Do you ever daydream of becoming a hermit?

The Dude · Nov 14, 2015

Schizoid said:
Does the hermit lifestyle appeal to you? Have you ever daydream of becoming a hermit someday and living your life away from society?

I often find myself daydreaming of becoming a hermit someday. And this craving of mine is actually getting stronger and stronger every minute. For awhile, I thought this was unhealthy, so I tried pushing myself into the outside world more, but I find that interacting too much with the outside world actually makes me misanthropic, so I ended up withdrawing into myself again, and I felt inner peace. Being around people makes me feel exhausted, because people always have some form of expectations toward me. When they see that I am "different" from them, they will try to change me instead of accepting me as who I am. They expect me to think in a certain way, to act in a certain way. They don't accept me as who I am, and they often try to mould me into who they want me to be.

I prefer being alone by myself, because when I am alone by myself, this is when I finally feel accepted for who I am.

Does any INFPs here feel the same way as me too? Or am I the only weirdo here who feels this way?

I am one. I pretty much leave the house to go to the store, get food, work, school, hike, and travel. Outside of these things, I am surfing the web and or watching TV. I think it baffles people how I don't socialize that much anymore, but will hop on a plane and travel by myself. All I have to say is variety. I get bored with the same faces and same places quickly. I'm a hermit and an explorer. Figure that out. :laughing: I blame my unusual for an INFP 7-ness.

narawithherthought · Nov 14, 2015

No, I already life my live like this and perfectly fine with this so I don't need to daydream about it.

sarahyahn · Nov 16, 2015

I daydream about not being a hermit because I am one and it makes me feel depressed and unproductive ahaha

Tetsuo Shima · Nov 16, 2015

"Do you believe that you could survive as a hermit?" is the only question I remember from the very first MBTI test I ever took at least 10 years ago. It was the one question I disagreed with the most strongly because I know very well that I cannot take care of myself.

composingkeys · Nov 23, 2015

YES! I've thought of becoming a monk before. Just the idea of leaving all the crap behind and perhaps growing more doing good things.

Sily · Nov 23, 2015

Very much speaks to the heart of me. Every day I fill my mind of images and fantasies of monks, abbeys, nunnery/nuns, citadels and fortresses, knights, castles (writing at a desk by candlelight in a stone castle), walking alone in gardens, silence and solitary contemplation. My fav book is Party Of One by Anneli Rufus. I can't be a *true* monk (hermit) because too many people are in my life, but I do find the lifestyle appealing. I often entertain thoughts of past lives, of being a hermit, nun or monk.

Xyte · Nov 24, 2015

I always do. But it's sad I know it won't work out... because I'm too dependant.

Sangmu · Nov 24, 2015

Yes. Around age 11 I told my parents that I want nothing to do with society. I'm turning 27 soon and this feeling hasn't faded much.

I sometimes wonder if it's a form of cowardice or laziness.

Watchtower · Nov 24, 2015

I already am one. It's cool, I like it most of the time. And sometimes I don't. But I don't do anything about it either. I might have dreams about being completely anti-social, but I'm too addicted to observing the outside world to actually give it up.

Copper North · Nov 24, 2015

luthien337 said:
Actually, I once heard that INFJs are prone to liking the idea of "hermitism" as well.

Any INFJs who can corroborate this?

Absolutely true.

If I had the income to do it, I'd spend the whole coming winter in a remote spot with boxes and boxes of supplies to get me through to April. :happy:
Once the family and friends have mostly died and moved away, and when you include the TV news and shows that no longer interest me, the only things keeping me in orbit with everyone else are the employment and weekly mail.

As it is now, shopping takes up about half an hour every month, and the rest is work & home time.

justjay · Nov 24, 2015

Becoming a hermit seems very romantic, a desolate and lonesome life. I would enjoy the idea of sorting through problems from a distance, as I am a great problem solver when detached from the reality of the problem. Abandoning my country seems like a necessity to becoming truly alive, and traveling foreign lands seems to be my greatest fantasy. Perhaps I would make a better adventurous pilgrim than a solitary hermit.

There is a musical quality in foreign voices that really inspires me, and I think such a journey might bring out my greatest qualities.

Riven · Nov 24, 2015

At the very least, I'd like to live by myself. I'd actually prefer living in the middle of a city or somewhere, because I feel it'd get quite lonely living on the outskirts of some community. However, I do value my privacy a lot.

Exquis · Nov 24, 2015

I can pretty much relate to every post on here... in one way or another.

Good to know I'm not the only one to harbor such thoughts.

AndyFP · Nov 25, 2015

I have always imagined myself living off the grid and living off the land. Although the reality of it is that such a lifestyle would be quite a challenging feat indeed, so I don't usually think beyond that point. I just don't think I am smart enough for it, and it would be kind of depriving to be completely separated from people.

If I can live by myself in my own condo, that would probably be enough.

hal0hal0 · Nov 25, 2015

I don't daydream being a hermit; I day-live it.

bigstupidgrin · Nov 25, 2015

I think I'd like to be somewhat hermit-like during the summers. I work with the public every day, so a bit of balance would be nice. As far as permanently living like a hermit, I don't know. I get cabin fever too quickly.

Vaka · Nov 25, 2015

The world can be exasperating in moments of true engagement when you realize how much people pay attention to that just doesn't matter one bit. Whether that be superficialities, or even deeper distractions from intellectual exploration or creative or artistic expression, just thinking and being and feeling in their raw, unhindered forms

Right now, with so much you can see people are doing to EACH OTHER, it's no wonder one would want to separate themselves from it all. Sometimes it makes me sad, actually, sad in an overwhelmed kind of way. We kill each other both for sport and for misguided ideals. Who else or what else does this?

People are both natural and unnatural. Natural in how we arise(save for clones? lol), but unnatural in how we act and interact with the world and the rest of nature. Attempting to take control over weather, our own genetics, and other pieces of nature via technology is gonna have horrible consequences because what we want is to continuously pan out the bad, we want all the good. BUT...of course, bad has to be to balance things out. Things can't be all good. Continuously pushing away the bad might result in the bad exploding in a way that can't be controlled or contained. We're dumb

I would say that ultimately, I have too much of an adventurous spirit to truly want to become a hermit, but I understand that desire given what I wrote above

Milya · Nov 26, 2015

Part of me has always dreamed of living at least partly off-grid in a self-sustaining home (sun panels, green house, etc etc). Sure, I wouldn't mind having internet connection there too, but I don't think hermit caves offer such niceties :tongue:. I wouldn't mind the challenge either, one can get too lazy in the society we live in.

Schizoid said:
Being around people makes me feel exhausted, because people always have some form of expectations toward me. When they see that I am "different" from them, they will try to change me instead of accepting me as who I am. They expect me to think in a certain way, to act in a certain way. They don't accept me as who I am, and they often try to mould me into who they want me to be.

This happens way too often and I hate it. I never try to do this to others so it amazes me how insistent some people can be about it. I don't want to be "assimilated" into a certain way of being and thinking and I don't see why someone being different should be so terrifying.

Rajah · Jun 2, 2021

Schizoid said:
Have you ever daydream of becoming a hermit?

Does the hermit lifestyle appeal to you? Have you ever daydream of becoming a hermit someday and living your life away from society?

I often find myself daydreaming of becoming a hermit someday. And this craving of mine is actually getting stronger and stronger every minute. For awhile, I thought this was unhealthy, so I tried pushing myself into the outside world more, but I find that interacting too much with the outside world actually makes me misanthropic, so I ended up withdrawing into myself again, and I felt inner peace. Being around people makes me feel exhausted, because people always have some form of expectations toward me. When they see that I am "different" from them, they will try to change me instead of accepting me as who I am. They expect me to think in a certain way, to act in a certain way. They don't accept me as who I am, and they often try to mould me into who they want me to be.

I prefer being alone by myself, because when I am alone by myself, this is when I finally feel accepted for who I am.

Does any INFPs here feel the same way as me too? Or am I the only weirdo here who feels this way?
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Schizoid said:
Have you ever daydream of becoming a hermit?

Does the hermit lifestyle appeal to you? Have you ever daydream of becoming a hermit someday and living your life away from society?

I often find myself daydreaming of becoming a hermit someday. And this craving of mine is actually getting stronger and stronger every minute. For awhile, I thought this was unhealthy, so I tried pushing myself into the outside world more, but I find that interacting too much with the outside world actually makes me misanthropic, so I ended up withdrawing into myself again, and I felt inner peace. Being around people makes me feel exhausted, because people always have some form of expectations toward me. When they see that I am "different" from them, they will try to change me instead of accepting me as who I am. They expect me to think in a certain way, to act in a certain way. They don't accept me as who I am, and they often try to mould me into who they want me to be.

I prefer being alone by myself, because when I am alone by myself, this is when I finally feel accepted for who I am.

Does any INFPs here feel the same way as me too? Or am I the only weirdo here who feels this way?

I feel the exact same. A lot of times I find myself just driving until I can’t hear people anymore then I stop and sit in the car. And I’ll stay there until I get a call that I need to finish an errand. Then I’ll go. And more and more the idea of just running away and living in the woods/in a cave become attractive.

GusWriter · Jun 2, 2021

Rajah said:
I feel the exact same. A lot of times I find myself just driving until I can’t hear people anymore then I stop and sit in the car. And I’ll stay there until I get a call that I need to finish an errand. Then I’ll go. And more and more the idea of just running away and living in the woods/in a cave become attractive.

Welcome to the forum! And nice choice of old threads to reviive.

Yes. I often feel this way with the exception of my wife. I'm fine being around her and fortunately she is fairly introverted as well.
But before I met her a dozen years ago I was seriously toying with simplifying life and moving to a very secluded part of the world.
Honestly I don't know how well it would have worked. Looking back, after spending 3-4 days by myself, I'd usually start to get the urge to be around other people, even if that felt fullfilled by just passing them on the sidewalk or a trail.

It is funny how some people don't get that you may want to spend days by yourself. They cannot imagine it, but it is almost a necessity for some of us to occasionally get that time away from other people.

Do you ever daydream of becoming a hermit?

The Dude

narawithherthought

sarahyahn

Tetsuo Shima

composingkeys

Sily

Xyte

Sangmu

Watchtower

Copper North

justjay

Riven

Exquis

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hal0hal0

bigstupidgrin

Vaka

Milya

Rajah

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