NT or NF

 

me me me me. Date me

 

Which two of the following trait sets are most important to you in a mate?

1) Gregarious and outgoing: Confident, talkative, the NT version of a "people person".
2) Organized and driven: Indomitable work-ethic when engaged on a project or process that interests them.
3) Brainstorming idea-man: Can find the tiniest intellectual needle in the largest ideological haystack.
4) Excellent theoretical parsing: A theoretician amongst theoreticians.

ENTJ: 1, 2
ENTP: 1, 3
INTJ: 2, 4
INTP: 3, 4

If you can find a well-adjusted ESTJ, that might work as well. That was not an option for me because Freud, but it might be for you.

 

I'd say 1 and 2 would appeal to me most - thanks!

 

Statistically, after a sufficiently large number of Bernoulli trials, none of those questions matter.

 

Any kind of guy?

What you listed were all positive traits, and I reckon any personality whether ISFP or INTP could see something in you.
Adding to that, I've seen ENTJs go nicely with INTPs, INFPs, ISFPs, ISTPs and other ENTJs or INTJs.
It's really up to you to see what you see in that person more than their personality type, Maybe even moreso your enneagram type but only because enneagram relates to your motivations as a human being (despite what people think, true enneagram type is very hard to identify in a person, which is why a lot of people constantly change over and over again rarely knowing what their own is)

I actually really like ENTJ girls my age, especially because they have that "badass bitch" thing going on . They genuinely understand my own sensitivity and can really broaden my own perspective on issues and who I am as a person. I guess you can draw a lot of strength from ENTJ persons as Fi users whether ISFP or INTJ, just in the way they view things. I guess it's the emphasis on being caring, insights and abstractions while also having the rational thinking of being a dominant Thinker that appeals to Fi users. I reckon most types will see good in that if you can show that to them somehow.

 

You can find individuals of various types that might like/dislike you.

However political correctness aside, if we are generalising, I think theoretically an INTJ with a tolerance of extraversion would be a good match.

I'm assuming that by extraversion, you're somewhat outgoing and like to socialise or at least interact with people on a frequent basis?

INTJ's seem to be all the things you say you are "independent, intellectual, extroverted, theoretical, optimistic, assertive, secure" minus the extraversion.

I don't know that they would appreciate a "badass b*tch" or "guy's girl" for who she is, but they might just simply shrug it off or be apathetic to it and not really be phased by it.

In terms of your desired characteristics in a partner (intellectually stimulating, fun, must infatuate you)

I'm pretty sure they will satisfy you intellectually.

In terms of fun, it depends what's fun too you. If your idea of fun is the bad boy, adventurous variety that can be found in some XSTP's then, this part may not be so compatible.

Also, what are the things that make you infatuated with a guy?

Keep in mind, all this is conceptual, I'm just entertaining you theoretically and so many things will come into play apart from MBTI.

Personally for me, I haven't known any ENTJ females well enough to decide whether I do or don't like them in an intimate way. If she were laid back around me, I think it would be fine, if she treated me the way she treated her colleagues, probably not so much. It's not that she can't be independent, assertive, it's just that life can be stressful enough, I would like to just unwind and not feel like I'm in a board room meeting when I'm with my girlfriend.

Not sure if that helped or not.

 

1. What type of guy will like ME? For who I am - independent, intellectual, extroverted, theoretical, optimistic, assertive, secure - what kind of guy genuinely appreciate the "badass b*tch" or "guy's girl" for who she is, not just the novelty or ease?

In socionics the ideal match for ENTJ is the ISFP because your types share all functions but in reverse order, so these types are like yin and yang of each other. ISFPs are the opposite of ENTJs but they'll have your back covered and they are good at dealing with relationship issues and analyzing people's personalities. ENTJs often overlook ISFPs and go for brighter extraverted types like ENFP and ESFP. List of other good matches: Love Types ENTJ

 

1. What type of guy will like ME? For who I am - independent, intellectual, extroverted, theoretical, optimistic, assertive, secure - what kind of guy genuinely appreciate the "badass b*tch" or "guy's girl" for who she is, not just the novelty or ease?
2. What type of guy won't like that?
3. What type of guy will I connect with intellectually?
4. What type of guy will I just have fun with and get bored?
5. What type of guy will spark my initial infatuation?
6. What type of guy will I connect with intellectually AND have fun with AND will spark my initial infatuation?

ENTJ ladies, please speak from your personal experience.
Men of all types, please tell me why you do or don't like ENTJ women.
Everybody with an insight, help!!! I'm so sick of the guy I spark with intellectually, the guy I have fun with, and they guy I'm infatuated with being three different guys and the guys I really like not liking things about my personality that I have no desire to change.

You may have to settle for an inflatable :tongue:

 

answer:the one who will have you and the one you will have. the one that knocks your socks off, but keeps you coming back for more intellectually.
no one type defines it. so far, female ENTJs married to ISTJ,INTJ,and INTP on this forum. anyone else?

 

Married. 13 years with an XNFP. =)
At times, I find the emotional neediness of NFPs in general to be a bit taxing, but they offer invaluable insight on how to be observant to the feelings of others when we can't do it on our own.