Sounds like he's in the "we aren't officially dating but we're dating" stage to me.
Dating as in trying to find potential for a possible romantic relationship. Don't expect too much from him.

1. How can you tell when an ENTP likes you?
You probably can't. That, or they just tell you.

2. How long does it take for an ENTP to realise whether they like you or not?
Depends on the ENTP.

3. What makes you worth to be considered as a romantic interest by an ENTP?
Depends on how interesting he thinks you are. How much and how well you keep him intellectually interested.

4. Can ENTPs be scared off by someone they value and could see themselves having a future with?
I know I can. I can't speak for all ENTPs though. We tend to be too skeptical about all this "feels" shit.

5. Do ENTPs make the first move?
Depends on the ENTP. Depends on what you define as a "move." If you mean, like asking someone on an official date, probably.

What's the best approach to win the heart of an ENTP?
Definitely patience. And a lot of it. Don't expect immediate results with your ENTP.

If none of what I say helped, the least I can do is wish you whatever kind of luck you wish to be wished. So that's what I shall do.

 

But he's very T and never talks about feelings or says cute/sweet things.

1. How can you tell when an ENTP likes you?

You can't. We are devious and playful improvisers, while you are a dutiful planner, lurking in your fortified cave.

2. How long does it take for an ENTP to realise whether they like you or not?

For me? Between 7 and 77 seconds.

3. What makes you worth to be considered as a romantic interest by an ENTP?

The usual attributes, plus minimal repetition, constant intellectual stimulation and playfulness.

4. Can ENTPs be scared off by someone they value and could see themselves having a future with?

Why not?

5. Do ENTPs make the first move?

Do you really believe that the four MBTI letters can answer this question?

6. What's the best approach to win the heart of an ENTP?

See above.

# This poem was generated from Python 2.5 using a series of list object operations.
# All output (including the output authoring it's own source code)
# was sent to the textfile using a virtual compiler during runtime.


[B]Wise Remembrances[/B]


I am not the things I have.
        I am not the people I love.
                I am not the labors I do.
                        I am not the perceptions I experience.
                                I am not the thoughts I think.
                                        I am not the emotions I feel.
                                                I am not the rules I follow.

                                                        [B]But in this moment . . .[/B]

                                                The rules I follow become me.
                                        The emotions I feel become me.
                                The thoughts I think become me.
                        The perceptions I experience become me.
                The labors I do become me.
        The people I love become me.
The things I have become me.

 Rules I follow. 
        Perceptions I experience. 
                Thoughts I think. 
                        Labors I do. 
                                Things I have. 
                                        People I love. 
                                                Emotions I feel. 

                                                        [B]But I will be unhappy if I forget . . .[/B]

                                                        I am not the things I have.
                                                I am not the people I love.
                                        I am not the labors I do.
                                I am not the perceptions I experience.
                        I am not the thoughts I think.
                I am not the emotions I feel.
        I am not the rules I follow.


# Like any good poet, I bare my own innards below:


import random, sys
fileout=open('Wise_remembrances.txt','w')
myinnards=open('wiseremembrances.py','r')
myinnards_exposed=myinnards.read()
sys.stdout=fileout
print '# This poem was generated from Python 2.5 using a series of list object operations.'
print '# All output (including the output authoring it\'s own source code)'
print '# was sent to the textfile using a virtual compiler during runtime.\n'
print '\n\nWise Remembrances\n\n'
global itemcounter
objectlist=[
    'the things I have',
    'the people I love',
    'the labors I do',
    'the perceptions I experience',
    'the thoughts I think',
    'the emotions I feel',
    'the rules I follow']
itemcounter=0
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    for item in objectlist:
        print itemcounter*'\t'+'I am not '+item+'.\n',
        itemcounter+=grade
    return itemcounter
def repunct(objectlist):
    for index in range(0,len(objectlist)):
        objectlist[index]=objectlist[index][0].swapcase()+objectlist[index][1:]
itemcounter=denunciation(objectlist,itemcounter,1)
objectlist.reverse()
print '\n'+itemcounter*'\t'+'But in this moment . . .\n'
repunct(objectlist)
for item in objectlist:
    itemcounter-=1
    print itemcounter*'\t'+item+' become me.'
copylist=[]
for item in objectlist:
    copylist.append(item)
random.shuffle(copylist)
newlist=[]
for item in copylist:
    newlist.append(item[4].upper()+item[5:]+'.')

    
for item in newlist:
    print '\n',itemcounter*'\t',item,
    itemcounter+=1
print '\n\n'+itemcounter*'\t'+'But I will be unhappy if I forget . . .\n'
objectlist.reverse()
repunct(objectlist)
itemcounter=denunciation(objectlist,itemcounter,-1)
print '\n\n# Like any good poet, I bare my own innards below:\n\n'
print myinnards_exposed


# This is software that composes a Buddhist sutra "renunciation poem" "on-the-fly". 
# It further displays it's own source code as above.  If you run the code above in a Python compiler, 
# you will get a different, but similarly-ruled poem.  Interestingly, the Artificial Intelligent "author" 
# reflects on her own process at the end of the poem by displaying her own innards (Including this commentary).

[url]https://honestpoet.wordpress.com/2007/12/23/worlds-first-poem-written-in-python/[/url]

 

@LolitaLempicka I don't know how old you are or he is. But if he is in his 20s I would say it seems like he is gay. ENTPs like to go for what they want. They are pretty forward and flirty, even with friends, but especially when they are interested in someone. I would say that the whole group thing, not wanting to be alone with you, and not having had a girlfriend - it seems weird.

I'd move on if you want a relationship. He could be a friend.

 

Thank you @zekzar, this is actually very helpful

@Senah I don't think he's gay. I wasn't very clear. He had girls just not a serious relationship

 

@LolitaLempicka

Yeah, I personally just would say that taking ENTP personalities as the standard and comparing it to his behavior, it would seem to me that he is not interested in women if he is in his twenties or he is not interested in a romantic relationship with you. His behavior seems specifically indicate that he is putting obstacles up to prevent spending time alone with you. He also isn't prioritizing his alone time to be with you. I only do that with someone I am not romantically interested in but that I know is interested in me, however I like them enough to keep them around as a friend.

I'm not trying to be mean (I am a thinker), but I would say he is at the very least not interested in your romantically and at the most not interested in women. I would not make the effort to pursue. ENTPs generally do not act this way about someone they are interested in (short of the fact that he is not being very emotive towards you - but if they are not interested they wouldn't be doing that anyhow). If we like you, generally we know right away, we tease you mercilessly, and we will make time for you. We will flirt. Often we get in trouble for being too sarcastic/teasing/flirty. It doesn't seem like this is happening. We are rarely careful with our words unless we want to be sure we don't accidentally get someone chasing after us emotionally that leads to us then having to disintangle some romantic web we have been trapped in.

 

I dont do this. im a rather strong SP so it can take me a bit to warm up to someone. This is why i seem introverted at times. Also socailizations has played a strong role here. Then there are attachment styles. Im slightly avoidant so strong emotions make me run a little bit until i had time to rationalize them. I eventually get to the super forward mode but it can take some time. He might just not know what he wants yet. I can understand someone not waiting around for him to figure it out but it might not mean disinterest but maybe more of a fear of commitment, emotions or going through a longer thought process.

 

@Senah is that true for all ENTPs and all Enneagram types? I'm asking because it doesn't really sound like him. He's not like a Type 7 ENTP. He's not the kind of ENTP who gets excited easily and acts out of impulse...

 

@LolitaLempicka I do get excited easily and I can definitely be impulsive. I've been known to buy a one way ticket to Asia and just bum around for months or switch careers and move cities because a friend suggested it over dinner.

Perhaps other ENTPs can chime in here.

I would say that it seems a little like (from the outside, not knowing either you or your friend, so take it for what it is worth from that potentially flawed perspective) that you are seeking validation for what you hope is true and disregarding what you hope is not true. I mean, when you say, "he is the type of ENTP" - how many tested ENTPs do you know with specific wing types to differentiate? Not those other people have typed, but ones that have actually taken tests and typed themselves? Just a query.

 

how many tested ENTPs do you know with specific wing types to differentiate? Not those other people have typed, but ones that have actually taken tests and typed themselves? Just a query.

3 men. But I know very well more who haven't take the test...

 

@Senah @LolitaLempicka

I don't think this ENTP is gay.
Perhaps bisexual, trying to figure out himself before he tries to go for another serious relationship?
Perhaps he's been in bad relationships before and is wary to jump into another. I know I'm that way sometimes.
I think this ENTP is switching from ENTP to INTP a lot more than he would normally just because he's trying to focus more on himself than how other people might think of him.
I find myself to be in this loop quite often, especially when it comes to romance. I don't know what I want. I don't know what a potential partner might want from me and how to provide it.
It could just be that he doesn't want another relationship right now, but in the off chance that he does, you'd be his first choice, most likely. Unless, of course, he's talking to someone else you might not know about.

But, I would have to agree with Senah here.
You might just be searching for validation for what you want to be true. I know I get that way sometimes.
Fe gets in the way of Fi and I don't know what I'm feeling is what the other person is feeling or whatever and all that. Functions never made a lot of sense to me. But, just know you're probably looking for something that actually isn't there. I've made this mistake plenty of times and I would have loved it if someone would have warned me about it beforehand, so I'm gonna give you that advice before it's too late. It's not worth running after something you can't get.

Sorry, my ISFJ persona slipped out there for a minute. Fuck all ENTPs; they're just scabs waiting to get removed.
No, but seriously.
I say just give it some more time and see where it progresses to. And, if he cares, he'll press the relationship to actually go somewhere. But don't think it means a whole lot if you find yourself on a one-on-one outing with him. As far as I can see, he seems pretty xNTP, so he may just be more in an INTP mood, which is understandable.

Hope that helps too, maybe.

 

@zekzar
He seems very INTP sometimes, although I'm pretty sure he's extravert. He has a lot going on in his life at the moment (changes, pressure at work, etc) so this could be why the reason maybe...
Thank you again for the insights!

 

1. How can you tell when an ENTP likes you?
Tough one.
ENTPs can be flirty as hell but that STILL doesn't mean that they like you. There's no way to "tell". You have to ask them or be told.
I am the biggest flirt alive but do I like everyone? Absolutely not.

2. How long does it take for an ENTP to realize whether they like you or not?
Personally speaking, being attractive is one thing... but liking someone... you have to stand out in some way, like impress me.
Didn't he find you "interesting"? Coming from an ENTP, consider that a compliment. ENTPs get bored and nothing attracts them more than someone "interesting".

3. What makes you worth to be considered as a romantic interest by an ENTP?

Refer to question 2 about being interesting. If you outsmart an ENTP and beat them at their own game.... you're wifey.

4. Can ENTPs be scared off by someone they value and could see themselves having a future with?

This weighs less on personality and more on past life experiences, decisions and preferences if you ask me. But the answer is yes. Some ENTPs can be scared and some ENTPs won't be. There's no way to tell beforehand, you have to find out.

5. Do ENTPs make the first move?

Again this depends on experience and preference. Some people are old school and believe that no matter what: a guy should make the first move regardless of personality. While others don't think that. So yes and no.

6. What's the best approach to win the heart of an ENTP?
Impress them! Keep them guessing! Surprise them! Stand out! Intrigue them! Tease them!
They get bored easily so don't throw yourself at them.

 

Thank you guys, this is extremely useful.
Regarding keeping him intellectually interested, guessing and surprised I think I got it covered!