The title says it all. For WHATEVER REASON, a majority of my friends are introverts! I've always found the weird nerdy quiet dude/chick and just chilled with them... I know Jerry Seinfeld (well known ENFP) did similar things growing up. What about you guys?
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The title says it all. For WHATEVER REASON, a majority of my friends are introverts! I've always found the weird nerdy quiet dude/chick and just chilled with them... I know Jerry Seinfeld (well known ENFP) did similar things growing up. What about you guys?
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Most of my friends are introverts too and I think it's because they can more easily tolerate how flaky and unpredictable I can be. Interestingly, my extrovert friends are ESFP's...who are just as flaky and inconsistent as I am. Other extroverts I've been friends with have just moved on when I've disappeared for awhile, the ESFP's always seem to welcome me back as if no time had passed. I really appreciate that.
I think for me... if I see someone is really quiet and reserved and probably has issues talking with people very easily... It makes me want to be their friend that much more. I know I tend to have a personality that people can open up to easily, and I also know how it feels to be the awkward, odd person out, so I start talking to them, and we often become friends from there. I think almost all of my friendships started in a way similar to this. That person looks lonely. Let's be friends! Because, you know, the quiet awkward ones are very often the nicest, I've found. They're not always Introverts, but they are shy. Plus, it makes it easier for me to talk because I feel like I'm the one "in power" so to speak, so I feel at ease, too.
It kind of amazes me in a sad way, actually... so many of my friends have been so lonely for so long merely because they felt so awkward with trying to talk to people... Chu...
But now they have at least one friend, and they often make friends with others through me, and then they make more friends because they feel more confident, and yeah. :happy:
It kind of amazes me in a sad way, actually... so many of my friends have been so lonely for so long merely because they felt so awkward with trying to talk to people... Chu...
But now they have at least one friend, and they often make friends with others through me, and then they make more friends because they feel more confident, and yeah. :happy:
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THIS. THIS RIGHT HERE. 90% OF MY FRIENDSHIPS THROUGHOUT MY WHOLE LIFE CAME THIS WAY. I'm just too nice for my own good..... its really not been the greatest thing for me to do, either, though. Like, I've had SO MANY WEIRD ASS STALKERS not leave me alone... there was a reason why no one talked to them. Meh, can't help myself, though. When someone seems lonely, i'm just drawn to them for whatever reason.
Yes, that's the downside. Also tend to attract really controlling, stalker-ish types, although they usually approach ME and are interested in me romantically and not as friends... I usually catch that right at the start. (What is it about moustache-twisting types that really go for kooky yet kind folks? Is it a control thing?) Anyway, it's if I end up IGNORING my intuition that problems occur.
My tactic at this point is to minimize contact with anyone who gives me that bad vibe. My bad vibes are rarely wrong, even though the reasoning for them doesn't always show up right away. It's hard, because my brain is all, "NOOOO you don't even know them give them a chance you meanie DDD:" but somehow my heart knows, "DANGER! DANGER WILL ROBINSON!"
I'll often ask my other friends for an opinion on the person, but one half of them are even more open to everyone than I am, perhaps dangerously so, and the other half are like, "Don't take sheet from this betch." And then my boyfriend just wants to shield me from any threat, even minimal...
I've made a promise to myself to trust that first instinct though. Maybe it's unfair, but I feel like an idiot for how many times I've ignored it at this point...
My tactic at this point is to minimize contact with anyone who gives me that bad vibe. My bad vibes are rarely wrong, even though the reasoning for them doesn't always show up right away. It's hard, because my brain is all, "NOOOO you don't even know them give them a chance you meanie DDD:" but somehow my heart knows, "DANGER! DANGER WILL ROBINSON!"
I'll often ask my other friends for an opinion on the person, but one half of them are even more open to everyone than I am, perhaps dangerously so, and the other half are like, "Don't take sheet from this betch." And then my boyfriend just wants to shield me from any threat, even minimal...
I've made a promise to myself to trust that first instinct though. Maybe it's unfair, but I feel like an idiot for how many times I've ignored it at this point...
Your mom put her personality type in my butt last night.
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I actually have quite a good mix of the two in my acquaintance/kinda friend circle. My best friend is introverted... very much so at that! The other three friends closest to me are all ENxPs... lol.
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My best friend and my boyfriend are both introverts. I highly, highly prefer introverts for my close relationships, although I have other best friends who are extroverts and I love them just the same. I enjoy not being pressured to go out when I don't want to... ha.
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Same here, I sit at a lunch table full of introverts in school except for the ENTP. 
I'm a pretty introverted ENFP, so I kind of get overwhelmed by strong extroverts. Being the only extrovert in a group makes me feel like I'm contributing more than when I'm having an "OMG LET'S BE LOUD AND EXCITED!!!" match with another EN*P, disorientedly trailing after an ES*P on a mission to do something random, getting the "are you serious?" stare from an ES*J, or basically getting a pat on the head and a push into the corner while the "adults" talk by an EN*J. One one one, I can have an absolutely wonderful time with any type...but I notice in groups, that tends to happen with other E's present. Either that or I sit quietly in a corner because I'm not entertaining enough to compete.
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Yeah, I don't blame you... my girlfriend is an introvert, and somehow, she attracts all the weirdo losers who wanna date her, too. It makes us laugh ahaha.... but anyway, my favorite thing about being ENFP is that people always assume that because I'm a bit kooky, wacky, goofy, whatever you wanna call it, that I'm stupid or oblivious to certain issues. Its kinda just great being able to have people underestimate me... I don't feel pressured to perform that way! And when I do perform, it looks more amazing than it actually is XD
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I've always had a thing for introverts. I think its the mystery of who they are. The most extroverted people are the most boring for me because they seem easy to figure out. Introverts are not so forthcoming which makes them like a puzzle. Curiouser and curiouser.
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IN's love me, but my best friends are mainly NJ's.
Coming from a non- ENFP perspective, a lot of my friends are introverts which is always funny because in the past all of my friends were extroverts and almost always ENFPs. (haha).. I honestly like having friends that are introverts though. It allows me to gage a new perspective in terms of people who are more observers and listeners than talkers. For me personally even though I'm an extrovert, when I was younger I was much more quiet so it's nice to know when I talk to people who are introverts that I still have that side to myself. Also, I feel like it's helped me become a better conversationalist and all and all better at slowly trusting others. Still though there's a little bit of a downside which is that I also want to meet more people who go out more and such. Still though, I think whatever type you are just be open to new experiences. For example, I'm meeting more extroverts in my rockclimbing class just by being friendly and making small talk.
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