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Hey guys, first thread I've ever posted here.

Just wondering, what kind of relationship do my fellow infps have with your siblings? I was never that close to my older sister who is 7 years my senior, and pretty much my complete opposite, hard-headed, temperamental, assertive, ESTJ I think. But I'm extremely close to my little sister, who is 5 years younger than me. We pretty much grew up together, and I kind of see myself as her mentor, always giving her advice for school and life in general, she does the same for me (think 500 Days of Summer). I guess the reason I'm posting is that I'm currently faced with the prospect of staying in New York for work this summer, and I almost feel bad for not being at home in LA instead. My little sister is growing up quickly, and soon she'll be off to college herself. Tensions between her and my parents are worse when I'm not around, and she is often bored at home when I'm not there to hang out with. I suppose it's just nostalgia for the past, and a part of growing up and leaving home, but any of you guys have similar experiences?
 
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I have an older sister... She's an ESxP (not sure on if she's T or F yet). We don't talk much and when we do, it's abundantly clear that we have little in common. While not in your situation, I can definitely relate to unsatisfactory relationships with siblings. I see my mom and my aunt getting along great and wonder if I'll ever have that with my sister.
 
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my older sister is an INFP but i don't really get along with her. don't know why, i've tried ... she's 7 years older than me and she had a much tougher time growing up than i did. Im some ways we are so much alike but in others not. I rarely like to speak with her but when i do we can talk about almost anything and we go on for hours.


With my parents growing up i didn't got along so well (though it wasn't so bad either) ... but lately i'm learning to understand and respect them and i can be very open with them, they trust me.
 
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As for my ENFP brother, well anyone can guess how well our relationship works. Me and him are crazy together.The only time we fight is when he doesn't know how to take situations seriously. He laughs at the most serious issues and turns everything into a joke. It drives me up the wall.

Edit: I actually found out today that my older brother is indeed and INFP, which surprised me completely, as I typed him as an IxTJ. He's just extremely reserved, therefore I don't know much about him or his ideals. Either way, it made me pretty interested to hear what he had to say today.
 
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My brother Dream is kinda self absorbed. My big sister Death is weary and I try not to insult her ever. My oldest brother Destiny is very wise and shares stories with me about the future. I'm very jealous of my lovely sister Desire, not so much of my other sister Despair. Delight used to be my favorite sister, but she turned into Delirium. We still go out sometimes.

Ah too much reading Sandman :tongue:
 
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I'm the oldest sibling in my family. My brother is an ESTJ and my sister is an ENFP. My brother is fun-loving, serious, honest, funny, intelligent, good-hearted, and hardworking. My sister is bold, loud, and her stubborness is funny, but also loving, kind, sensitive, and passionate. I get along with them very well most of the times, but sometimes I don't talk to them too much. But I know that they both love me and I love them both.
 
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I have 2 older sisters, One 3 years older, the other 6.

I ain't very close to them, I do get on with them but I ain't close, I'm on my own in my room most of the time But they seem rather close to each other and do alot of stuff together and have funny nicknames etc

I don't know their personality type's >.<

Closest person I've been to was my Nan (Grandmother), No idea what her personality type could of been but we got on so well. She lived quiet far from me so I only got to see her on weekends which I did so, every weekend! She had an aviary full of canarys and she used to teach me everything about them and let me help look after them.
Sadly she died of Cancer when I was 11 years old, When she passed away she let me pick a couple of her canaries for me to take home and look after them myself.
 
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I was never that close to my older sister who is 7 years my senior, and pretty much my complete opposite, hard-headed, temperamental, assertive
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My sister is almost exactly the same, she's kinda tactless, short tempered, loud. Where as I'm the complete opposite. I've never been close to her, at all.
 
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I had an extremely close relationship with one of my brothers. He was very sensitive caring and quirky. I don't know how to type him since it would be completely retrospective (he's no longer around) and his schizophrenia makes it hard to tell what parts were him and what parts were the disorder. ExFx is all I could say. He used to indulge my wanting to play make-believe and we'd make up crazy games and make up imaginary character roles and situations that we'd play together. It was amazing :happy:
My other brother and I became a lot closer after he died, he's 8 years older and so wasn't around much when I was becoming a teenager and less of the 'annoying younger brother' :laughing: I'm not as good at talking to him but we're not distant by any means and he invites me over his place and on nights out and stuff. I've recently been trying to return that more so it doesn't feel one-sided to him (I'm notoriously bad at initiating things :blushed:) He's a bit less good with emotions and I don't feel like I know him as well as I want to, but we still have some fun and get along so it's not a bad relationship :happy: Typing him is pretty difficult too. ExxP is all I'm sure of. I'm inclined to think NT but that could be skewed by the emotions thing and that he's interested in abstract computer stuff and maths
 
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I'm the oldest of three and I am very close to my siblings! Although we don't see each other that many days per year right now. I love them so much. My brother is an INXP and we are very much alike, he is my favourite person to hang out with because we have so much to talk about, we like doing the same things and we have a very similar view of life. My sister is an ENTJ, and for being so different, we get along really well. But I think I've mentored her in a way that is very unnatural for her personality...haha
 
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Riy said:
I have 2 older sisters, One 3 years older, the other 6.

I ain't very close to them, I do get on with them but I ain't close, I'm on my own in my room most of the time But they seem rather close to each other and do alot of stuff together and have funny nicknames etc

I don't know their personality type's >.<

Closest person I've been to was my Nan (Grandmother), No idea what her personality type could of been but we got on so well. She lived quiet far from me so I only got to see her on weekends which I did so, every weekend! She had an aviary full of canarys and she used to teach me everything about them and let me help look after them.
Sadly she died of Cancer when I was 11 years old, When she passed away she let me pick a couple of her canaries for me to take home and look after them myself.
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that part about your grandma just breaks my heart...
 
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i have an ISTJ brother who is like the least emotive person I've met. He thinks that being emotional is a weakness. For him, being stoic in the face of hardship is the purest form of dignity and strength. Needless to say, we don't agree on many levels. The only thing I can talk to him about is video games, movies, entertainment.
 
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I have three older sisters. One four years older(ESFJ), one ten years older (ESTJ) and one 15 years older (ESFP) and don't get along with any of them. I love them but I just can't stand being around them. I do have an adopted INFP brother that I love dearly. To me we could be twins by the way we get alone.
 
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i have two younger sisters, one is 10 (ESFJ) and one is 13 (INFJ). (I'm 16). Let's call them M and H. ( haha :D ) it's hard to say completely with my 10 year old sister, M, i know she's EXFX for sure. Don't even get me started on my 13 y.o. sister, H,'s J vs P. haha.... we're pretty close i guess. I still live with them so it's easier to stay connected, you know.. at different stages of my life ive been a bit closer with different ones. like until M was about 4 me and H were way close and played together all day long. Then when we moved H started to get weird and i did stuff with M a lot more. then like 2 ish years ago (around when i discovered the whole myers briggs thing) me and H realized we were really similar personality wise (we thought she was an INFP too at that point, not completely sure she's not but still.) so then it was also better because we could talk about a lot, we were often thinking along the same wavelength, that type thing. and also M was developing her personality more, like she turned extremely E and S and got pretty bossy. Right now I might be a little more close with M mostly because H has her own problems going on and partially, M will do more to please me. Even though we fight a lot, if she is in the right mood she will agree with anything i saw and will sneak candy together and not tell. haha, they used to both be tattle tales but i guess im saying me and M can be partners in crime, when H is kind of a goody goody. haha...I am totally rambling now. partially H is kind of distant, because she has some thing i dont know what its called...we thought it was ADD but it turns out to be something related to anxiety...? i dont know, but she gets super stressed out at school, extremely disorganized, anxious and sensitive to the point where its bad (and that's coming from me, who is super sensitive). anyways....i mean i still like her a lot, its just sad because she can be a really cool person but all this stress that her life is causing her just brings out her bad qualities that she cant really be fun with. hopefully summer will be better....anyways...my ramble is over.
 
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Excellent topic OP.

I have 2 siblings. One is my younger brother and the other is my younger sister. Now here's the thing...me and my bro have recently not been able to stand each other (he's overly logical and im overly random), and my sister tends to gravitate towards me (and today my mom says that she thinks she likes me slightly more than my brother) since im the more random easy to get along with fun one

BUT, my brother got the engineer brainiac smarts so that definitely is currently helping him demonstrate a high level of "success" (the way our society currently deems it as HAHA)

and im sure when people compare my bro to me they're just like "yeh his bro is the smart successful one and he is just the rotten apple just bouncing around life aimlessly"...even though i firmly believe that if you were to put us in the same social situations i would be the one to "charm" other people (but then my INFP/social anxiety crap always gets in my way sooner or later and i retreat back to the cave!)

so THX American society, you're really making it easy on us INFPS!...not.
 
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my sister is an ENFJ and is an asshole. everyone else thinks she's great and happy and nice, but she's a complete bitch and I just want to kill myself around her. she's so manipulative and only talks about herself, and she's the reason why I have no friends outside of my school class. people say that INFPs and ENFJs are meant to be, but don't fall under the spell guys. they are master manipulators.
 
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One of my younger sisters who I'm fairly close with is an INFP. I'm an ENFP. My sister is somewhat aloof, very opinionated, quiet, unable to connect (as I am too),and independent. We are a lot alike except that she thinks I'm too loud and outgoing and naive compared to her. i attempt to voice what I feel but can get over holding a grudge much easier than her. She usually has more opinion than me and will want me to speak for all of us. I feel that she hides within herself too much. She comes off more selfish than some of my other siblings. She and I do share a special connection in the sense that we are both very spiritual and had some supernatural encounters. She and I are 3 out of 9 in our family that are the ones that are more free thinkers and done a variety of things. She definitely is more intune with who she is and what she likes where i'm more open to ideas and change. when we do hang out we ALWAYS have a pleasant time. neither of us can say the same about hanging out with every other family member of ours...as most of them are more strict, schedule oriented,clean freaks, and extremely dogmatic.
 
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