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I'm not thrilled by the industry in similar ways to how I dislike the Hollywood machine in general, but I don't care much about it. I'm very visual and love good erotica, be it movies, books, pics, whathaveyou, but there is very little that is appealing to me in mainstream p0rn. Most is so very fake that it is a turn off and I've dated guys who's main sexual outlet was pr0n and it really tweaked their sexual style a bit too much in the wrong direction for me. I think watching it a lot (especially outside of a relationship) makes you focus too much on the mechanics and the sensuality gets lost. Like someone else mentioned, I'm a chick who prefers lesbian soft core 'cause at least there is some emotion behind more of those movies than anything else.
 
Wow, just wow. Porn isn't a big deal at all... The actresses and actors are paid to have sex, the most natural thing known to man. How do you all think you got here? Hahaha. Jokes aside, it really isn't that shocking for the most part. I don't think it's degrading to women because, they are compensated for their work and it's their choice to be in said film. They are fully aware going into the production that there may be a stigma (no matter how silly it is). Bottom line, if it's safe and nobody is getting hurt then I don't think it's a big deal. Don't see the issue at all, I get kind of a holier than thou vibe from the contrary view.
 
Wow, just wow. Porn isn't a big deal at all... The actresses and actors are paid to have sex, the most natural thing known to man. How do you all think you got here? Hahaha. Jokes aside, it really isn't that shocking for the most part. I don't think it's degrading to women because, they are compensated for their work and it's their choice to be in said film. They are fully aware going into the production that there may be a stigma (no matter how silly it is). Bottom line, if it's safe and nobody is getting hurt then I don't think it's a big deal. Don't see the issue at all, I get kind of a holier than thou vibe from the contrary view.
Finally, someone says this. One could argue that men are even more objectified by porn than women because they don't get compensated as much for their work. Women get probably five times as much money for the same scene than men do.

Sure, porn is degrading to the people involved. However, in most cases, it's the person's own choice star in porn. We have no way of making it illegal, considering the market's so big. And even if we do make it illegal, what will that solve? It won't keep everyone from looking at it. It will just reduce the incidences. Like marijuana.

It's wrong to take away one's free will, no matter what. That's what I was raised to believe, and I'm sticking to it.
 
Wow, just wow. Porn isn't a big deal at all... The actresses and actors are paid to have sex, the most natural thing known to man. How do you all think you got here? Hahaha. Jokes aside, it really isn't that shocking for the most part. I don't think it's degrading to women because, they are compensated for their work and it's their choice to be in said film. They are fully aware going into the production that there may be a stigma (no matter how silly it is). Bottom line, if it's safe and nobody is getting hurt then I don't think it's a big deal. Don't see the issue at all, I get kind of a holier than thou vibe from the contrary view.

It is degrading because it turns women into nothing more than objects - masturbation aids. And since when did anyone start acting "holier than thou"? It is all a just matter of opinion.
 
I think what one views as appropriate or not when it comes to sex is very individual. For instance, I think sex is sex, making love is making love and porn is just a depiction of the first. As a woman, physical intimacy is only intimate if emotions are involved. Early on in my life I would have told you that having sex with someone is emotional for every woman and emotions are always involved. BUT - that is not the case. Once the mystery fades and once a person realizes not all encounters lead to emotional attachment they become more free to separate the emotional from the physical. Making love is reserved for those we have the emotional attachement to. Sex on the other hand becomes more focused on gaining physical pleasure. I don't necessairly feel there's anything wrong with porn. As we all know, the "actors" are focusing on portraying physical pleasure, not emotional. Which...makes sense as most of us who watch porn don't do it while we are emotionally charged in the midst of making love.
 
I think what one views as appropriate or not when it comes to sex is very individual. For instance, I think sex is sex, making love is making love and porn is just a depiction of the first. As a woman, physical intimacy is only intimate if emotions are involved. Early on in my life I would have told you that having sex with someone is emotional for every woman and emotions are always involved. BUT - that is not the case. Once the mystery fades and once a person realizes not all encounters lead to emotional attachment they become more free to separate the emotional from the physical. Making love is reserved for those we have the emotional attachement to. Sex on the other hand becomes more focused on gaining physical pleasure. I don't necessairly feel there's anything wrong with porn. As we all know, the "actors" are focusing on portraying physical pleasure, not emotional. Which...makes sense as most of us who watch porn don't do it while we are emotionally charged in the midst of making love.
You bring up good points.

I tend to feel if having sex is totally emotionless, then what's the point of seeking out another partner? You could save yourself a lot of time and effort if you want zero connection at all. Porn, as it is today on the internet seems to be 100% zero emotion. Another flaw with porn, IMO, is that it's anti-tantric...and it externalizes passions that could be inwardly generated. If you ever had passion driven love, then you'll know absolutely nothing compares. I think people are just better off making their own porn if they're driven by passion for one another, then I wouldn't see a problem with it...in fact, I wouldn't even call it porn by definition, cause love driven creation is the pinnacle of art!
 
Thinking that the guy or girl, maybe someone's else child, sister, and so on, really puts me off.
 
I don't like porn. While I've watched it before, I always felt very unfulfilled after I got done viewing it. The problem for me is that I need an emotional connection to really enjoy it, so when I only get the visual aspect of sex I quickly become bored with the material- yet I'm still aroused. So then I need more hardcore material in order to keep me 'fascinated', I guess. In that sense I find it very addictive and it quickly escalates from softcore to hardcore to all sorts of crazy shit just to keep me interested. I'd say porn has a bad effect on men. It did on me anyway.

I've found my own sexual fantasies are much more pleasing to me than watching porn. And more realistic.
 
The porn industry is diabolical, they don't only objectify women, but they also reduce men to nothing more than a replaceable penis. Then they take advantage of the weakness, instability of people who become their costumers. Most people have no idea what occurs in that industry, nor the amount of actresses/actors who has died by result of it, at least in the west. Most of the women in porn have been molested when they were kids, it's a very common trait. Many of them die young from drugs overdoses, as a result of their problems and that industry. Then the women, since the industry only cares for the young look, as they get older, they have to do more more weird things to get paid what they used too. Then when you think about how these women are someones mom, daughter, sister, cousin, and if I applied this to myself, and thought about my mom, sister, etc doing something like this, I would be utterly devastated, I could not even imagine a future daughter of mine, I would be so broken and depressed.

It's a very dirty business, where a lot of bad stuff happens. I've done research on it. It also desensitizes men, i.e. it takes more to get men turned on, since they have been so conditioned by porn, as a result they need more from their partner to enjoy it. But this isn't really good, as this sort of thing shows they are looking at their significant other as the women they see in the videos. this means during sex it is more about "lust" then it is about making love, and this makes their sex this way.

With that said, people can do what they want... I don't judge the actors and actresses. But it does make me sad.
 
I think men and women are going to view it different regardless what personality type they are. Porn offers a way to enjoy a sexual side of us that is not really possible with a partner because it would be morally wrong and cause bodily harm to the woman. Most women would not agree to being gagged, tied up, beat up, chocked, and tortured during sex. So the only way to satisfy those lustful desires, without causing harm to a woman, is through porn with actors pretending. It also offers a way to enjoy a rather violent sexual fantasy act without anyone actually being hurt, for example scenes where actors pretend they torture and kill their victims after sex. It is fake blood and made up by the movie company. I watched one where the theme was friday 13th, Jason going on his murderous spree. Porn allows us to reinact in our minds taboo sexual desires that are a little evil, yet no harm is done because it is just a movie with actors and nothing is real.

These are sexual desires that men have which are not possible to fulfill with a partner, unless they man is a sociopath like Ted Bundy. No matter how much sex I had with my ex there were many sexual fantasys I had that just could not fullfilled in real life, so porn was a healthy outlet. Most men have many times daydreamed about how much more sexual pleasure could be felt if violence/murder was coupled with sex. There is always that strong desire to push the envelope and try to reach levels of sexual pleasure that have never been felt before. The only safe way to do that is through porn with actors faking a violent sex act.
 
The porn industry is diabolical, they don't only objectify women, but they also reduce men to nothing more than a replaceable penis. Then they take advantage of the weakness, instability of people who become their costumers. Most people have no idea what occurs in that industry, nor the amount of actresses/actors who has died by result of it, at least in the west. Most of the women in porn have been molested when they were kids, it's a very common trait. Many of them die young from drugs overdoses, as a result of their problems and that industry. Then the women, since the industry only cares for the young look, as they get older, they have to do more more weird things to get paid what they used too. Then when you think about how these women are someones mom, daughter, sister, cousin, and if I applied this to myself, and thought about my mom, sister, etc doing something like this, I would be utterly devastated, I could not even imagine a future daughter of mine, I would be so broken and depressed.

It's a very dirty business, where a lot of bad stuff happens. I've done research on it. It also desensitizes men, i.e. it takes more to get men turned on, since they have been so conditioned by porn, as a result they need more from their partner to enjoy it. But this isn't really good, as this sort of thing shows they are looking at their significant other as the women they see in the videos. this means during sex it is more about "lust" then it is about making love, and this makes their sex this way.

With that said, people can do what they want... I don't judge the actors and actresses. But it does make me sad.
This, pretty much all of this. It's objectifying and disgusting to me, and can be damaging to actual relationships. My first relationship was greatly affected by this; I wanted to wait (and am still waiting for the right time) and develop our friendship first, so he held some internal resentment against me. In turn, I would resent him for giving into the objectification, and things got ugly when the subject came up.

Current relationship: Unsure of my boy's views on it. I'm a little afraid to ask, though I feel he's much closer to my viewpoint on the matter.
 
I have no problem with it. I think all the people who complain about it objectifying women or men look at people as something more than they really are: super-conscious animals with base desires. If someone wants to get paid by utilizing or manipulating those base desires, why shouldn't they?
 
Don't see what the big deal is, it's just something to masturbate too. Makes the process easier that is all. Who honestly watches porn for reasons other than "enhancing" sex or masturbation. Some of you people take some of this shit too seriously. I honestly say most guys don't take it seriously, and if they do they are weird/stupid .
 
I have no problem with it. I think all the people who complain about it objectifying women or men look at people as something more than they really are: super-conscious animals with base desires. If someone wants to get paid by utilizing or manipulating those base desires, why shouldn't they?
That's really simplifying what happens in that industry, you should read some of the testimonials of actresses who left that business. It is not that simple, the women in those are really broken often, been molested and often other horrible things. they need help and the industry is toxic and aids in their self destruction. Now, I would not say every actress is like this, but a great amount are. They get coked up to even do a scene or be incredibly drunk.
 
I used to watch porn a lot. Now not so much. Just lost interest in it. Now, I much prefer erotica.... Ooooh so hot.

*fans self, Is it hot in here or what?*

I love a hot, sexy book. Beats the video every time.

I don't have anything against it. I just hope no one is coerced on those films.

I wouldn't mind watching it with my lover. That could be fun... lol
 
It's good practice to learn the in and outs of the in and outs... if you catch my drift. At least by watching and learning different ways to approach a woman through pornographic video(in my case), you can take what you see in certain acts and use them to optimize your own happiness when that time comes around with a girl to do it with. Although I would describe my feelings toward having a sexual experience ascribed as spiritual, I don't view jerk'n itself as pointless. It feels good, however very temporary. Oh well - I guess that is the moral of the story to build my stamina so I can become more comfortable with my sexuality and last longer since I will have the opportunity to jerk before that time comes many times. And when it does I'll feel at the top of my game and approach a woman in a meaningful way given the lessons I have learned from my good ol trusty pR0nZzz.
 
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