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YES! I'm the same way. I love watching peoples' shocked reactions when they see me erupt. One time in college I was trying to study. My friends were across the hall with their door open just having a quiet chat. Some guy down the hall was being obnoxious and loud, so I stuck my head out the door and yelled with my opera voice "shut the f*** up!" He went silent, and my friends across the hall just looked at me with a more or less jaw-dropped expression, then talked to each other, "was that [dj]?"
YES! I used to use my opera voice to make an impression on people all the time (though in my case more literally, I've had classical vocal training and have a booming baritone voice)
 
In reference to post #17 @Sovereign, many of the knee-jerk instinctual tendencies 8's are known for being linked to their type's ways are unlike yours. I would look into the possibility of being a 3w4
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Nope. Definitely not a 3. I may have been unclear in that last post. I not only am just fine with people not liking me, I don't want them all to. Too many expectations.

I'd give it more thought, but I already have. I wanted to be a 3 when I took the test, just reading the descriptions. But I'm not (sadly to me at the time).
 
Nope. Definitely not a 3. I may have been unclear in that last post. I not only am just fine with people not liking me, I don't want them all to. Too many expectations.

I'd give it more thought, but I already have. I wanted to be a 3 when I took the test, just reading the descriptions. But I'm not (sadly to me at the time).
Well, the 3w4 description is that they don't intend to try to appeal to everyone but instead to a smaller segment of people compared to the 3w2.


How did you come up with that?
I tend not to get angry too often. Passionate I can be, though. I'm also not as "straight-up" with people as a lot of ENTJs are. That poker face is something that I use every day of my life. Keeps people even further away from that inner sanctum they referred to.
8's are known to carry a level of anger about them often due to their guarded stance, and people pick up on this "Don't fuck with me" attitude and often consider them overbearing. I can see this in many real world examples in 8's and it's noticeable and consistent like Judge Judy (mentioned in another thread) and Sean Penn.

8's are renowned for their bluntness, and actually have to train themselves to not be so direct. 3's don't have this problem because they're very aware of how they're perceived. To hide emotions, as he speaks of doing, is a large trait of a 3. You will hear 3's often using this in their attempts to be a 'social chameleon'.

Some people think it's an INTJ trait, but I do tend to wait and see how current leadership does before going and taking it for myself. If current leadership is competent, I'll just eschew getting involved and support them. I tend to wind up the "de facto" leader of things, but not because I took control; it grabs me. lol
8's have a drive to be leader because they don't like being subject to others decisions and plans. If an 8 is in control then protection of self, which is their strongest desire, is not an issue and they can be at peace. Sovereign doesn't seem to feel the need to have control.

My perfect leadership position would be an advisory one. I want to be the wizened old man that the king goes to for sage advice. I don't directly run the kingdom, but if I want anything done in the kingdom, it happens. My power is not necessarily direct, it's indirect. If the king bungs it up somehow, I could then step in and lead until a suitable replacement is found.
No control issues there.
 
Well, the 3w4 description is that they don't intend to try to appeal to everyone but instead to a smaller segment of people compared to the 3w2.




8's are known to carry a level of anger about them often due to their guarded stance, and people pick up on this "Don't fuck with me" attitude and often consider them overbearing. I can see this in many real world examples in 8's and it's noticeable and consistent like Judge Judy (mentioned in another thread) and Sean Penn.

8's are renowned for their bluntness, and actually have to train themselves to not be so direct. 3's don't have this problem because they're very aware of how they're perceived. To hide emotions, as he speaks of doing, is a large trait of a 3. You will hear 3's often using this in their attempts to be a 'social chameleon'.


8's have a drive to be leader because they don't like being subject to others decisions and plans. If an 8 is in control then protection of self, which is their strongest desire, is not an issue and they can be at peace. Sovereign doesn't seem to feel the need to have control.



No control issues there.
Do you have any books on the Enneagram or do you mostly rely on the web for your information? Actually a lot of his descriptions also coincide with Riso and Hudson's description of Enneatype 8w9 in Wisdom of the Enneagram book.
 
@Wake... the general consensus I get from you, is that you believe all 8's are akin to goldberg.

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The reason I ask if you're from typewatch is because other members have told me that they tend to over glorify 2's 5's, and 8's, and that no one is allowed to be a 2, 5, or 8, unless its blaringly obvious, and its these stereotypes and strange definitions that I find frustrating. And I get pissed when people comment that I'm not an 8 because I write about how I have fears and such when stereotypical 8's would supposedly not have any fears at all.
 
Do you have any books on the Enneagram or do you mostly rely on the web for your information? Actually a lot of his descriptions also coincide with Riso and Hudson's description of Enneatype 8w9 in Wisdom of the Enneagram book.
I rely on information from Riso Hudson shown in Chart 1 of this link: The Enneagram Charts

@Wake... the general consensus I get from you, is that you believe all 8's are akin to goldberg.

The reason I ask if you're from typewatch is because other members have told me that they tend to over glorify 2's 5's, and 8's, and that no one is allowed to be a 2, 5, or 8, unless its blaringly obvious, and its these stereotypes and strange definitions that I find frustrating. And I get pissed when people comment that I'm not an 8 because I write about how I have fears and such when stereotypical 8's would supposedly not have any fears at all.
Well, the type 8 must have a core issue that shapes the rest of their outlook on the world, and for 8's it's survival or protection of self. They will always be defensive and controlling, no matter if you can identify with it or not.
 
@Wake... the general consensus I get from you, is that you believe all 8's are akin to goldberg.

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The reason I ask if you're from typewatch is because other members have told me that they tend to over glorify 2's 5's, and 8's, and that no one is allowed to be a 2, 5, or 8, unless its blaringly obvious, and its these stereotypes and strange definitions that I find frustrating. And I get pissed when people comment that I'm not an 8 because I write about how I have fears and such when stereotypical 8's would supposedly not have any fears at all.
I can't speak for wake, but for me I am not seeing fear in you so much as anxiety and lack of confidence. You don't seem to have a great need to be in control either.
 
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@TreeBob... I'd have been banned long ago (as I have from many other forums) if I constantly felt the need to dominate arguments in forums, which is why I can be very passive aggressive sometimes, as I'm knawing at my tongue to keep my mouth shut. One would think you could say whatever you want on the internet but its not always true. That's why god invented youtube I guess.

Otherwise, what do you mean by lack of confidence? I'll disagree with the anxiety part but I can see how its construed that way.
 
@TreeBob... I'd have been banned long ago (as I have from many other forums) if I constantly felt the need to dominate arguments in forums, which is why I can be very passive aggressive sometimes, as I'm knawing at my tongue to keep my mouth shut. One would think you could say whatever you want on the internet but its not always true. That's why god invented youtube I guess.

Otherwise, what do you mean by lack of confidence? I'll disagree with the anxiety part but I can see how its construed that way.
Well then the onus is on you to prove me wrong. You certainly won't be banned on this forum for having a back bone. Argue away! I would argue that being passive aggressive might get you banned if you did it all the time.
 
Yeah, I sense a bit of glorification here as well. I think it's unwarranted, seeing as how the examples you used to suggest that I'm not an 8 were directly derived from the description at the beginning of this thread.

Come with a better logical basis than that or GTFO.
 
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Yeah, I sense a bit of glorification here as well. I think it's unwarranted, seeing as how the examples you used to suggest that I'm not an 8 were directly derived from the description at the beginning of this thread.

Come with a better logical basis than that or GTFO.
There's plenty of glorification surrounding 5s, 8s and 4s. I sense a bit of defensiveness in your reply.

Some of Wake's points were worth looking into. Either way, the number doesn't change who you are. Your post about the ENTJ/8 contradiction gives the impression that 8 is in your tritype. Just know that an 8 fixed 3w4 is not the stereotypical 3 --bedazzling, cheer-leader-ish, charmer dripping with a certain endearing/aggravating pretentiousness. *laugh*
 
I'm curious which ones?
Do mind sharing which observations led you to this conclusion?
"Swordsman of Mania" lolz
it's sort of hard to explain, the vibe I get from most ENTJs is more like a 3 than an 8. most of the ENTJs I know are more the clean cut, professional lawyer types with an air of superiority and polish about them (not necessarily an arrogant vibe, just a sort of "ha! I'm accomplished and awesome!" sort of vibe as opposed to the "I am king" vibe of an 8). while I also know a few ENTJ 8s (I'm sure they're pretty common actually) most of the ones I can think of fall more into the 3w4 vibe.
the 8 vibe is more:
healthy 8: Santa Claus/Martin Luther King
average 8: "leave me the fuck alone"
unhealthy 8: "get back mutha fucka fo I shoot yo ass!"
there is a certain more instinctual aspect to the 8 that most of the ENTJs I know are missing (though 8s can also be very polished and accomplished and look like 3s, the instinctual part is still there if you dig a little deeper)

this is only a guess of course
 
There's plenty of glorification surrounding 5s, 8s and 4s. I sense a tiny bit of defensiveness in your reply.

Some of Wake's points were worth looking into. Either way, the number doesn't change who you are. Your post about the ENTJ/8 contradiction gives the impression that 8 is in your tritype. Just know that an 8 fixed 3w4 is not the stereotypical 3 --bedazzling, cheer-leader-ish, charmer dripping with a certain endearing/aggravating pretentiousness. *laugh*
that's more 3w2. the bedazzling cheerleader-ish charm being more the 2 wings desire for love and approval. 3w4 is more the accomplished, clean cut but slightly snobbish professional with varying degrees of diva-ishness (ranging from subtly diva-ish wardrobe to full blown Madonna). think Patrick Bateman, Madonna and Tiger Woords (3w4) and as opposed to Bill Clinton, Oprah and John Travolta (3w2)
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@Boss: I'm sorry, I miss read you thinking you were describing stereotypical 3w4s when you were just describing stereotypical 3s as a whole. but yes, 8 fixed 3w4s don't look like stereotypical 3s (Dagny Taggart and Poison Ivy are good examples of 8 fixed 3s)
 
There's plenty of glorification surrounding 5s, 8s and 4s. I sense a bit of defensiveness in your reply.

Some of Wake's points were worth looking into. Either way, the number doesn't change who you are. Your post about the ENTJ/8 contradiction gives the impression that 8 is in your tritype. Just know that an 8 fixed 3w4 is not the stereotypical 3 --bedazzling, cheer-leader-ish, charmer dripping with a certain endearing/aggravating pretentiousness. *laugh*
No real defensiveness. I just try to fix any obvious desecrations of logic that I see. Wake might make valid points, but to try and suggest that I am not an 8 because of the examples I listed crosses the line into fallacious. If he wants to maintain his position, he'll have to admit that he thinks the definition of an 8w9 at the beginning of this thread is wrong.

My tri-type is in my sig. I haven't seen any reason yet to think I'm wrong. As I said before, I've given it considerable thought.
 
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No real defensiveness. I just try to fix any obvious desecrations of logic that I see. Wake might make valid points, but to try and suggest that I am not an 8 because of the examples I listed crosses the line into fallacious. If he wants to maintain his position, he'll have to admit that he thinks the definition of an 8w9 at the beginning of this thread is wrong.

My tri-type is in my sig. I haven't seen any reason yet to think I'm wrong. As I said before, I've given it considerable thought.
just out of curiosity, have you considered 3w4 for your heart fix as opposed to 3w2? you don't seem 3w2-ish at all to me.
 
just out of curiosity, have you considered 3w4 for your heart fix as opposed to 3w2? you don't seem 3w2-ish at all to me.
It's definitely possible. I'm not even really sure that I'm a 6w5.

The 3w4 definition that you provided sounds more like me than the 3w2, but I guess I'm just not in 3 mode all that often. I need to do some more introspecting on the subject.
 
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