I have fancied, for over a year now, a man who I once thought was an ISFJ...but I now believe he's an ISTJ. I only come into contact with him when he comes into the cafe to eat, which is a few times a week. I work there as a waitress. So it could be that I have him mistyped, but I guarantee you he's an ISXJ.
Anyway, we chit-chat, and if I'm not busy, I sit down at the table and visit with him and his father. My very slow plan of action has been getting him to warm up to me, as he's very shy. He's an incredibly tough nut to crack, truth be told. I can tell that he's more comfortable talking to me, and he's very witty and funny. He's one of those "still waters run deep" type of guys, and after crushing on him for more than a year, I'm getting impatient with myself. I want to know what's under the surface of this handsome, stoic, dark-haired, blue-eyed man.
His uncle gave me his phone number. Maybe that's a breach of texting etiquette? I don't know. But I'm debating whether or not I should text him, and ask him if he wants to hang out & watch a movie. I'm not a very good initiator of contact. In fact, I'm quite the loner myself. But the anticipation of wanting to get to know him far outweighs my fear of stepping outside my comfort zone. Would it be a major turn-off if I texted him out of the blue? I don't know how the thought process works of any man regarding being "sneaky" about getting a number I didn't ask for personally. I'm also clueless about what the "typical" ISXJ thinks about being pursued.
Please enlighten me! I'm having a tough time deciding what to do, and the one thing preventing me from taking any kind of action is, of course, a dreaded fear of rejection...or him just not responding at all.
Should I just continue casually chatting with him whenever he comes into the cafe and see what comes of it, or should I take the initiative and get the proverbial ball rolling?
Thanks!
Anyway, we chit-chat, and if I'm not busy, I sit down at the table and visit with him and his father. My very slow plan of action has been getting him to warm up to me, as he's very shy. He's an incredibly tough nut to crack, truth be told. I can tell that he's more comfortable talking to me, and he's very witty and funny. He's one of those "still waters run deep" type of guys, and after crushing on him for more than a year, I'm getting impatient with myself. I want to know what's under the surface of this handsome, stoic, dark-haired, blue-eyed man.
His uncle gave me his phone number. Maybe that's a breach of texting etiquette? I don't know. But I'm debating whether or not I should text him, and ask him if he wants to hang out & watch a movie. I'm not a very good initiator of contact. In fact, I'm quite the loner myself. But the anticipation of wanting to get to know him far outweighs my fear of stepping outside my comfort zone. Would it be a major turn-off if I texted him out of the blue? I don't know how the thought process works of any man regarding being "sneaky" about getting a number I didn't ask for personally. I'm also clueless about what the "typical" ISXJ thinks about being pursued.
Please enlighten me! I'm having a tough time deciding what to do, and the one thing preventing me from taking any kind of action is, of course, a dreaded fear of rejection...or him just not responding at all.
Should I just continue casually chatting with him whenever he comes into the cafe and see what comes of it, or should I take the initiative and get the proverbial ball rolling?
Thanks!
