[goldentryst]

We are highly empathetic people and for the most part, companions worth keeping. However I've come to realize that many INFPs have a terrible handle on time. Literally. There is an INFP guy I am somewhat currently seeing, and I can't help but notice that he's very lax with time. Also very passive action-wise. Such traits can be equated to being irresponsible and careless. I believe he has a good heart, but his lack of time-handling tends to cause me to have occasional negative doubts which I try to quickly dismiss. At the extreme, I questioned myself on how seriously he is taking me -- but of course that uncertainty always seems to dissipate the moment we're actually physically together. A bit frustrating, yet fun at the same time.

As for me, I'm also not the greatest with time management either. I have to plan out certain events or things to do and obsessively keep track of them in order to stay on top of things. As for work I tend to come in 5 minutes late (fixing that...). For classes I always show up early, however, because there are actual consequences for being late: possible drop from class upon too many tardies, and that awkward moment when you're walking to your desk with everyone watching. When I make promises with people, if they're a close acquaintance I'm a little late, but if they are not then I make sure to be on the dot. I personally view time as more flexible than I should.

Any thoughts? Anyone else relate to this?

 

[RetroVortex]

Oh yeah. I'm terrible at time management, especially multi-tasking! XD

I remember feeling terrible when I failed to do my part of an assignment once. I took much on at once, and I ended up letting the other team members down. I mean I did manage to salvage it, and get us a C grade, but those two French exchange students were mad and told me I ruined their experience.
I felt so bad about that.

And I feel terrible failing stuff. It's why I beat myself up all the time when I was at uni because I'm such a scatterbrain and I get distracted all the time.
I try to organise, but I normally end up losing track and all my notes, my schedules, all end up in a tangled mess! XD

 

[succubus]

I have a hard time with this and its not that I forget things, its just that I'm highly indecisive or I like to indulge too much in one thing I'm fixated on. Which brings me to my next point; because I'm so indecisive, once I decide on something or find something I'm really passionate about, I'll stick to it until I get deathly bored. More-so, I have a very hard time doing something that I have even the slightest amount of doubt(s) in/with. It can be anything from picking a place for dinner, meeting up with people to even what earrings I want that will go best with what I'm wearing. If something or the other irks me, I'll end up not doing it because I don't want to feel uneasy with not feeling "perfect" or just due to the fact that I'm just not "feeling it". I hope I made sense...

 

[IAmOrangeToday]

My time management is horrendous. I have seat in last-minute saloon with my name on it

And when I'm with my girlfriend, on skype or in reality, I just completely lose track of time.

 

[Floatingnotthinking]

Sadly, my time management is horrible, I see deadlines and such stuff to be flexible. Plus I'm a horrible procrastinator. Usually it doesn't really matter, but other times I've really gotten into trouble, such as when I'm in the art room before class, lose track of time and end up late for my period 1 class. And I've given belated gifts not because I forget to buy them, I make my gifts and I keep on forgetting that unlike assignments, I can't get an extension :bored:

 

[QueCueYew]

The locker and backpack I had while attending High School some years back completely mirrored my stance on time and responsibility. A complete mess with crumpled papers, forgotten knickknacks, just this black hole where organization and cohesion to some regiment would be paramount to success. It very much has followed me into young (mid?) adulthood, to which I'm just now getting around to fixing. Rather than lay down in my dirty bedroom I instead force the initiative to make a pot of coffee and clean up, which usually extends to the rest of the house. It isn't much but it is important to take into consideration that how you are with your own time reflects how you are on the job or out on the town. So, cleaning remains my stepping stone to really solidifying a belief that have what it takes to actually carve a life to live, even if the steps so far seem incredibly trivial to the grand picture. You can imagine the college experience didn't really fare better either.

In the past I've had a huge problem with tardiness and being late to jobs, which had me being fired once and voluntarily quitting other times because I proved to be more of a burden than an asset to the team I were working with. This isn't to say that I was horrid at every job I held, but it seemed at some one point I just didn't give a shit anymore and just slowly degraded in what I had to offer, which I sorely regret at this part although haven't really beaten myself over about it (which serves no point really).

Concerning friends, I'm always late. It just goes with the territory.

 

[Sily]

Well, this is interesting for me just because when I was working (retired now) I was notorious for arriving to appointments and meetings 20 minutes before they would start. I liked to get a good seat. But........ I can definitely drag my feet with places and activities I don't want to participate in. I'm a PRO in that area.

 

[Nightshade]

It depends on whether it's something I want or don't want to do. I often spend my mornings daydreaming, which results in me arriving at work a little late everyday, fortunately, my work is okay with that. If they weren't, I would force myself to arrive on time.

If I am meeting someone who is important to me, I'll arrive on time, maybe even earlier, depending on who it is. I also try to arrive on time when it comes to doctor appointments, because I do think about peoples impression of me. I don't want them thinking I am rude or stuck up. Plus, especially if they are a doctor of sort, I don't want to take up their time, because they have other appointments as well. I try to empathize with others feelings.

I'm a bit anxious... so I may put off appointments where I will arrive right on the dot. I don't like that big gap of time where I am waiting. Waiting is the worst.

 

[Luke]

I'm really good at it. I'm always on time. The key to being on time is to arrive early (no kidding). I really believe in punctuality, because I think it is a sign of respect. I think because I'm so careful to be punctual and find it so easy to do, I find it difficult to understand why a person wouldn't be punctual and it upsets me. I am very forgiving if a person has a reason for being late, but when a person chooses not to turn up on time, it makes me think that they don't value me.

Take dating for instance, if I'm dating someone and I really like them, then I put a great deal of effort into making a good impression on them and a very simple part of that is turning up on time to our dates, if the other person doesn't go to that effort, it makes me feel like they don't respect me, or like me enough, to go to the effort of turning up on time. The older I get the more seriously I take these small signs that a person does really value you, or that they don't.

I have the important things in my life carefully scheduled and it's a pretty complicated schedule, but I juggle it all really well. I also have long term plans for my future. When I'm in relaxation mode, my perceiving tendency comes out and I can be the most disorganized and relaxed person you have ever met, but when I'm in work mode, I am actually one of the most organized people I have met. People come to me to find out when things need to be done and about important dates, things like that. You could say that I am very on the ball! I am a relaxed daydreamer, but when I need to get things done, I do it in a highly organized way and I enjoy it.

A person accused me of being a "J" for being like this, but what I would say, is to not underestimate what INFPs are capable of! Being organized and managing your time well is a logical process and if you apply your intelligence to it, you can do it!

 

[Wellsy]

Managing time, not great but arriving on time very good. I really hate being late to things, it bothers me a lot. I prefer to show up 10 mins early to something and just wait rather than go through the stress of worrying that im late. It comforts me to know im there and theres no way I can be late.
If there was a reason I needed to be organized, well im sure if it was common i'd sort it all out on paper. so I dont have to have it all in my head.

 

[Chell]

I'm actually good at managing my time, or at least planning it; the hard part is following the plan. I often get sidetracked, at least when I can afford it. When I can't afford it, I'm on time. I'm not crazy about it though - I mean, can't say I think of it in terms of respect, etc. If I'm dealing with an environment/appointment/etc with people who usually don't care about time... don't count on me for being on time just for the sake of it.

 

[Thief Noctis]

I can't remember the last time I was ON time to anything. I literally just flit about places as I please; take my time and such. Sometimes I've been over half an hour late to things (not important ones like school mind you– those I sometimes miss intentionally). I don't try to manage my time at all.

... Also, Sims.
An entire real-world day flies by while you're playing that.
And you never even notice.
(I was on it til 5am one morning and had no idea I'd been playing it for like 8 hours straight).

 

[Lauren Wolfe]

I'm a HUGE procrastinator but great on time. To me, I'm severely letting people down if I'm not there when I should be or 10-15 mins early. I'm 20-30 mins early to work, school, meetings, etc every single time. If you say you'll be there at 9 and you KNOW you're chronically late, you're lying in advance and why bother giving me a time frame. Don't say anything and just show up. I've always dreamed of leaving the chronically late behind. I want it to happen so bad. It's NOT hard to be on time. Every once in a while tardy is fine because life happens, but consistence = carelessness in this case.

 

[Coldspot]

I great at managing my time. I can look at how much time I have, and figure out the most efficient way to go about doing things. I am always punctual since I see it as a sign of disrespect to arrive late. Aside from these, I procrastinate a lot.

 

[ProcessDriven]

I have a great sense of time - I can "feel" how long 5 minutes is. However, I am a terrible, terrible procrastinator and will put things off again and again, especially if they're unpleasant things to deal with.

 

[CrystallineSheep]

I think I am just really lazy and a big procrastinator. I don't know how to manage my time because I never bothered to. Hahaha. Don't see any reasons why. I only do it if I feel the dire need.

 

[nicoloco90]

Depends on how important it is. Or how important someone else is. Tho with people im 99% on time, I find it really disrespectful to keep others waiting.

Generally I am always the one waiting on others, which drives me crazy. Most of thet time I absolutely HATE being late. For school, for work, for going out with friends ... ain't happening. (as long as it is not on a daily basis routine timing ... cant do that)
I even know for most individuals when they arrive when having an appointment with them. For some friends I easily count +20 minutes upon the promised time. However for my grandparents I deduct 20 minutes because they are time freaks. Kinda hillarious.

It is just the routine timemanagement that I can't do. (and getting out of bed is impossible)

If i cant make it somewhere in time, i mostly just drop the whole thing and dont go at all ... then im also not late =) works like a charm right

 

[mushr00m]

Its hit or miss. I won't say im always a bad time keeper but there's other things that will influence how much I have got my shit together. Thing is I always feel guilty and anxious for bad time keeping and try my best to keep better organised with that. If I really don't want to do something, ill probably be untimely about it. I can also be surprisingly punctual when I want to be. Distractions are a problem. Sometimes it works and sometimes not. I hate waiting for others though :dry:

 

[WardRhiannon]

I'm pretty good at being on time. I always try to leave enough time to get places on time, mainly because my grandparents instilled that particular habit in me. I usually honor deadlines and I'm getting better about not procrastinating.

 

[leafling]

I'm usually punctual when it comes to meetings, appointments, classes or whatever. I hate making people wait because I hate waiting myself. And I hate being the center of attention when I walk in.

But everything else...a total disaster. How do you manage time??? I honestly have no idea. I'm also lazy and a huge procrastinator.
But seriously...how do you manage time?? :crying: