I'm highly empathetic and am always described as someone who is wise beyond their years, which has posed a problem to me as I often struggle to relate to my peers. In a typical social situation, I am the quiet observer who will stay at a distance and gain an understanding of those around me before making any kind of move. I will freely talk to anyone who initiates a conversation, but there are some people who just make me feel anxious because I instinctively know what they are like before even talking to them due to the tiny signals they give off and my past experiences with people who are (in that sense) similar to them. People who do not know me will come to me for advice, and I find that as time goes on and I grow into myself more, I immediately understand them and know the solution. As much as feelings are still a huge part of my life, I am constantly growing and gaining the knowledge to see how to handle them; I am now predominantly caught up in the feelings of others, and process mine once I have understood the situation and how others are reacting.
In a lot of ways, I feel that I may be INFJ due to this deeper understanding I have of myself and the world. I'm introverted (although not shy), calm and reflective, and I have a strong sense of spirituality. The one thing that puts me off being INFJ is that the only INFJs I have known seem to be more structured and organised, whereas I am a free spirit who drifts about without this sense of urgency that I always associate with the INFJ personality. If anyone could care to shine some light on this then I would be very grateful, as I have been unsure for a while now and am interested to make a step forward. Thank you very much!