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Major differences between INFP & ISFP

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#1 ·
I've looked this up and it looks like I need more input on this. I struggled about two years ago with the same question regarding IXTPs. I'm not wondering because I am confused about my type - I'm INFP all the way - I'm just wondering what the major differences are between the two types. If there were an INFP standing next to an ISFP, what would be some obvious "tells" for which is the ISFP.

Even if responses are made in generalities and stereotypes, anything that could help me see the difference would be helpful. Thanks! :)

Oh, also, I think my sister is an ISFP. She definitely uses Fi, but she doesn't stirke me as an INFP. I'm also wondering if some generalities could help me peg her. She hasn't ever taken a professional test. One thing that strikes me about her is that she really doesn't seem to enjoy talking about abstract concepts for long periods of time.
 
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I think apart from the functions INFP's to me seem to have a slightly more... relatable? look? Like, I can somewhat feel the way their minds work. ISFP's are usually really chill, calm and not quite as directly engaging with my mind. I guess you can just do it by process of elimination, if they don't feel like an INFP but you see the strong Fi.
 
#3 · (Edited)
Well, you'd really be looking for Ne vs Se. Is the person easily distracted by their inner thoughts and ideas, leading them to wander off topic or perhaps lose track of a conversation altogether? Or is the person easily distracted by the things around them, things that they see or hear or smell? Another good way might be to ask the person what they think of a person or place. What do they put more emphasis on describing, their thoughts of that person/place (She seemed nice, I wonder who lived there) or actual descriptors (it was cold, I loved her dress, the food tasted great)?

ISFPs are probably more likely to focus on one thing at a time. They might struggle to keep up with multiple subjects at once but they will definitely be more zeroed in and focused on a conversation. They are more action-oriented as well; I see INFPs as having lots of ideas but struggling to actually start on them. ISFPs might have sort of the opposite problem, starting things before they fully understand what it is they want to do or what all is involved (and having so many things they want to do they end up swamped). INFPs are more prone to thinking whereas an ISFP is more prone to doing. INFPs are going to get excited about what could be, ISFPs by what is actually there. ISFPs are more able to live in the moment and fully absorb an experience. ISFP intuition is internal and one tracked - instead of fretting over multiple issues at once they're more likely to have one major thing they worry about, whereas INFPs see all of the possible disasters (in unhealthy examples). Ni gives ISFPs a more analytical, intuitive edge while they are still very grounded in the present, whereas Si gives INFPs a more grounded, sensory edge while they are still very open and receptive intuitively. Finally, I think that INFPs generally seem more interested in and focused on experiencing other people and exploring their potential, whereas ISFPs are more interested in and focused on experiencing activities with other people and doing things with them.

These are just some of my impressions, anyway. I could be way off but I hope it's helpful. :D
 
#4 ·
Love the results so far.
@Adonnus The way I usually go is whether or not they "feel" like an INFP or not. I don't think there are as many ISFPs in my life, though. Thanks for your input.
@Kajada I really love your answer, especially since it comes from the point of view of an ISFP. It helps a lot.
 
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#5 ·
I know a few ISFPs and we definitely are very similar. I'm not going to go into the functions, especially since @Kajada did that beautifully, so I'll just go by the traits I've noticed.

The ones I know are just really cool. That's the way I'd describe them, they're the type that distinguishes what is cool for everyone else without deliberately, purposefully doing that. They're very congenial too and get along well with most other people, especially those that are different and eccentric. The ones that I know seem to be interested in aspects of life that are taboo-ish, like drag shows, BDSM, and raves. They are a lot more experience-oriented than me, so they're always off doing interesting things like traveling or going to shows and festivals, stuff like that.

I would say that ISFPs fit in a lot more than INFPs do. They're different, but it's more acceptable. Not as nerdy, since they can be nerdy, but again, in a cool way. They have a quality about them that makes others want to be their friend. They definitely do not talk about abstract topics on their own, but they're not incapable of it either. I think it tends to drain them a lot, and they lose interest in the conversation quickly. ISFPs seem more independent too, to the point where they might be deemed as selfish. That doesn't mean that they are selfish, they are generous too, but I've noticed that including others in their experiences is not necessary for them, which may hurt others that want to be included. On the outside, they seem to be more open-minded then INFPs.

Emotionally, they seem to be different from me. They're emotionally honest, but I don't think they care to dive into their feelings to the extent that INFPs do. They're still introspective, like introverts can be. They're more likely to do something in response to their feelings, instead of thinking about them way too much like we do haha. Like INFPs, they are not direct with their feelings and have trouble with that. They actually seem more private than me sometimes, they cherish their personal life a lot.

Outwardly, the ones I know are fashion forward and trendy, willing to take risks. Again, very cool. And usually creative one way or another, manifesting in great physical skill and talent, like in music or drawing, etc.

When I think of ISFPs in current popular culture, I think of Jessa from HBO's Girls or Claire Marshall on Youtube.
 
#6 ·
Living in the moment is a big deal for me. I don't like thinking of all the hundreds of possibilities; in fact it makes me pretty anxious. I can't make accurate judgements about what might happen, because I haven't experienced the future yet, and that's what I need in order to know what I'm doing - experience. I don't think we can deal with hypotheticals like INFPs can.

On the other hand, I think we're better at improvising in the moment. We're good at using physical objects in creative ways and we get energised by possibility too, but in a much more physical sense. "Look at all the stuff I can do with what's right in front of me!" INFPs seem to get bored of that before even interacting with it, and move straight to possibilities that aren't even relevant in the current context.
 
#7 ·
When I have tried to figure out types in films ad books and such, it seems like most often when I find a character I relate to and wonder if it is an infp, it seems like it almost just as well could have been an isfp, it seems to me that they are very similar. Also when looking to myself, I relate to a lot of the isfp description, at times. My guess is that infps and isfps sort of cross over into each other's domain every so often, depending on what is needed in that situation, but that we usually gravitate towards one or the other side.

Looking at statistics a little while ago, I noticed that there are more sensors that are judgers than perceivers, while there are more intuitives that are perceivers than there are intuitives that are judgers, for each of the groups extx, exfx, ixtx and ixfx, usually a pretty significant difference. One hypothesis that I would like to discuss in some other thread, is that there is something in the perceiveing personality that is the same as in the intuitive personality. It feels like I have some sort of sense of it somewhere in the back of my mind, but it is not in the mood to show itself clearly...
 
#8 ·
There is something about them more grounded or connected to the physical and the present. It's also evident in how they make decisions and approach life. INFPs have a more other-wordly, absent-minded vibe. ISFPs can be very imaginative, but they have an earthier quality about them.

While ISFPs may be quite philosophical and have a lot of depth, they don't seem to have the intense interest in theory and abstract concepts that are highly likely to preoccupy INFPs. INFPs can over-complicate and ISFPs can over-simplify, which is a general difference I see with NPs and SPs.

These often quoted stats may offer some insight beyond our individual biases:

INFPs
  • On personality trait measures, score as Artistic, Reflective, Careless, Sensitive, Flexible, and Appreciative
  • Among lest likely of all types to suffer heart disease
  • In men, among least likely to report chronic pain
  • Second highest of all types to report marital dissatisfaction
  • Among most likely to have suicidal thoughts in college
  • Tend to be more successful than the average in learning a foreign language
  • Among types most likely to be dissatisfied with their work
  • Personal values include Autonomy and Creativity
  • Overrepresented in occupations in counseling, writing, and the arts


ISFPs

  • On personality trait measures, score as Easygoing
  • Among types most likely to report heart disease and hypertension
  • In college, likely to report low levels of assertiveness
  • In essays, projected themselves the fewest number of years into the future of all the types
  • Among the types least likely to stay in college
  • Most likely of all types to report stress associated with finances and children
  • In a national sample, likely to value a work environment which provides security, clear and simple instructions, and no expectation of extra work hours
  • Underrepresented among MBA students and small business owners
  • Commonly found in occupations in health care, business, and law enforcement
 
#9 ·
INFPs - Read between the lines too much and get stuck in the mental space. Bold and creative in discussions and in researching information, but meeker in the real world. Act with caution and prescience when it comes to real world activities. Try to look ahead, do their research ('homework'). Win by stubbornness and persistence. Dislike ambiguity.

Make an impression of constantly trying to "win over" others, to penetrate into their emotional core, to leave and impression and ultimately to become liked and to make friends. But, if they get to a person too quickly and too close, may just as quickly lose interest in that person and look for "new challenges". Accumulate friendships and connections. Friendships that have worked, they may fuel for years and even decades, even if living in different cities.

Black-and-white reaction to major betrayals and let-downs. Often too trusting of people and willing to see mostly good in them. But after a harsh betrayal that they didn't see coming, because they were too focused on the good parts of the relationships, they may retract like a hermit crab and stop trusting anybody for a long time, until someone proves them wrong. At this point may become cynical about relationships and retreat into the world of books/games/internet.

ISFPs - Take things for what they are. Instant reaction is to what's there before their eyes. Certain literalness in expression and reactions. It takes them a while to step back and consider alternative meanings to what's happening. Impress as being headstrong (vs. INFP's stubborn). Sometimes after initial (over-)reaction may switch to portraying themselves as a victim.

In everyday life may act without doing their 'homework', basing off their past experiences and know-how they already have. Hardworking. Can easily change their environment. Not squeamish about unpleasant physical sensations. Don't understand people with "accept & endure your conditions" mentality.

Socially neutral to suspicious. It's much easier for them to cut people off than to make friends. Their friendships arise neutrally and naturally from everyday activities, but once the ISFP decides it's not worth it, often their disengage and disappear quietly without a trace without looking back. Look for alternative friendships. Tend to not accumulate friends.


Hope this is helpful!
 
#10 ·
Here are some obvious tells I've come up with, a bit biased towards the side of ISFPs, since I see and embody the faults of an INFP more clearly:

ISFPs express themselves through their clothing and usually manage to look pulled together in a way that presents a consistent visual message. INFPs are often a bit more focused on their own comfort and less tidy and aware of how they present themselves to others. We can seem a bit goofy and awkward in our dress and mannerisms. ISFPs may not be the loudest people in the room, but their sense of style and grace often gives them a distinct presence.

INFPs' homes usually have a lot of reading material, language learning materials, drafts of short stories, or more abstract paintings in various stages of completion lying around. ISFPs' homes usually have a lot of art, craft or home design projects lying around. Even so, the ISFP's home will have more of a design concept, be more up-to-date in style and tidier. The INFP may have more memorabilia (because of Si) and clutter.

An ISFP will hold a dinner party in which a lot of care is put into the setting and the presentation of the food, and everything is impeccably seasoned and absolutely mouth-watering (because Se can tell). An INFP will hold a dinner party where the food is straight out of The Diary of Bridget Jones (e.g. unexpectedly blue soup), or all the guests stand around the kitchen drinking wine out of mismatched coffee mugs and keeping the cats off the day-old takeaway pizza (because Ne-Si don't give a damn).

ISFPs often work in fields related to the visual arts and/or caring for others in a physical way, e.g. website design, illustration, art direction, fashion merchandising, hair styling, nursing. INFPs often work in fields related to writing in some way or taking care of others intellectually or emotionally, e.g. writing, editing, teaching, counselling.

INFPs are most likely to express their idealism by ranting on the Internet or holding up signs at a protest, or doing odd, symbolic things like chaining themselves to a tree that is going to be cut down. ISFPs are more likely to do practical things like serve soup to the homeless, volunteer to do arts projects with kids at a hospital, or walk dogs at a rescue organization.
 
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ISFP eyes have amped/dissatisfied quality from Se or Ni and INFP eyes have a relaxed (?)/concerned quality from Ne or Si.

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Basicallly, ISFPs have a kinda "bitchy" permanently pissed off eyes while INFPs have very gentle eyes unless very in SI XD .

Anyway, the best way to know is to get your videos read by Pod'Lair as they have a great multi-level VI called 5 Gears of Mojo Reading (1. Individual Functions and their physiological cues.
2. Combined Functions and their physiological cues.
3. Large sets of cues and distinct signals.
4. "Game" styles within specific types.
5. Mental preparation for reading.) and their Mojos and Powers correlate 1 on 1 with MBTI types and functions unlike Socionics which has no 1 on 1 correlation and has lame VI and unreadable materials.



I have a friend that I suspect being of ISFP that I talk with mainly about art. It's not just that he doesn't enjoy talking about abstract concepts for long time (that may be also caused by simply getting bored with them, not with cognitive configuration) - very often, when I ask him about opinion on something or why he has some opinion, he just shuts down o_O .
 
#12 ·
I didn't know about the eyes part, though I did read somewhere that many ISFPs are "rounder" on average, which is pretty accurate for me, even if I wasn't overweight. INFPs supposedly have more oval shaped faces and are sometimes slimmer. It seemed to be the case with my international INFP friends... Though one thing that I do notice in all my INFP friends eyes is that they tell a story. No matter how private they may be, their eyes tell stories. I haven't met any ISFPs to compare, but my eyes are nothing to write home about.


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#14 ·
One thing I've noticed (well, it's just a theory) that seems distinctive about INFPs and ENFPs in conversation (on Youtube MBTI discussions and in my own behavior) is that they often seem to giggle at things that they themselves are saying or thinking as they speak. It's like they're privy to a private joke or reaching back into some private world. Some types' smiles or laughs seem more directed towards the person they're speaking to. I'm not sure where ISFPs fall here.
 
#15 ·
From what I've noticed from being around a few ISFP's, they're much more... physical. Tangible, real.
One that I know, she plays many sports and enjoys it a lot. Another loves to paint, draw, sculpt.
They're "weird" or abstract like INFP's are (I can relate to them a lot) but I find they're more physically goofy or clumsy with their gestures and words. INFP's think more, dream more, live in their heads more than ISFP's.
 
#16 ·
In my opinion the most obvious difference between ISFP and INFP is whether or not they ramble and go off on tangents XD

Seriously though, both are Fi dominant. This means that they both have that rich inner world of passions, values, emotions, and I think both are very 'dreamy' and 'idealistic' in a sense. I don't think that because they're sensors, ISFPs aren't any less 'deep' than INFPs.

The big difference comes in, in how they express their values to the world. INFPs are good at exploring various concepts, ideas, and such, which means that they will often be good with words. INFPs are very wordy, and if they feel comfortable enough around you, they will be happy to ramble on about seemingly random things. They'll start on one thing, go off on a tangent, and end up talking about something else entirely. This is how they share their Fi to the world, through this exploration of concepts with words. I think this why INFPs get a reputation for being great authors.

ISFPs are not going to be anywhere near as 'wordy' as INFPs. Se doesn't care as much about exploring concepts, and has little need for words. ISFPs prefer to 'let things speak for themselves' so to say. So I think ISFPs are going to be at a disadvantage overall at sharing their passions, and values to the world with words. I think the reason why ISFPs get the "artist" reputation is because the way they express themselves is through more tangible/physical means. So this gives them the appearance of being more 'down to earth' than INFPs, even if they share the same rich inner world.
 
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I'm very, very torn between these types, so any help between distinguishing the difference between them in me would be wonderful. I love words. They are beautiful, they are exquisite, my guiding light. Almost my entire life I gravitated towards them and I feel they allow me to capture my racing thoughts. I love poetry, I love inspiration, I love feeling dazzled. As a child, I would ramble with my mother about everything and everything. My natural inclination was to speak. To express. To share all that I harbored. However, I am tied to my senses in a distinct and intriguing way. I have an eerie and uncanny way of describing fiery and vivid details and have an intricate sensory world inside. I could describe a flaming sun and its desperate pull on my skin, for instance. I appreciate the details and find them beautiful. And even though I deeply battled this in childhood, living in the moment is beautiful. The idea of getting lost in the moment, unbridled, unleashing your inner child is incredible. However, I can't help but dwell in the past and the future. There's a beauty in letting your thoughts wander, backward and forwards, across the past and into the future. I want both. I want to understand the sheer transience of the present while still harnessing memory in my heart and keeping my eyes on the horizon. I love tastes, touches, colors that evoke a beautiful impression in me. I also love thoughts, concepts, theories, debates perspectives. I feel I am in the middle of two worlds, a purgatory of sorts. I think i appreciate my senses, taking them in, seeing the beauty in the world around me, but I very, very, very much struggle with acting on it. I possess little to no coordination and struggle with painting, bringing colors and shapes to life. I appreciate and even long for visual arts but I am terrible at them. I much more inclined to tell stories through my words. I want to explore the world of ideas and details all at once. My interests are very verbal, language-oriented, and I have always had an obstinate hatred for sports, anything requiring physical coordination. Rollercoasters are nightmarish to me. I despise anything blistering to my senses. But the feeling of getting lost an a hypnotizing blue sky, there is something magical about that. I would love to also talk about the sky, it's history, its influences on art, what it could hold, why we feel gravitated towards it at the same time. I love discussing the world around me, what we say about it so alluring, I would venture even more intriguing than the aspects of the world itself. So...I suppose I'm a cross between both? I think we need a balance. We need to understand and immerse ourselves in the loveliness of the moments and details around us while at the same time, letting curiosity ignite us, letting our minds wander, letting time pull us back and forth. Both are very special to me.

Any thoughts on my type based on this??