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I have always wondered how compatibility is linked between the different types on the enneagram. Can you actually connect lines (like the lines of integration and disintegration) to show the most compatible pairs? If not, what are the most compatible pairs?

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I agree that 9s and 1s can be a good couple. I think 1 + 5 works out well, too (I picked a 5). Fives seem like pretty-laid back people for the most parts, as do 9s, so they can help balance out a more engaging type (like 1 or 6, for instance).

I also find that in medical/therapeutic relationships, I get along well with 9s, too. My hypnotherapist is a confirmed 9, and my GP is a suspected 9. I've found that I can work well with both these individuals- they're a better fit for me than many other professionals I've dealt with. Don't know if it's specifically because they're 9s- I think they'd be great people regardless of type- but I do seem to get along very well with most 9s.
 
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I think that instinctual stacking is more important in that regard than Enneagram types. At least from my experience.
 
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This is a good point. I wouldn't say it's necessarily more important, but having at least the same dominant variant can make things easier in a relationship. The two people involved in the relationship are inclined to understand certain behaviors better, at least, this is how it's worked out for me thus far.
 
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I think there are characteristics about the Etypes and their makings in each individual which play a large factor in compatibility that has great difficulty being explained by either instinctual variants or wing theory. For instance, some 6s have trouble settling down with an SO and are always looking for something interesting and this would not make them compatible with a 1 because 1s often emphasize stability instead of an outgoing nature though 1s are supposed to be highly compatible. Some 1s are too objective and detached to be compatible a 6s and their trust issues. Some 1s do not emphasize the objective nature of the world, but instead causes so they're less likely to be compatible with 5s than some others.
 
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The link @Ace Face posted has some freakishly, creepily accurate descriptions of type interactions. Many of them have been extremely true for me.

It's said that fours and nines go well together, but both of my serious relationships have been with male nines and both have ended not-so-pleasantly and conflicts/conflict resolution was never pleasant. I think there are many more factors that come into play.
 
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viva said:
The link @Ace Face posted has some freakishly, creepily accurate descriptions of type interactions. Many of them have been extremely true for me.

It's said that fours and nines go well together, but both of my serious relationships have been with male nines and both have ended not-so-pleasantly and conflicts/conflict resolution was never pleasant. I think there are many more factors that come into play.
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It's kinda creepy how accurate it was for me, too *nods*
 
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Curious to hear more about 5 / 6 relationships. I've been in a number of romantic entanglements with 5s -- I seem to be drawn to that energy. So long as I can keep myself from falling into the pattern of seeking excess reassurance (which 5s I've encountered tend to resist habitually by withdrawing), things tend to go smoothly. I can help 5s get more embodied and take risks; the 5s provide me with lots of fascinating intellectual stimulation and quirky observations. Other thoughts?
 
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