Enfp 974

Growing up

Mom - enfj
Grandma- intp
Father ( biological uncle - I have no relationship with my biological father ) entp


Family now

Husband- istp
Son - esfp
Daughter - ixxj
Son - entp

Im extremely close with my family- don’t know how I got this lucky.

 

It's tiring to try and exact-type everyone in my family but.. my younger sibling is xNTP and their boyfriend is INFJ, my mom is ISFJ (i think) and dad ISTP (I'm not sure, he's quiet and sulky type, but he's a little more rigid in his beliefs so i could be off by a letter or so. Might even have sx of mild autism. He hasn't agreed to get diagnosed.) i have an older male sibling type who's somewhat of a ISTP, my crush is an ISFJ.

 

My sister is most likely an ESFJ. I don't interact with her much anymore tbh. Little to no interest in it.

 

Sounds like you have an awesome family! Particularly the connection between you and your dad! 😍

At the risk of exposing more information about myself to the interwebs for AI to swallow up... here it is (we're all in this together I guess):

My Dad: xSFJ - He's kind and nice, but I never get to spend time with him coz he's always working, and he seems to have a lot of connections with a lot of people. A lot of his customers and colleagues attended his funeral and they seem to all love him.
My Mum: ENFJ - She's very naggy and very emotionally manipulative, but she's a very positive and friendly person. Even after I explain my position on lots of things, she not only stubbornly holds on to her views, but she keeps nagging about it without addressing any of my arguments/points.
My Bro: ISFJ - He's very private and keeps to himself. He's not great with ambiguity. He hates games where you have to use a bit of intuition and figure things out without clear direction - whereas I would easily figure out what to do and have no problems. Our relationship is based on activities... playing games, watching movies etc...

Me: xNFJ (Usually INFJ, but I switch between full introvert and full extrovert a lot.)
Wife: ISTJ - She's very practical and strong-minded. She likes my humour and I make her laugh. My forgetfulness in practical matters irritates her. When I talk about really deep theoretical stuff, it tires her out. When she talks about admin, its can tire me out a bit.
Kid #1 7yo Boy: ESFP - Really playful, fun yet conscientious. A really good kid. He's like Simba. He's exactly what I hoped my 1st son would be like! He drives my wife crazy with his lack of attention to detail. (My best man is also ESFP).
Kid #2 4yo Boy: ESTJ/INFP? - Creative, focused, when comfortable he's a bit wild and crazy, when you cross his boundaries or he thinks you have, he'll go ballistic and have the biggest F*ing meltdown on earth.
Kid #3 1yo Girl: ESFJ - Super friendly and engaging, likes saying hello to everyone, she puts a smile on everyone's faces, also a bit playful and crazy, but also highly fussy.

 

I’m an enfp 2w1!
(idk my siblings’ enneagrams)
Younger istp sister(best one)
Older intj brother
Older Infj sister

enfp 7w8 mom
intp 9w8 dad

I do not have a good relationship with any of them except my sister

 

ENFP you-> ENFP mom didn't work out great? You get like a +1 to communication though D:

Shucks

 

Dad ENTP 3w4
Well... I'm glad my older brother became a doctor, but I'm not spared of all the pressure to be achieve worldly success. At least I have an in with Ne and most of our more pleasant interactions involve discussing science, stocks, or politics.

Mom ISTJ 1w9
A bastion of stability she is. I find it funny her best friend is an INFP 4, cause I know I annoy her.

Brother ENTJ 8w9 or 3w4
Love my brother but I'll eventually get really triggered by him as I don't care for appearances.

Sister INFJ 9w1
We get to the same conclusions through different methods. She thinks of me as really smart, but it's usually me who goes to her for help on how to interact with other people. We discuss psychology fairly often, me from the theory side, her from the application side. She thinks it's weird I don't care about my friends' favorite colors.

Sister ESFP 7w6
We naturally get along, but the things about our interests don't mesh at all. She's also very energetic and used to be very loud.

 

Sister INFJ 9w1
We get to the same conclusions through different methods. She thinks of me as really smart, but it's usually me who goes to her for help on how to interact with other people. We discuss psychology fairly often, me from the theory side, her from the application side. She thinks it's weird I don't care about my friends' favorite colors.

As an INFP, I have an older INFJ female friend that i ask for advice about how to act towards other people too. She's like the older sister i never had. 🥺 She's a really good mentor too, very supportive. I'm like a fan of hers because she's so well-versed at stuff.. i almost idolize her.😂

Speaking from experience, perhaps every INFP somehow needs an INFJ friend/person in their life.

 

Mom- 4w5
Dad (RIP)- 6w5 like me, but I think ISTJ unlike me
Brother- 8w9
Step Dad (RIP)- 8w9, and I think ISTJ
Mom's Mom (RIP)- 2w1
Mom's Dad (RIP)- 8w7
Dad's Mom (RIP)- 1w9
Dad's Dad (RIP)- Idk (Died when I was 4 yo)

 

Me - INFJ

Sister - ESFJ
Dad - ISTJ
Mom - ESTP

Growing up definitely felt like I lived on a different planet than my family. It's easiest to communicate with my mom since she shares the same functions but we still do live in very different worlds and she has always had severe mental health struggles. But the Si with my sister/dad was always hard for me to interface with. Not because I wasn't accepting of how they are but because they're not accepting of how I am. They both constantly heckled me for the entire time I was growing up. They constantly expect me to change to be more like what they want me to be and never accept that that's not what I want or am going to do.

 

Same case for me. Just this inacceptance can cause so many things to stall, very much like when someone does something and two people stand by and tell him he's not going to succeed while they don't help in the least because they want to prove their way is "the right way". Everyone has a different way, why the heck is it so hard to accept? I really don't get it.

 

I think my father is a 9w8.

 

My family's types? Grumpy, Dopey, Sneezy, Sleezy, and Deceased....oh, you meant personality type as in MBTI? Sorry!!!!! 🤐🤣😒🙄😴

 

Father: ISTP 8w7, I had a bad relationship with him through my youth as I had a couple of cases of violence and some others of verbal abuse which only made me really angry and to despise him for years, I never really forgave him for it but nowadays we are just cool with each other.

Mother: ESFJ 1w2, since my teens my relationship with her has been difficult, we don't mix well together. She is just too set up in her ways and doesn't contemplate another way of doing things or even being in the wrong, which made her controlling, resorting to manipulation or more times than not just pestering until things go her way. For years I tried to reason with her in an endless battle of attrition to assert my individuality and to try to made her aware of how toxic she was. At some point in my mid-late 20s I grew tired of the fruitless endless discussions and threw the towel with her, starting doing things my way unapologetically, which frustrates her to no end even nowadays. Basically the only thing that saves her from being a narcissist is that she never does it for her benefit, she always thinks in other's benefit, she just thinks that she knows it better and people (and even more her son) should do as she says. Nowadays we still discuss more than anything else but she behaves slightly better as she has less energy and knows I will just hang up the phone or walk away after warning her 1 or 2 times to stop with it, which I still have to do regardless half of the time.

 

-I'm an INTP. (Oldest child)
-My brother is an INFP. (Middle child)
-My sister is an ESTJ. (Youngest child)
-My mom is an ISFJ.
-My father is an ESTP.

Curiously, despite my sister being the youngest, she often comes off as the oldest due to her personality alone. She's more outgoing, confident, and tends to boss my brother around a lot. But she's usually not mean to him, she just takes the lead, and he follows her lead. Many people have assumed my brother is the youngest because of how he often follows what my sister tells him. The two are very close despite being opposite types (letter-wise, at least).

I get along with my INFP brother very well. We often seem to communicate very similarly, share lots of interests and hobbies, and have a similar outlook on life for the most part. Usually when I'm with him, I end up taking more of a "leader" position naturally as I'm the older sibling, but I do so less than my sister does.

With my ESTJ sister, we generally get along, but sometimes have conflicts due to personality clashes. Sometimes she tries to boss me around like she does to my INFP brother, and I hate being told what to do so I get frustrated and just want to do my own thing, which gets on her nerves as she doesn't understand why I don't just do what she believes is the most logical thing to do. Meanwhile, sometimes I admittedly am a bit too blunt towards her and that irritates her as well. But despite our personality clashes we can still get along well and have good conversations. With her, my conversations are more down-to-earth, more about life experiences, day to day stuff, etc. It feels as though I communicate with her more through Si, whereas with my brother our conversations feel heavily Ne oriented, if that makes sense.

My parents being ISFJ x ESTP is curious because it's often stated to be a very compatible type pairing, and while I don't think MBTI alone is responsible for it, the truth is that they seem like they were made for one another. They are often like opposites, but complement each other so well. They share a strong sense of mutual respect, and share the same values, principles, beliefs and world view. I think that's the main reason they're so compatible, but personality wise it really feels like they each excel at the things the other struggles with, and thus make a really great team. I honestly dream of one day finding a partner that makes just as good of a match with me as my parents do with each other.

I really enjoy talking to my mom, she's the one I talk to the most out of my two parents, as my father tends to be busier throughout the day. My mom often shares a lot about her own experiences, tells me what's on her mind, and I enjoy listening to her and learning from her. I've noticed that if there's something she really wants to talk about and my father isn't available, I'm often the next person she goes to talk to, not really because she wants me to help her with anything, but rather because she wants to talk to someone that will listen, and I seem to be pretty good at that. But I also learn a lot from her, and I've always said that she's played a major role in helping me develop my Si and Fe to the extent I have them developed currently. Just the experiences of talking to her, understanding how she thinks, behaves and reacts to different things has given me a lot of insight, and I've learned quite a lot of things from her. She may also be the main reason why I find it easier to connect with and understand xxFJs in general than other INTPs I've seen.

My ESTP father tends to act not only as my father, but also is my boss and my mentor. I help him with the family business, so he assigns me work and is training me so I can one day take over for him when the time comes. He is also my mentor in terms of understanding life in general. He tries to guide me to become a responsible and functional adult. Admittedly sometimes we have some clashes because he gets a bit frustrated that I can sometimes come off as oblivious to my surroundings and have a hard time reading small cues that he finds second nature to him (He's an Se dom, whereas Se is my blindspot, so I can see why I struggle so much in certain areas that feel extremely natural to him). Despite our differences, I know he really cares about me and is doing his best to ensure I grow up to be a responsible and mature adult like he is. Plus, he's also pretty affectionate and likes to occasionally buy us things we like and tell us how much he loves me and my siblings.

Oh yeah, and people often say I'm a lot like my father, which is curious since personality wise we're pretty different, but one thing we share in common is a very sharp mind. We're very fast to understand new information and learn new things, and we tend to be knowledgeable on many topics, so many people around me often say I'm like my father in that way.

 

According to this system…
ENTP faja
ENFJ mother
ENFP brother 1
INFJ brother 2
ENFP itsa me Mario

I didn’t notice it growing up, but it /is/ pretty weird having 0 sensor preference in our immediate family. We spend a LOT of time talking, it’s been commented on by many of my friends or outside relatives. & we’re widely known in our extended family for having poor time management (like lie to them about the start time and follow-up twice as often as other families time management). My poor ENFJ mom holding down the fort alone with all the real-world, practical stuff. Bless her soul.

 

WOW! I envy you so much! 🤣🤭
Sounds like a wildly fun family to be in!

The family I grew up in are all sensors... my wife and 3 kids are all sensors... even my school and early friend groups were mainly sensors! WTF? Only upon coming to PerC do I get to meet so many Intuitives!

 

And yeah, I can definitely imagine your mom being the one who tries her best to deal with all the practical stuff, she's the only one that's not an Ne or Ni dom!

Which means a sensing function in the top 3 cognitive function stack! Tertiary ain' too bad! 🤭

That for sure sounds like an interesting family! This seems to be pretty rare actually. If we take the statistics of intuitives being roughly a third of the population, and sensors being roughly two thirds as an estimate, then we could say that every member of a family has a roughly 1 in 3 chance to be intuitive, so if we run the numbers, the chances of all 5 members of a family being intuitives is 1 in 243, or roughly a 0.41% chance! Of course in practice it's not that simple, but it gives a rough idea of how rare this is. Really interesting honestly!

I heard somewhere that genetics plays a part in personality. Can't verify at this stage, but maybe a person's chance to be any MBTI type may be higher or lower depending on the mother and father's genetics.

 

I heard somewhere that genetics plays a part in personality. Can't verify at this stage, but maybe a person's chance to be any MBTI type may be higher or lower depending on the mother and father's genetics.

Yes, this makes sense. There's likely factors not accounted for in my estimation, such as genetics. In practice it's likely a lot more complex than than just multiplying the individual chances for each family member, but I still thought it would be interesting to try nonetheless.

 

That for sure sounds like an interesting family! This seems to be pretty rare actually. If we take the statistics of intuitives being roughly a third of the population, and sensors being roughly two thirds as an estimate, then we could say that every member of a family has a roughly 1 in 3 chance to be intuitive, so if we run the numbers, the chances of all 5 members of a family being intuitives is 1 in 243, or roughly a 0.41% chance! Of course in practice it's not that simple, but it gives a rough idea of how rare this is. Really interesting honestly!

And yeah, I can definitely imagine your mom being the one who tries her best to deal with all the practical stuff, she's the only one that's not an Ne or Ni dom!

Cool statistics, thanks for sharing! Subjectively every one of us has commented on how we feel pretty weird, a little alien as a family when compared to others.

We love her Fe dom, it's a big warm hug that keeps all of us glued together 😭
I also love that we have the perfect ENFP/INFJ sandwich with my INFJ brother in the middle. He really has been the best mediator, not just among the siblings, but the whole family. Whereas my ENFP oldest is our dinner table clown

I heard somewhere that genetics plays a part in personality. Can't verify at this stage, but maybe a person's chance to be any MBTI type may be higher or lower depending on the mother and father's genetics.

That's what I always figured was happening here. Difficult for an Ne dom and Ni aux to produce anything but intuitive behbehs.

 

Parents: ESFJ + ESFP
Siblings: ISFP + ESTP

 

Parents: ESFJ + ESFP

Same for me . You have just received the "expected standard parents" award.

 

mom: enfp e9
dad : xstj e3
sister: infp e4
me: intp e5

 

I am actually not sure. I have been thinking about it more lately, but I don't feel confident to come to a final conclusion yet. However my current suspicions are as follows:

Mother: ISTJ
Father: ISTP
Sister: ISFP

 

father: ENTP
mother: ISFJ
me: INTJ
sister (same father): INFJ / ENFJ

My parents are completely opposite. I "took two letters" from each one.

 

Dad: ISTJ
Meticulous, industrious, tidy, temperamental, argumentative, strong views, somewhat moralistic, entrepreneurial, protective of family.

Didn't get along with him at all when I was young. At one point we didn't speak with one another for 2 years even though we were living together. Nosy relatives tried to intervene and mediate which only irritated me even more. Things only improved when I was about to get married and we both opened up somewhat.

Can't help himself but argue with the same people and the same topics over and over. Pointless and a total waste of time in my view.

Enjoys spending hours cleaning his home everyday and would make a fuss if he sees a waterdrop on the floor.

Will fight anyone anywhere when he was mad.

Mum: ISFP
Supportive, friendly, firm beliefs and boundaries, dislike being controlled, financially risk averse.

Typical mum supporting the family and ease things between us. Can be firm and mean when needed. She taught me to be independent early on. We get along.

Me: ISTP

Wife: INTP
Exceptionally smart, academic, dislike hands-on activities, dreamy at times, kind, friendly, can be ruthless, open-minded, judgmental, tend to overthink and procrastinate, easily swayed by impressions and past experiences. Socially clueless. Genuine and honest. Funny. Full of novel ideas. Loves to ask why about everything. Needs constant mental stimulation. Virtually non-existent Se. My best friend.

Younger bro: ENFP
Social, poor time management, chaotic, people's person. Not particularly talkative which I like. Pretty much always fully booked meeting this or that person. Impatient.

People have always enjoyed his presence since he was a kid. Had a couple of fallouts with dad.

Love board games (a N hobby imo). Not particularly sporty. A bit of a try-hard to prove his masculinity or whatever idk vain. Short attention span. Tend to envy and compare himself with others.

Most of his spending is about his friends and gatherings etc otherwise he is frugal when it comes to his own expenses. People used to say we are opposites to one another. He self-reported as INTP lmao.

We are not close and we don't talk much. Not on the same wavelength.

I may come back and talk more abt him when I have time. There’s a beautiful soul behind his mask.

 

Father: ESTP 8w7 --- Amazing tert Fe in action. Probably can talk his way out of everything.
Mother: ENFJ 8w9 --- Mistaken for Te-Ni a lot due to her core type.
Sibling: INTJ 6w5 --- One of the few actual perfectionists I know in life.
Me: INFJ 4w5.

Having two 8 cores for both parents is not for the weak, by the way lol.