@mrniceftw and
@ertertwert and the rest of you, thank you for your responses.
Here is the story:
(Sorry, it turns out I decided to explain more than one paragraph.)
I gave a gift (two) to a man in a professional setting, a work environment to which I was a visitor. I told the man one of the gifts was for him, the other was to share with whomever he pleased. The gift was product from my farm. Rather desirable product, but actual value of each gift maxes out at about $5 apiece. On a previous visit, this man mentioned he liked the type of product produced on my farm. I said I would be more than happy to bring him some product the next time I came. He said he would like that and was pleased.
I went to this professional setting to visit with the man's boss. Prior to seeing the boss, I delivered the gift. Prior to seeing the boss, he gave the other gift to the boss. The boss (not my boss, just a peer to me) comes in to meet with me absolutely beaming and overwhelmed with said gift in his hands. I was stunned.
I would have gladly brought said gift specifically for the boss, had it occurred to me, but it didn't. Further, I wouldn't have given it prior to our meeting, but only after as I would see the gift prior to the meeting as potentially insincere, like bribery.
The boss was so pleased and overwhelmed at the "thoughtfulness" of this gift, though he seemed to genuinely like the gift as well, that he couldn't focus on our meeting, but rather he focused on me "emotionally" which I felt was a huge distraction. Mostly, I was shocked at his pleasure and gushing to the point of being red in the face.
I felt horrible, too, because while I gladly would have "thought" about the boss and brought said gift if I had any prior information that he would enjoy it, but I WASN'T being thoughtful as he assumed. I didn't explain as I didn't want to hurt his feelings if I told him I hadn't actually thought of him.
The next few business meetings were born with me bearing gifts, but discreetly left for after the meeting. So, there was thoughtfulness, but delivered in a way that didn't conflict with my morals that would suggest bribery if given at the head of a meeting.
Meanwhile, and prior to the next business meeting after the first gift, I was mailed a very personal thank you note from the boss. I am still unsure if he intended it to sound as flirtatious as it came across. However, I did not receive this note for months. The boss was quite inexplicably dejected, presumably by me, at the next meeting. Not knowing about the personal note, I was quite confused at his initial excitement to see me, then his sour dejected attitude that ended the meeting.
His note mentioned he was "touched" by the gift. Touched by a farm product? I'm confused. Touched by me, the gift, the thoughtfulness that wasn't, or what?
INFJs, can you interpret please?
