Hi everyone! Long-time lurker here.
I'm asking this question because I've found it's pretty much the main emotional instability in my life at the moment. I'm currently a finalist in my week of exams, and usually during this period I'm in ENFP hyperactic panic monster mode pulling all-nighters and generally focusing on just one thing for once in my life.
However, this year I've found myself working alongside an old friend in the library quite a lot, to whom I've slowly been developing an attraction to (I'm pretty sure she's an INFJ, so it took a while to see past/break through the quiet surface which is why it took so long to develop this attraction). Problem is, she's been in a relationship for a few months, I like the bf (and wouldn't make a move anyway) and so I'm completely unable to communicate how I feel to her, which would usually help even if it turned out she wasn't interested.
I tend to get pretty obsessed with people I fancy, but usually this blows over in a few weeks and it's all fine. But I really like this girl, the obsession isn't going away and I can't get her out of my head, to the point where even during finals all I can think about is her, and can't concentrate on revision (for example I have two exams tomorrow and I'm writing this!). I feel like this must be a common ENFP problem, and I wondered if anyone else has experienced this/has worked out some way of dealing with it, or are we all just doomed to be emotionally shackled to people who are oblivious to the way they're making us feel? Or is it just me and I'm doomed? If I'm honest I'm also just looking for some sympathy because I can't talk to many of my friends about this.
Also, hi everyone! Always nice to introduce oneself to a community of NFs
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I'm asking this question because I've found it's pretty much the main emotional instability in my life at the moment. I'm currently a finalist in my week of exams, and usually during this period I'm in ENFP hyperactic panic monster mode pulling all-nighters and generally focusing on just one thing for once in my life.
However, this year I've found myself working alongside an old friend in the library quite a lot, to whom I've slowly been developing an attraction to (I'm pretty sure she's an INFJ, so it took a while to see past/break through the quiet surface which is why it took so long to develop this attraction). Problem is, she's been in a relationship for a few months, I like the bf (and wouldn't make a move anyway) and so I'm completely unable to communicate how I feel to her, which would usually help even if it turned out she wasn't interested.
I tend to get pretty obsessed with people I fancy, but usually this blows over in a few weeks and it's all fine. But I really like this girl, the obsession isn't going away and I can't get her out of my head, to the point where even during finals all I can think about is her, and can't concentrate on revision (for example I have two exams tomorrow and I'm writing this!). I feel like this must be a common ENFP problem, and I wondered if anyone else has experienced this/has worked out some way of dealing with it, or are we all just doomed to be emotionally shackled to people who are oblivious to the way they're making us feel? Or is it just me and I'm doomed? If I'm honest I'm also just looking for some sympathy because I can't talk to many of my friends about this.
Also, hi everyone! Always nice to introduce oneself to a community of NFs
OK, activate ENFP advice team!
