INFJ on one night stands and dating

Alaya · Jan 14, 2012

I admit, I don't have problem with one night stands as long as the other person involved agrees that it is purely a physical and sexual act and not an emotional bond. Otherwise, it's...problematic.

Given, the sex is much better when it's coming out of love and with someone I know deeply enough(no pun intended lol)

And yeah, I'm not a woman but...meh

Hastings · Jan 14, 2012

enneagram6level9 said:
god damn it u guys have it easy.....fcuk this bullshit

I think the point was that we aren't "easy"? ;-)

Cthulhu And Coffee · Jun 8, 2013

1. I've thought about them, but I think I would more quickly forget about sex for a while before compromising my STRONG DESIRE to first be in a committed, emotional relationship (I could have sex with a stranger, but would most likely feel very used afterward.)

2. I've always met guys at school or, once, through my step dad's family, but I'd prefer to meet them doing things I actually enjoy.

meiming8 · Jun 8, 2013

1) Have had ONSs before but it's not really my thing. Unlike a lot of INFJs on this thread, I don't mind having sex without an emotional connection, it's just that my experiences weren't particularly enjoyable and it seems like a lot of hassle for what you're getting.

2) Probably through my social circle. Friend of a friend sort of thing. Meeting someone cold seems a little awkward, but I'm not opposed to it. I enjoy casual dating so either way is cool!

segway92 · Jun 8, 2013

enneagram6level9 said:
For INFJ women:

1) one night stands: not your thing, because its too easy/unethical or you need a connection/relationship

2)do you date men through your social circle,work,family get togethers OR you are open to cold approaches (strangers approaching you at the mall/lounge/bookstore/poetry contest)?

1) I had a one night stand before and I ended up dating the person for five years but I just knew with them. But usually no I need a deep connection and I would have to see if I respected you first which is why I can't just sleep with someone I just met cuz you could easily be full of shit and just charming. I have met a lot of charming people who weren't so charming the next day.

2) I tend to meet people everywhere. Mostly at school and work. Work seems to be more often. At school I'm really absorbed in my studies but I smile a lot so I seem approachable I'm told. I like cold approaches that are direct but doesn't rush me to make a decision. I always accept a first date because everyone deserves a chance.

Deadaccount · Jun 8, 2013

1. I tend to avoid the one night stand, simply because, like most INFJ's, it is not really just sex. Especially if I really like the guy, I am going to fall... And fall very hard and fast.

2. Cold approaches all the way. I prefer if my friends do not know him, then he is all MINE! Lol.

INFJ on one night stands and dating

Alaya

Hastings

Cthulhu And Coffee

meiming8

segway92

Deadaccount

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