I'm very curious to know what you guys think about such pairing.
He's an ESTJ and I'm an INTP. Because I like percentages, I'll give them as well:
Him:
Extraversion - 63%
Sensing - 74%
Thinking - 63%
Judging - 58%
Me:
Introversion - 62%
Intuition - 72%
Thinking - 57%
Perceiving - 64%
Right now it seems like we're very different, but maybe that's why we're attracted to each other. Actually I wasn't sure if he's an ESTJ or an ESFJ, because he's very open with his feelings. Also, he was the first one who said the ''L'' word, which was shocking. Not only because nobody has ever said it to me, but also because it was too soon for me. But in the long run, it doesn't matter who says it first (as long as both people feel the same way, and we do).
I'd just like to know what is the biggest obstacle in this relationship? I doubt it's the introversion/ extraversion, since I'm quite talkative with him and feel very comfortable around him. I'm afraid it's the sensing/ intuition difference between us, the way we process information. I'm very dreamy, and he's extremely down to earth. I was actually expecting his sensing percentage is even higher than 74%.
One very nerdy thing that makes me a bit sad is that he doesn't like fiction very much. I, on the other hand, am crazy about it - esp. science fiction. I don't like fantasy that much, but I have a passion for sci-fi thrillers, technological thrillers and so on. He likes video games (as do I), but that's about it. And at the same time - we have different tastes even in those - he likes first person shooters and racing games, I like turn-based and real time strategy and role-playing games. I guess it's a small thing to worry about, but sometimes I'm just sad we like different things. Oh well, at least we're both interested in Biology, Physics and random trivia/ facts. I just hope that this will last, I care about him so much. But at the same time, I do everything I can not to get too attached, because I don't like the thought of my happiness depending on other person. Mainly because it has never happened. I used to be emotionally very independent, but now I already feel how I'm changing into this ''I can't stop thinking about him'', basically not rational person and it makes me very uneasy. The reason why I'm worried about this is because he could hurt me very easily, and I hate it. I don't think it happens, but there's a possibility.
The other thing I'm worried about is the possibility of me hurting him by losing feelings. I'm very changeable and I don't want to lose feelings for him, but it has happened before and it might happen again. He's emotionally very vulnerable and I will never forget how he once cried in my arms, whispering that he doesn't want to lose me. It was after a fight and I was completely shocked (seeing other people cry makes me panic, because I don't know what to say nor do). But at the same time, I understood how difficult it is for a man to be this open with his feelings (hell, it's difficult even for me), so I was obviously deeply moved.
Anyway, I should stop rambling (it's almost like I'm an INFP right now, which is awkward). Basically, what do you think about INTP + ESTJ relationship?
He's an ESTJ and I'm an INTP. Because I like percentages, I'll give them as well:
Him:
Extraversion - 63%
Sensing - 74%
Thinking - 63%
Judging - 58%
Me:
Introversion - 62%
Intuition - 72%
Thinking - 57%
Perceiving - 64%
Right now it seems like we're very different, but maybe that's why we're attracted to each other. Actually I wasn't sure if he's an ESTJ or an ESFJ, because he's very open with his feelings. Also, he was the first one who said the ''L'' word, which was shocking. Not only because nobody has ever said it to me, but also because it was too soon for me. But in the long run, it doesn't matter who says it first (as long as both people feel the same way, and we do).
I'd just like to know what is the biggest obstacle in this relationship? I doubt it's the introversion/ extraversion, since I'm quite talkative with him and feel very comfortable around him. I'm afraid it's the sensing/ intuition difference between us, the way we process information. I'm very dreamy, and he's extremely down to earth. I was actually expecting his sensing percentage is even higher than 74%.
One very nerdy thing that makes me a bit sad is that he doesn't like fiction very much. I, on the other hand, am crazy about it - esp. science fiction. I don't like fantasy that much, but I have a passion for sci-fi thrillers, technological thrillers and so on. He likes video games (as do I), but that's about it. And at the same time - we have different tastes even in those - he likes first person shooters and racing games, I like turn-based and real time strategy and role-playing games. I guess it's a small thing to worry about, but sometimes I'm just sad we like different things. Oh well, at least we're both interested in Biology, Physics and random trivia/ facts. I just hope that this will last, I care about him so much. But at the same time, I do everything I can not to get too attached, because I don't like the thought of my happiness depending on other person. Mainly because it has never happened. I used to be emotionally very independent, but now I already feel how I'm changing into this ''I can't stop thinking about him'', basically not rational person and it makes me very uneasy. The reason why I'm worried about this is because he could hurt me very easily, and I hate it. I don't think it happens, but there's a possibility.
The other thing I'm worried about is the possibility of me hurting him by losing feelings. I'm very changeable and I don't want to lose feelings for him, but it has happened before and it might happen again. He's emotionally very vulnerable and I will never forget how he once cried in my arms, whispering that he doesn't want to lose me. It was after a fight and I was completely shocked (seeing other people cry makes me panic, because I don't know what to say nor do). But at the same time, I understood how difficult it is for a man to be this open with his feelings (hell, it's difficult even for me), so I was obviously deeply moved.
Anyway, I should stop rambling (it's almost like I'm an INFP right now, which is awkward). Basically, what do you think about INTP + ESTJ relationship?
The only thing that will never work is the intellectual thing... we value intelligence and knowledge VERY differently, for me it's sacred... She is a very, very loyal and responsible friend,though, one who must be cherished.
