If you identify with ENFP and ENFJ
How about a type which have combination of both types ESFJ

ENFP(Ne - Fi - Te - Si)
ESFJ (Fe - Si - Ne - Ti)
ENFJ (Fe - Ni - Se - Ti)

ESFJ in a Nutshell
ESFJs are conscientious helpers, sensitive to the needs of others and energetically dedicated to their responsibilities. They are highly attuned to their emotional environment and attentive to both the feelings of others and the perception others have of them. ESFJs like a sense of harmony and cooperation around them, and are eager to please and provide.

ESFJs value loyalty and tradition, and usually make their family and friends their top priority. They are generous with their time, effort, and emotions. They often take on the concerns of others as if they were their own, and will attempt to put their significant organizational talents to use to bring order to other people's lives.

ESFJ Values and Motivations
ESFJs act according to a strict moral code, and look for others to do the same. They often see things in terms of black and white, right and wrong, and they are typically not shy about sharing their evaluations of others' behavior. ESFJs seek harmony and cooperation, and feel this is best accomplished when everyone follows the same set of rules. They have a sense of order in the way people relate to one another, and often take on roles that allow them to help enforce that social order.

ESFJs feel a sense of personal responsibility for other people's needs, and are usually eager to get involved and help out. They tend to be serious and practical, dutifully putting business before pleasure—especially the business of caring for others. They typically enjoy routine and often keep a regular schedule that allows them to be organized and productive.

How Others See the ESFJ
ESFJs may often be found playing host or hostess. They tend to take on the role of organizer without hesitation, and want to be sure that everyone is taken care of. Roles such as committee leader, event planner, and church volunteer suit the ESFJ well. They are typically engaged with their communities and work hard to do their part in maintaining the social order. ESFJs are interested in other people and like to know the details of their lives. Gossip is a favorite pasttime of many ESFJs; they love to share stories about the people around them.

ESFJs have a clear moral code that guides their behavior and their expectations from others. They often have strong opinions about how people should behave and the proper thing to do. Manners and other codes of social interaction are often of great interest to ESFJs. They may think in terms of black and white, right and wrong. They can be judgmental of others who they do not think are acting appropriately, but they have the best of intentions: they simply want everyone to follow the rules so they can all get along. The ESFJ wants things to be all right with the people around them, and may become very involved with others’ problems and concerns.

 

Another way to go about it is to observe fictional characters that are those types.

I have liked a few characters who I thought were ENFP at first but turned out to be ENFJ - I.e Rinoa Heartilly and Marinette Dupain Cheng. These 2 are quite consistent ENFJ.

Samantha from "Her" is also ENFJ. (I didn't think she was ENFP) but some mistakenly saw her as a manic pixie dream girl because she just helped some guy out of his funk.

These ENFJs seem rather upbeat and enthusiastic and can be confused for ENFPs on surface level.

I think the main difference between ENFJ and ENFP is:
ENFJ are more enthusiastic about helping people become better, happier people, in a very mentor/guru/life-coach sort of way, and can get more outwardly triggered at being being treated poorly.

ENFP are more enthusiastic about ideas, and not necessarily people per se.

I find ENFPs easier to have cheeky fun with. Less serious.

ENFJs I feel like are like me, but just say aloud what's on my mind (deep and people oriented things). I feel xNFJs take things a bit too seriously sometimes. (I'm an INFJ that switches to ENFJ sometimes.)

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You sound like you might be ENFJ? Try checking out their "You know you're an ENFJ when..." thread

https://www.personalitycafe.com/threads/you-know-youre-an-enfj-when.23077/

 

I have liked a few characters who I thought were ENFP at first but turned out to be ENFJ - I.e Rinoa Heartilly and Marinette Dupain Cheng. These 2 are quite consistent ENFJ.

Wait! Marinette Dupain-Cheng is ENFJ?! I also thought her to be ENFP.

 

I’m very outgoing, creative, enthusiastic, organized and optimistic.

ENFJ

 

You gave only two options, so I picked ENFJ, but you sound more ESFJ with that heavy Si coming in. This is so much Si, "I get stressed when a project, trip, etc., is messy, and there’s no certainty or clear plan." You almost sound like my ISFJ best friend, and she has to have everything planned out.

I'm an ENFP. I thoroughly enjoy planning a trip out and find this rabbit hole fun, and it will center around fun stuff to visit, do, or eat in the city we're going to. I try to find local fun spots that not every tourist knows about. I also don't stick to these plans and can easily maneuver like a kite on the wind going down a different path if something happens that day. I may also miss important details like the country needing a visa to enter, lol. My best friend would get out of shape if the couch she planned for the space did not fit the way it was in her head. For example, two weeks ago, she bought a beautiful custom-built dog crate from someone on Facebook. She measures her door to see if it will fit through. Excited about the purchase, she rushes over before anybody else can get it. They get it home, and it can fit through the front door but not through any other hallway in her house. She almost loses it. I look at the window and suggest it will be the only way to get it in. The INTJ, INFJ, and ISFJ dismiss it. I go over to the window and point out it's a newer window and how you can easily pop out the pains for cleaning, leaving a massive opening in the side of the room she's putting it in. When they see that the window pains can easily be removed without damage, they all agree that's the best plan. We get it in the room within 5 minutes, crisis and meltdown diverted. I would have kept it, but I would have pivoted where I would place it within my home, like the front living room. Because she did not plan that in her head, she would not pivot; it had to go in the room she had planned for.

I can plan, but I don't get bent out of shape or have anxiety about it.

 

Are you sure you're N? Maybe look into ES_J, with tertiary Ne

 

Enfp are really great at looking at the big picture whereas an enfj will look at the big picture but also the details and minutiae. We (enfj) are very similar to enfp

 

My dad is enfp and he is a very inspiring person to be around and has good leadership skills. His charisma and ability to read people make him really effective in this role and he's good at recognizing people's strengths and weaknesses. We work together and make a good team because I take initiative on all the executive functioning stuff he doesn't like to do as much. He has the vision, I help him plan how to carry it out. That's how we are different.

 

@Angel Cat don't judge me now ok, but I've been watching Barbie Dreamhouse adventures. Firstly because this reviewer was trashing Miraculous to death, but praises Barbie DHA a lot, and got me curious.

Barbie (from DHA) is now an ENFJ! (I think she was more of an ESFJ or something before). And the creators of Barbie DHA I think were trying to create a character that's a good role model for girls. And I have daughter that I watch it with. And I can say, Barbie from DHA is a quite a good role model for girls. Better than a lot of garbage out there.

I can see the pattern in Barbie DHA that she's similar to Marinette in how she often "doesn't want to disappoint someone" so she'll get into unfavourable situations. Seems to be a common ENFJ thing in fiction at least.

So yeah... ENFJs seem to make good role models for kids (when done right)! I suppose they're labelled "The Protagonist" for a reason.