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I am also curious to hear more specifics. The OP's post sorta sounds like the ISFP is being creepy and inappropriate. Is this the intention?

I'm in a long term relationship with an ISFP and I love the way he watches me. There's no sense of judgement and it's not intrusive in any way. It's like he's just taking in all the data he can get. I find it really attractive. This kind of gaze is not creepy or inappropriate though.

 

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There seems to be a soulfully beautiful aspect in this behaviour, being genuinely interested in people, in understanding them without nefarious motives. I wish more people understood this and didn't take it (the observing / staring) the wrong way.

Sorry for misunderstanding your post, Willow Breeze. I find it utterly beautiful as well. In a rush so forgive my messy rambly post.

I (as an INFP) definitely stare more at my ISFP partner than he does at me, which is one reason I enjoy when I catch him starting at me, because I find it particularly flattering when I find I've caught his attention in that way. It's also just beautiful to watch him as he watches me with those very intent eyes. I agree it's way more intense than an INFP, an INFP would look away. I guess there's something sorta sensual about his ISFP gaze which is probably why I find it attractive. It also seems really innocent at the same time.

I one time filmed him staring down his friend for minutes upon minutes. It was crazy so I started filming it with my phone so he could see later what he was doing. I have the same question as you - what the heck are you looking at? I have He was tripping with friends so maybe that doesn't count.

I study my partner all the time, particularly if he is right next to me. In this case out of love - I love to watch all the movements of a person in conjunction with their psyche and its expression. I want to understand everything I can and if you like the person, the whole conglomeration is generally endearing. So I'll stare at someone out of love, or I'll stare because something about their psyche seems new and I wanna know if I know what it is or to understand how my preconceptions match actuality, or to understand more about their good qualities and expression, or to study their particular way of being neurotic and on and on.

(Not necessary for me to close with this but I think I misunderstood what you meant cus "stare" struck me as a barren word devoid of love or gentleness. I guess in my mind I think of it as an intense gaze, idk. But it can veer on stare in its shock value maybe depending on context. It doesn't really matter what I think of course just sharing what came to my mind when I first read your post.)