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It seems that INFJ's are even more passive aggressive than INFP's, and INFP's more comfortable with confrontation typically.

Why do you think this is?

 

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To be honest, an "Aggressive INFP" sounds very much like an oxymoron to me. Don't believe that you are "aggressive" because you exploded due to undue external pressure. Many people tend to be aggressive, and it's so "normal" for them that they do not stand out. But when a typically calm person all of the sudden loses his/her cool, he's deemed aggressive/mean/rude, etc. This doesn't mean that you as an INFP are really an "Aggressive" individual-just that you lost your temper, whether it was justifiable or otherwise.

I also share the view that INFPs must not be more "aggressive" than INFJs (plus I don't see passive aggressiveness as a much "better" course of action either). The functions theory might be an appropriate explanation if it was true, but I am not thoroughly convinced that INFPs are "agressive", and INFJs "passive-aggressive". Stressed, very introverted INFPs that hate shouting/fighting can be passive aggressive enough, under the "right" circumstances. Having said that, these two personalities don't strike me as a really aggressive bunch (barring constantly bothering and/or violating them, which in such case will probably be a stressful reaction to a stressful situation, much like some usually peaceful animals would fight to the death when cornered.) "We" usually let other people be aggressors, and in general don't go out of our way to argue loudly over stuff big and small.

I didn't label INFP as aggressive. I said they seem to be more aggressive than INFJ's.

 

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No, it's just that you see the contrast from a normally calm person, to an angry person. And when they *do* use that exterior Te, it has been brooding for awhile, well thought out, and meant to inflict pain as to be used sparingly. They did not want to use it, but they felt forced to, so you will see the full brunt of this and it is seen in the raw form. Other types are just "annoyingly" aggressive all the time, they might be pushy every single day for instance, or confrontational in almost all situations. So taking it up a notch, you are already conditioned a bit to expect it.
Same way when you see a Tdom get emotional, it is raw, natural, and more uncontrolled.

INFP would be dealing with the world in Ne/Te and the INFJ would be using Fe/Se.

No what? I'm asking the diff in why INFP's explode more than INFJ's, I think.

 

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I have a friend who is possibly INFJ, and he explodes quite often-in fact, way more often than I do. :{P He doesn't lashes out at people violently, but shows his temper quite easily, and doesn't hide it well. I am generally more laidback, and it seems it's easier for people to rub his Jness (as in a need for order and things to get done "properly" by others) the wrong way than it is for me to get upset-I generally ignore "offenders" (he is quite tolerant and nice, so I hope I am not portraying him-nor INFJs-the wrong way).

Perhaps another answer that has been implied in many of the replies to this thread is that it just seems that we are "more aggressive than INFJs", but it probably is perceived aggression. I don't doubt INFJs will also lash out at anybody who attacks anything or anyone they love. We can be aggressive if its warranted somehow, but are we really any more aggressive than an INFJ would be in a similar situation?

Perhaps I don't know enough INFPs-INFJs in my life. :{P Both very appealing personality types to me.

Lol I'm not attacking anyone, and I agree with your points. It is perceived aggression, but not really aggression.

I think that INFP's tend to be more dependant on people though, despite INFJ's having Fe, the dominant Ni seems to ground them, where as our dominant Fi seems to... hmm