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#21 ·
agokcen said:
I'm not a dude, but I sure can act like one. So I count.

Anyway, I'm the master of mixed signals, but if I'm interested in someone, there's one telltale sign. You can tell by the fact that I never get saturated with his company. When spending time with most people, I'll eventually leave of my own accord whenever I deem it appropriate, but if I'm really interested, I'll just...never leave. Even if we're just sitting and doing nothing, I'll stay and stay and stay until being told to go. ("Ajda....You should probably go to bed now." "Okaaay....")

Sleep takes a backseat to spending time with that person.
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You make a really good point.
It's exactly the same for me, but with some diferences.

For example, in a party i use to do things deliberately:
- to be late,
- to leave people very quickly
- to say :" i have to go, to do something...."
- to say : "i don't have a lot of time..."
- to see most people in the party
Thoses tthings help me to be THE GUY, people want to be around, because i use to be funny but most of all, because i'm RARE.
in fact, i want to say that the time i can stay with those people is rare.

But if i do thoses things, and i stay anyway .... it's because i'm interested in something or someone.
and if i'm interested in someone, i try the most i can do to impress her female friends, looking at her sometimes.
and sometimes i make jokes (but not in a mean way) about her to her friends, and i make joke about her to her.

just to make a connection between us, with the help of her female friends. ;)
 
#22 ·
NoxiousRogue said:
Of note however: Don't try and play games or give mixed signals. Games are obvious to us, and he'll lose interest, and mixed signals will cause him to either lose interest or probe you further for signs of interest. (at least I do)
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oh i'm totally on board with this. Do. not. ever. try to outplay, out strategize, or outwit us with games or mixed signals. You will lose. You cannot outplay us or outthink us. Feelers that do that end up following our lead anyway. Worst comes to worst, we'll just shut you out.

AirMarionette said:
They make up random excuses to touch you - "Hey, look at the moon!" (TOUCH) / "It's so cold out, are you cold?" (HUG)
They effortlessly seek to leave you in wonder by doing what they do best - creating (music, art, a toy, etc).
They tell adventurous stories of the past or speak their ephemeral thoughts of the future when engaged in this process.
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OMG I have been trying to seduce this INFJ guy doing these things. I'm constantly trying to leave him "in wonder" with my creations, thoughts, pictures, posts, wit, whatever i have in my intellectual pocket, to impress him and leave an impression..clever innuendos, whatever i've got. Oh yeah, and its worked. Well, in progress at any rate. And i did the whole "cold" thing.

JohnGalt said:
If you are an INFx, you can tell he likes you by how much he tries to entertain you, often through his interactions with others.
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...I am always trying to entertain him. If they're sad, i want to cheer them up. Most often, I want to keep them laughing and warm them up. I love seeing them in a bad mood, and come out of it after talking with me for 5 minutes.
 
#23 ·
When you notice the ENTP in question stammers and makes really stupid jokes.

True story... I tend to outright reject at least 90% of the females I date in my life but for the other 10% that I've taken a liking to always see some display of outright idiocy within the first few hours of spending time with me. Whether it be a joke gone completely wrong (eg. George Bush "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice....well....the point is you cant fool me again!"), or inadvertently getting into a debate and nearly insulting her, its as if Murphy's Law looms over my head everytime I expect the best out of a situation.

Have no worries though, you are talking about an ENTP here. A master in the fine art of postrationalization, and absolutely, positively the greatest fiasco turn-arounder, treating every situation with a dose of reality distortion and topic-switching. I shall have her smooching in no time.

*cue Casablanca theme song. Yeah, Gable was an ENTP too XD.

Here's a clip for those who aren't familiar with the aformentioned Bushism:

 
#24 ·
Hmm these are a few of the things my ENTP friend did when we were together:

1. He opened up really fast, talking about deep things like it was natural for him.
2. He sort of leaned in a lot. We were watching a movie together and he kept edging closer to me.
3. He wants to spend most of his time with you. ENTPs are really popular and they like being around groups. If he wants to spend time with just you, he thinks you're something special.
4. He tells you he likes you (this is the most obvious sign)
 
#25 ·
Okay. What I want to know is how do you know this person is an ENTP? Did you get them to take the test for you? I go to these threads and people say "I know this ENFJ, INFJ or ENTP and they do this. . ."

Just wondering or do people just make assumptions about the people they're interested in and encountering in day to day life since who we are at work or home is not necessarily who we are.

Just wondering
 
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redcarol57 said:
Okay. What I want to know is how do you know this person is an ENTP? Did you get them to take the test for you? I go to these threads and people say "I know this ENFJ, INFJ or ENTP and they do this. . ."

Just wondering or do people just make assumptions about the people they're interested in and encountering in day to day life since who we are at work or home is not necessarily who we are.

Just wondering
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INFJs are very good at type casting... met a few who are very spot on. They are good at analysis. MBTI is actually based on Jungian psychology, he himself a rank INFJ.
 
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redcarol57 said:
Okay. What I want to know is how do you know this person is an ENTP? Did you get them to take the test for you? I go to these threads and people say "I know this ENFJ, INFJ or ENTP and they do this. . ."

Just wondering or do people just make assumptions about the people they're interested in and encountering in day to day life since who we are at work or home is not necessarily who we are.

Just wondering
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As an INFJ, the fact that you'd be "hiding" (I'm sorry but people just stink at this--you'd be better off fooling me by being obvious: "It can't possibly this simple!?!?!") and what you are trying to hide can often be the tip-off of your cognitive functions and therefore personality type.

I find that ExTP's are good at hiding their Fe to a point, but once I let one know that I, too, have Fe and don't expect anyone to understand it perfectly (That's what ExFJ's are for, and the same could be said for any function and the types the have it as their dominant function.), next thing you know, men in particular, just dump it on me. (Okay, so I totally provoke it to make sure I'm not incorrect: cue adorability and then I'm struggling under the just-dumped weight of the tertiary Fe-user.)

I'm pretty sure a co-worker of mine is an ENTP as his brain is just *everywhere* all at once, he can be a bit oblivious of his impact on others, yet seems to enjoy the popularity--and every time I do something remotely "cute" (seriously, a wonderful quality of Fe is being sympathetic to others' weaknesses, when you least expect to) he stumbles over his words and mumbles/calls me "Blue Drink." (I had blue Gatrorade... I dunno, I don't exactly get it.)

Put as summarily as I can, as an INFJ, I know I'm wrong about what I think someone's personality type is--or at least that's what I tell myself so I don't run away with it (even if I am right quite often)--and I test and re-test people to find out if I'm right. Sometimes it only takes 5 minutes, sometimes it takes 5 years, but I'll be durned if I'm going to let someone else know I'm an INFJ (or even if they don't know MBTI, that I have those qualities of an INFJ) before I know what they're up to! Which is precisely why I adore you ENTP's, I've found you're the only type fast enough to nearly beat me to it. Aww... Cue adorability and watch an ENTP stumble. :kitteh:
 
#28 ·
It's come to my attention lately that ENTP "flirting" is essentially what most people see as normal interaction with other human beings.
EL OH EL TIMEZ TWO MILLIONS.

So the best way to tell if an ENTP likes you, is if they start conversations with you and try to engage you in conversation for long periods of time.

How to progress this in to something further? My best advice is don't do anything until the ENTP is sure about how they feel. XNTP's really don't trust feelings and are hypercritical to them, so they are going to try and convince themselves they don't like you even if they do because that's probably the safer option.

So just relax, be friendly with them (or in ENTP speak, "flirt" with them) and in time (probably a long time) they'll give in and admit they like you. At that point, things will probably naturally progress into a relationship anyway.

Best of luck!

Edit: I just read someone's comment about don't play games or give out mixed signals, talk about double standards. The ENTP WILL do this. Though in this case, the mixed signals aren't because they are messing with you, it's usually because they have no idea what they are doing and somehow think that you can read their minds. They can't tell that their mixed signals are in fact mixed signals and hot and cold behaviour are in fact, mixed signals. Whatever you do, don't take it personally and don't over analyse it (this means being genuinely confident in who you are regardless of what this ENTP crush does). But if they cross a line, let them know because they genuinely have no idea. The older they get, the more natural engaging people in long conversations becomes and they more likely they are to start to displaying more obvious signs of attraction. So be easy on the poor guy, he may talk like he's sauvé but he's probably shitting a brick every time he sees you (you can tell this by the number of times they mess up what they are trying to say.)
 
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agokcen said:
I'm not a dude, but I sure can act like one. So I count.

Anyway, I'm the master of mixed signals, but if I'm interested in someone, there's one telltale sign. You can tell by the fact that I never get saturated with his company. When spending time with most people, I'll eventually leave of my own accord whenever I deem it appropriate, but if I'm really interested, I'll just...never leave. Even if we're just sitting and doing nothing, I'll stay and stay and stay until being told to go. ("Ajda....You should probably go to bed now." "Okaaay....")

Sleep takes a backseat to spending time with that person.
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JungleDisco said:
It's come to my attention lately that ENTP "flirting" is essentially what most people see as normal interaction with other human beings.
EL OH EL TIMEZ TWO MILLIONS.

So the best way to tell if an ENTP likes you, is if they start conversations with you and try to engage you in conversation for long periods of time.

How to progress this in to something further? My best advice is don't do anything until the ENTP is sure about how they feel. XNTP's really don't trust feelings and are hypercritical to them, so they are going to try and convince themselves they don't like you even if they do because that's probably the safer option.

So just relax, be friendly with them (or in ENTP speak, "flirt" with them) and in time (probably a long time) they'll give in and admit they like you. At that point, things will probably naturally progress into a relationship anyway.

Best of luck!

Edit: I just read someone's comment about don't play games or give out mixed signals, talk about double standards. The ENTP WILL do this. Though in this case, the mixed signals aren't because they are messing with you, it's usually because they have no idea what they are doing and somehow think that you can read their minds. They can't tell that their mixed signals are in fact mixed signals and hot and cold behaviour are in fact, mixed signals. Whatever you do, don't take it personally and don't over analyse it (this means being genuinely confident in who you are regardless of what this ENTP crush does). But if they cross a line, let them know because they genuinely have no idea. The older they get, the more natural engaging people in long conversations becomes and they more likely they are to start to displaying more obvious signs of attraction. So be easy on the poor guy, he may talk like he's sauvé but he's probably shitting a brick every time he sees you (you can tell this by the number of times they mess up what they are trying to say.)
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Agreed. Also, he may insult you, but that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. This might seem a bit complicated, but ENTPs will insult you gently if they like you (at least I do). Return. You won't hurt our feelings. You'll make us feel better. We rarely insult people we don't like. But when we do insult people we don't like, it's so horribly bad they aren't able to respnd in any way. In fact, they tend to back off and learn their natural place as our inferiors.

Also, we don't trust our feelings. At all. In fact, the few times we do trust our feelings, we're wrong.

Finally, we love explaining and discussing our ideas, but only once through. Competence and intellect are attractive. That and we just can't deal with incompetence. If you want to really impress us, debate our ideas. Don't worry about beating us and then having problems with hurt feelings. You won't win. And even if you had a chance, you wouldn't hurt our feelings. You'd prove to us that you are definitely competent. And we will love you all the more for it.
 
#31 ·
It's come to my attention lately that ENTP "flirting" is essentially what most people see as normal interaction with other human beings.
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Lol, you are right. I never really thought about it like that though. Is the opposite true? Are our normal interactions with other humans considered flirting?

the mixed signals aren't because they are messing with you, it's usually because they have no idea what they are doing and somehow think that you can read their minds.
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That, plus I really dont like people to know who I have an interest in. That includes the person themselves. This leads to odd things lol. My brain will be saying things like "well no, you cant do/say that because then they will think you are interested.", when I in fact am...sigh. Basically I will over think everything down to very minute details, this leads to a cascade of mixed signals...sorry guys :blushed:.

They can't tell that their mixed signals are in fact mixed signals and hot and cold behaviour are in fact, mixed signals. Whatever you do, don't take it personally and don't over analyse it (this means being genuinely confident in who you are regardless of what this ENTP crush does). But if they cross a line, let them know because they genuinely have no idea. The older they get, the more natural engaging people in long conversations becomes
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Lol, yes.
 
#32 ·
If I let you in on several of my games, interrogate you, and/or let you see sides of me other friends probably don't know about (especially a more serious side) that's a strong indication. However, this doesn't necessarily mean I have decided whether I would date you or not. These are more like trials because I am very very very picky when it comes to dating. It's a big investment for me so I do a lot of research. However, I try very hard not to appear to be leading a girl on and I make a decision as quickly as possible. Let's not forget she could very well shoot me down so I would prefer to ask a girl out ASAP as I don't like wasting my time on things that have a dead end.

P.s. I am rewrote this six times.
 
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ENTrePeneur said:
Yes. ENTPs tend to be very careful when showing their feelings for the victims of their love...We tend to overthink things. A lot.
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I like that "victims of their love" line. Can I use that in my next book? It's priceless.
 
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Meowschwitz Man said:
If I let you in on several of my games, interrogate you, and/or let you see sides of me other friends probably don't know about (especially a more serious side) that's a strong indication. However, this doesn't necessarily mean I have decided whether I would date you or not. These are more like trials because I am very very very picky when it comes to dating. It's a big investment for me so I do a lot of research. However, I try very hard not to appear to be leading a girl on and I make a decision as quickly as possible. Let's not forget she could very well shoot me down so I would prefer to ask a girl out ASAP as I don't like wasting my time on things that have a dead end.

P.s. I am rewrote this six times.
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I looked at your signature - you might have rewrote your response 6 times, but you misspelled lothario. Don't you hate when that happens??
 
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JungleDisco said:
It's come to my attention lately that ENTP "flirting" is essentially what most people see as normal interaction with other human beings.
EL OH EL TIMEZ TWO MILLIONS.

So the best way to tell if an ENTP likes you, is if they start conversations with you and try to engage you in conversation for long periods of time.

How to progress this in to something further? My best advice is don't do anything until the ENTP is sure about how they feel. XNTP's really don't trust feelings and are hypercritical to them, so they are going to try and convince themselves they don't like you even if they do because that's probably the safer option.

So just relax, be friendly with them (or in ENTP speak, "flirt" with them) and in time (probably a long time) they'll give in and admit they like you. At that point, things will probably naturally progress into a relationship anyway.

Best of luck!

Edit: I just read someone's comment about don't play games or give out mixed signals, talk about double standards. The ENTP WILL do this. Though in this case, the mixed signals aren't because they are messing with you, it's usually because they have no idea what they are doing and somehow think that you can read their minds. They can't tell that their mixed signals are in fact mixed signals and hot and cold behaviour are in fact, mixed signals. Whatever you do, don't take it personally and don't over analyse it (this means being genuinely confident in who you are regardless of what this ENTP crush does). But if they cross a line, let them know because they genuinely have no idea. The older they get, the more natural engaging people in long conversations becomes and they more likely they are to start to displaying more obvious signs of attraction. So be easy on the poor guy, he may talk like he's sauvé but he's probably shitting a brick every time he sees you (you can tell this by the number of times they mess up what they are trying to say.)
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Yes it's true. What some people consider normal behavior - we consider flirting. We just assume the other person can tell we're flirting - which is why so many ENTP's don't marry until later in life - LOL.

And you're right - we aren't messing with others. WE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT WE ARE DOING!! LOL.
 
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thegirlcandance said:
- If you catch him staring at you
- If he tells you "how wonderful he is" and elaborates as to why that is so
- If he jokes around with you (and, of course, in the INFJ way we then feed off of it and throw back brilliant responses)
- If he goes out of his way to hang out with you (especially if, to you, it may make no sense because, as an INFJ, you will see several reasons based on current circumstances as to why he should not pursue you)
- If he tells you more personal things about himself
- If he is interested in what you have to say
- If he touches you inappropriately
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Personally, I disagree with a couple of these. Actually, I disagree with the whole thread. Depends on the ENTP, I say! Everyone is unique!
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-Ditto. Actually, you won't even have to catch him. I just stare at people, daring them to maintain eye contact with me, make it into a competition to see who looks away first. It creates intimacy and connection without the romantic context, so things won't get awkward if (or more likely, when) I fuck up.
-I rarely do this. I abstain from giving compliments, and when I do, they're rather vague and don't make too much sense. I do make them feel special, but try to hide the fact that I'm trying to.
-Yup
-Yes
-obviously. No ENTP likes a boring person. Fucking nobody likes a boring person.
-Man, I love this part!

Another telltale sign is mixed signals. I like playing Cat and Mouse with them, hinting intense attraction one day and showing complete apathy the next. It makes things interesting, and it's good for gauging their reaction, so you can see how far along you are. Don't misinterpret this, though. A few flirty flings probably don't mean anything, other than he was bored.
 
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For me; I think you would notice a difference in that I would be socially polite to a random girl but bit more enthusiastic to a girl that I like. I would not be over flirty until I had made my mind up. Obviously that means testing the mental sparring, as the aesthetics are decided in milliseconds. Then I'd tell you directly, but simply. "I quite like you, we should go out", or similar. I would assume that if you are still talking to me, still smiling and have connected on a mental level that you feel the same.

If we did not connect on mental level then I'd weigh up the chances of sex without me putting in much chase and just being myself and pleasing the other socially. She'd know before that I was not looking for more than sex.

But that's me.
 
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