Your thoughts?What It's Like to Love a Six by Susan Reynolds
Sixes can be very engaging when you first meet them. They exude energy, and because they desire a long-term relationship and want to attract the best person possible, they are usually physically fit, well put together, cultured, witty, charming, and effusive. That being said, the primary attraction to Sixes is that they are amazingly loyal.
When they are integrated, Sixes are delightful, exceedingly committed, loyal companions. When somewhere in the middle or ego-driven stages, they're intrinsically distrustful, suspicious, a bit paranoid, and hard to pin down — appearing friendly and compliant one day and hostile and reactionary the next. The problem with ego-driven or pathological Sixes is that they lack trust in themselves or in anyone else. As such, they look for authoritative figures to give their lives direction and essentially tell them what to do. They often become so insecure that they won't make a move, or even make a single decision, without someone telling them what to do. Obviously, this quickly becomes a drag on the partner.
Sixes have a sort of dual personality. They rely on outside authority figures to help them feel safe in the world, but this often leads to feeling resentful toward them, feeling like they have had a bellyfull of being told what to do, and rebelling against those same authority figures.
Sixes view the outer world as threatening and cope by desperately seeking security at any price. They constantly scan the surroundings and what's going on with everyone to get the first jump — developing a self-defensive posture that is both off-putting and limiting.
Sixes are programmed to expect the worst, and when they slide toward pathology, their schizoid behavior sets all their worst nightmares in motion. When they are pathological, they live in a constant state of anxiety and are so insecure they need constant attention. They often become hypervigilant, controlling, and paranoid, pushing away the very people who once helped them feel secure.
What you'll love about Sixes:
What will drive you crazy about Sixes:
- They may have a strong belief system that reinforces admirable values.
- They are usually honest, fair, reliable, hardworking, and all-around solid citizens.
- They typically take their time and check you out thoroughly before committing.
- They can be exceedingly dedicated and loyal once committed.
- You can usually depend on them to come through in emergencies.
- They can be exceedingly practical and make educated decisions only after exploring all the options and ferreting out the best one.
- They typically don't make impulsive choices or go off on wild tangents.
- They will fight for what they believe in.
Self-actualized Sixes use their exceptional intellectual abilities to scan the horizon for potential partners who will share their values and commit to a mutually beneficial, long-term relationship. Once they have committed to you, they will never let you down or abandon you when you need them.
- They often lack enough self-confidence to make up their own minds.
- They are always second-guessing themselves and being contrary.
- They send mixed signals, keeping you off balance.
- They freak out if you break the rules or if they break the rules.
- They can be suspicious about the most insignificant things.
- They are often overprotective and don't seem to trust anyone.
- They can absolutely obsessed with obtaining external security.
- They can be reactive and defensive when in the throes of disagreement.
- They can be judgmental and bitingly sarcastic.
What It's Like to Love a Six
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^^ yeah pretty much agree with everything. Not sure what to say, a solid *nod* would be best I think.
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I love my Six 
Just the right shape?I love my Six
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I think a good thing to have had in the last section is:
They can be hyper-vigilant in the relationship.
And I would like to reword the 'suspicious about insignificant things' one to:
They can be suspicious about things that seem insignificant to you.
Another for that list:
They may overwhelm you with questions when worried.
They can be hyper-vigilant in the relationship.
And I would like to reword the 'suspicious about insignificant things' one to:
They can be suspicious about things that seem insignificant to you.
Another for that list:
They may overwhelm you with questions when worried.
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and also the right size (not sure if that's what you're talking about o_o)Just the right shape?
Thanks! What triggers the suspicions? Is typically where things/actions are inconsistent and don't add up or in other words things/actions that don't appear to have a rhyme or reason?
E6 > 6 > 6 o'clock > behind/back > butt/ass
Basically a 6 can go into something already thinking: 'shits going to go wrong' and then any evidence that somethings not right will be a red flag. In a relationship it is relationship related - like, someone denies doing something involving going out or talking to the opposite sex and you later see evidence that they may have, so then you think if theres an inconsistency then they must be up to no damn good. And where theres an inconsistency, a 6 will sniff it out. Its stupid to lie to a 6 because of this. They are always on alert for the information, and pros at spotting things that don't add up in the information. So then lying creates a web of fuck, and its very hard to untangle it after they have started to think you're a liar.
I dated another unhealthy 6 who would edit the truth constantly even if it was innocent because he was afraid it might -seem- like its not to me, another hyper-vigilant 6. I started doing the same to him because I started losing respect for him and all his scathing inconsistencies and it ended up, because neither of us could trust the other one ounce and neither was stable enough at this point to support the others wavering.
I find that honesty is the best policy in a relationship. I'm as honest with my partner as I want him to be, not leaving out the details, and being forthcoming when things are innocent but could be taken otherwise for example.
Anyway I have to go but I will say more later.
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Ahhh, this is very good.
I love my six very much.
The worst part is when he gets insecure and needs to be told what to do. I wish he had more confidence. It can be really frustrating. His skepticism can be overwhelming.
The best part is how loyal and dedicated he is. I know he is committed to our relationship, so the bumps in the road are easier. Things can be put in perspective. I know when we do have conflicts, it's just a battle, not the war.
I love my six very much.
The worst part is when he gets insecure and needs to be told what to do. I wish he had more confidence. It can be really frustrating. His skepticism can be overwhelming.
The best part is how loyal and dedicated he is. I know he is committed to our relationship, so the bumps in the road are easier. Things can be put in perspective. I know when we do have conflicts, it's just a battle, not the war.
Thanks Promethea! I love this type of information. This was very insightful indeed. I agree wholeheartedly with you....honesty is the best policy in a relationship. Maybe I need to find me a six.
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I think 6w7s are sexy as hell. they're so cute and skittish and have this sort of "I'm scared, hug me =( " vibe to them even when they're confident, secure and happy
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I wouldn't advise it.Thanks Promethea! I love this type of information. This was very insightful indeed. I agree wholeheartedly with you....honesty is the best policy in a relationship. Maybe I need to find me a six.
Lol.. hey now.. "a healthy 6.." : P
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Are very rare. Fuck, I'm not a healthy 6.
I suspect they are pretty amazing.
I'm intrigued. What do you think about the mixed messages and keeping your partner off balance? If it seems valid to you, how do you think that might be played out within a relationship with type 6?
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