I am a male ENTJ and I have a female ENFJ cousin, and we were never close. She seemed incomprehensible to me, to the point where we couldn't carry on a ten-minute conversation.
I also know several ENFJ males through work, and they all give me the impression of being nice guys when they aren't having some spectacular public mental breakdown.

My female ENFJ cousin described herself as a "Problem Child". She met an ENTJ in college, they had sex once, she got pregnant and he married her. She is a liberal, he is a conservative (as many ENTJ's are, although I am not), they moved to a remote farm and had three kids. They are active in their church, and it is possible that he cheats on her (based on what her sister told me), but they are still married. When they last visited me, he went on about some conservative theory current at the time, she rolled her eyes, and she later told me that all they have in common is sex.

All in all, I don't recommend this combination as a couple, but your mileage may vary.
The problem, as I see it, is that ENTJ and ENFJ are half the same person, so one is always going to be stepping on the other person's toes, working in their area, competing using the same methods, and where they are not the same person, which is in Thinking vs Feeling, they are incomprehensible to each other.

Still, there's sex to keep the relationship together.

 

Does anyone know any ENFJ x ENTJ couples, or are you or have been in a relationship like that?

What is/was it like?

What things did you observe?

What did you learn?

From what I imagine, either that combination could be a total nightmare or they could be a power couple if both people in the relationship are mature and have a understanding of each other.

I've met 2 ENTJs I've really liked. Males friends. They happen to be the more charismatic variety. One of them is a god father to my daughter.

I feel like they ground me a little.

I'm not a turbulent ENFJ. I'm stable, try to help others, and foster teamwork and friendship kind. I think maturity levels can be a big factor.

I like that their Fi is inf. They're less emotional. It balances me out.

I've worked closely with other Fe Doms before, and the amount of emotional energy gets a bit much. I enjoy less emotional people too.

I think with ENTJs, although we share Ni, convos don't get THAT deep, not as much as with xNFPs. Or even INxJs. Probably because Te makes them cut straight to the conclusion asap. They don't tease out ideas for fun as much.

 

For a female ENFJ and male ENTJ, this combination makes a lot of sense. There will be a lot of conflict between the Te and Fe, but as long as they both have good Ni and maybe Se, they should relate to each other better than they relate to the majority of other people.

 

By the way, I don't recommend this pairing with the genders the other way around. Stick to same type, or if you have Se, go for your dual or activity partner.

In other words, a person should usually stick to their quadra.

However, because there are more male thinkers and female feelers,this pairing is good if they don't have enough Se to relate to SPs.