How do you think your rank in birth order affected your childhood? Tell us about the distance between you and other siblings, and how your experience may have differed from others.
What is your rank in birth order within your family?
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Voted middle child.
My older brother and mother are very self concerned/absorbed so I think that's a massive part of my personality/enneagram two. My older brother is five years older, younger sister is three years younger and youngest sister is seven years younger. There experience may have been different because I was/someone was looking after them?
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I'm the oldest of three. It's hard to say how that's affected my personality; the only thing that I can really remember of it was occasionally being blamed for things my brothers did on my watch because "I'm the oldest and should be more responsible." My immediately younger brother is a stereotypical middle child, though, lol.
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I'm the oldest of three - three years older than my sister and seven years older than my brother, who is mildly autistic. Even though I'm a ESFP, it's always been at odds with a strong sense of responsibility, compassion, a good work ethic, and the need to serve others. I'm very hard on myself and sometimes don't feel that what I've done is "enough" for others or for myself, or to make other people happy. I think this is a combination of my personality and the stereotype of the responsible, overachieving older child. For a while I thought I was a 3, but that doesn't quite feel right.
I was the first born, and with a gifted baby sister.
From what my parents told me, I was emotional, impulsive, critical, sensitive, and opinionated. I was a high maintenance kid lol.
Not the 'ideal' type for an older sister, and being the impressionable type I was back then, they kind of beat those traits out of me. Hence me coming around to be supportive, rather than critical, responsible rather than impulsive, etc. Basically they wanted me to be supportive of my sister instead of resenting her gifted self, which led me to my 2w1 personality, lol
I could never protect or look out for her as much as I wanted to, (too shy and nervous) but I am always there for her when she gets hurt. Always.
From what my parents told me, I was emotional, impulsive, critical, sensitive, and opinionated. I was a high maintenance kid lol.
Not the 'ideal' type for an older sister, and being the impressionable type I was back then, they kind of beat those traits out of me. Hence me coming around to be supportive, rather than critical, responsible rather than impulsive, etc. Basically they wanted me to be supportive of my sister instead of resenting her gifted self, which led me to my 2w1 personality, lol
I could never protect or look out for her as much as I wanted to, (too shy and nervous) but I am always there for her when she gets hurt. Always.
i'm the youngest of 3. my brother [he's the oldest] and i are extremely close; we can talk about anything with each other. my sister and i, on the other hand, aren't as close. we were inseparable when we were younger, though. but i think the difference in relationship is a matter of nurture rather than nature. my brother and i were both in marching band all 4 years of high school, both in the top 5% of our class, etc. my sister is the complete opposite in that regard. as the youngest i've always gotten the better end of the deal... pretty much in everything. i got a car before my brother did [relatively], my gas was paid for, i'm allowed to do pretty much anything i want [while my brother couldn't do as much at my age]. i was certainly given more opportunities, not because i was the favorite or anything but because my parents didn't know about these opportunities when my brother was my age.
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I'm the oldest of 7.
Me
Sis. 16 months younger than me
Still born brother 13 months after sis
Brother 4 years younger than me
Sister 6 years younger than me
Brother 7 years younger than me
Brother 9 years younger than me
Brother 18 years younger than me
Wah-Pah! Quite the family dynamic. There was a lot of caretaking to be done in such an environment. Always at least 2 kids in diapers etc. It just was the reality of my family. I became Mommy # 2.
Me
Sis. 16 months younger than me
Still born brother 13 months after sis
Brother 4 years younger than me
Sister 6 years younger than me
Brother 7 years younger than me
Brother 9 years younger than me
Brother 18 years younger than me
Wah-Pah! Quite the family dynamic. There was a lot of caretaking to be done in such an environment. Always at least 2 kids in diapers etc. It just was the reality of my family. I became Mommy # 2.
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I am the 6th out of 9 children.
I'm the second of five children. It goes: brother (2 years) me (2 years) brother (4 years) sister (4 years) brother. The years in parentheses indicate how far apart we are in age. So my older brother is 2 years older than I am, and my middle brother is 2 years younger than I am.
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