I do think most INFJs talk about being guilty of this. I pretty much agree with all of the responses so far.
I personally hate text messages - even messages on PerC. Because I can't see anyone I'm talking to, it gives me far less incentive to sit by my phone and patiently wait for every and any message.
When I was in major Fe mode at high-school, I replied lightening quick to everything and it was absolutely exhausting. I did it for the benefit of others, not because I cared about the conversations or really wanted to. The older I got, the more I reverted to my natural - which isn't texting or communicating much.
I can go without replying to people for months - if I take a quick look of my phone, there are plenty of people whose messages I'm not replying to yet. For a variety of reasons.
I never used to be so bad but I guess I'm fed up with other people and their lack of reliability. These are some of the same people I knew when I was pretty young who aren't reliable - you text them, they don't reply, you see them in person months later and they acknowledge that they saw it but said nothing even though they're now asking to see more of you. :frustrating: Absolutely frickin' bizarre.
It wasn't a conscious, "You used to make me wait so now I'm doing it you" moreso, I just see these people who never text me back, within what I consider a reasonable amount of time, worth me rushing to text back. Unless it's my mother really, I make everyone else wait - they can take it or leave it and they all know about my phone and texting habits. I want to take my time. If I have nothing to say to you, I'm not going to text you the minute I have your message.
The same goes for in person. If you ask me question in person and I don't have an answer yet - I'll let you know and I'll answer you later.
I wouldn't read too far into INFJs not texting back quickly - as annoying as it is.
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@zosio913 said, feeling like you need to reply NOW, really puts me off. It's a lot easier to say you're not ready to answer or you don't have an answer in person. By text it is rather awkward to try and text that you don't have anything to say - you may as well just not say anything. I can think of 80 ways to text you back and 2,000 ways it might be received (Ni-Fe). The anxiety I often feel in texting back makes me not want to.
I prefer phone calls - that being said, I rarely pick up the phone either
All of my friends know this. Some of them have gotten the hint and don't call me often (and complain they would if I picked up) but many still do call me but communicate their annoyance. Phone calls send my anxiety through the roof if on rare occasions I am by my phone when it rings - so you likely won't get me picking up unless you text first. It is what it is. I keep my phone on silent almost permanently.
Now that I think about it, having loads of private messages and quotes to reply to also puts me off replying even here. If it is 'work' I will always prioritise it and not complain. If it is leisure, like this is supposed to be, it's hard for me. I think most people who PM me here know I take a while to reply and with quotes, nowadays I am selective with those I reply to at all or I just miss them completely and only see them months later :crying:
