My life is such that I am constantly weighing and changing some of my ideals. There are a lot of issues that aren't so black and white, and I'm constantly trying to figure out which ideals are "right" and "wrong." It happens. It's a part of life. That's what makes us all so paradoxical. We're constantly changing and re-evaluating our beliefs as new information is gathered. Figure out what you believe if you can. Sometimes, it takes time to figure things out. There's no rush. Right now, it seems as if you're just re-evaluating, and that's not a bad thing. It's a sign of growth

 

@Ace Face

Ok thanks! :] Haha also thanks for replying even though you were the only one; I appreciate it [:

 

Re-evaluation is an integral skill, and it's what makes ENFPs so hard to pin down and neatly pigeon hole. When I was younger, I was a (to say the least) bullish leftie, with a whole host of idealistic morals. Then I began to moderate my views on the world (or sell out if you're still a bullish leftie :wink. As long as you know why you're changing your stance on certain issues then you're learning to compromise. Those people who can't compromise with themselves tend to struggle with compromising with others, and it's hell to deal with intractable people.

If I chart the evolution of my principles and values, I believe that my 11 year old self would be horrified, but the present me looks back and chuckles with warmth at my 11 year old self. We never stop growing and developing, whilst what is important to us changes in time too. Whether or not we change for better or worse is a judgment call and one that has no right or wrong answer. The people who will admire your adaptability, your success and your ability to know yourself better will say you are doing well, whilst those who would denigrate it as "forgetting yourself" or "selling out" will say you are doing ill.

Introspection is an exceptional tool, and so too is hindsight. Use them to do the best for you without compromising on your core values (as I doubt you'll have rejigged your outlook so radically as to make malice or male fide manipulation cool).

 

I had a similar experience in 6th grade. My sister got me some name-brand jeans for Christmas and I wore them to school. I got a lot of positive comments from other "prep" or popular type kids. It really messed with my developing self-image to the point that I swore off wearing all jeans for the next 15 years or so...

I finally got a pair of jeans a couple years ago when it occurred to me that I was still "being controlled" by not wearing jeans because of that experience, and that I had to just make up my own mind regardless of what others did or did not think.

So there is no right answer, it is not wrong to "be popular" or not really, as long as your new friends are genuine about accepting *you* and not your wardrobe. I have old friends that I don't hang out with anymore, but I still consider them good friends - we could pick up and reconnect again as soon as the right opportunity presents itself.

So I agree, Just go with it without rushing or worrying too much and trust your heart warn you if you're going too far off your values. enjoy the ride in the meantime!

 

What @Ace Face said.

I go through something like that nearly every year, so it's probably not just about Fi appearing; it's more about Fi resurfacing or sifting through facts and coming to new conclusions.

You in 5th grade sounds like me in 5th grade. You'd never believe the vitriol with which I hated the Spice Girls (and I think they're kinda fun now).