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#21 ·
As soon as people find out I studied psychology (just a BA, no clinical training), they start treating me like I'm their therapist. I frequently get people telling me all of their problems (personal, marriage, professional, relationships) immediately after meeting them and then for the duration of the acquaintanceship. It might also be because I'm a good listener and I come across as being non-judgmental. I'm guessing they perceive me as being trustworthy because I'm rather quiet.

Honestly, I find it a bit scary sometimes. While I think it's nice that they see me as someone they can open up to, it can be a little confronting for me. I've been told some pretty messed up stuff from people I barely know.
 
#22 ·
Strangers definitely trust me.
People I hardly know trust me enough to tell me basically anything, and they trust me to hold on to their stuff (cell phones, food, etc.) when they need to go somewhere. Strangers sometimes trust me more than they trust their friends, and strangers usually trust me more than my friends trust me. It's kind of funny, but it's true.
 
#23 ·
Trust no one. Ever.
 
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Haha wow. For some reason I always thought people trusting me quickly or strangers asking me to watch something was idk because I guess I look non-threatening. Idk if it relates to being an INFP at all but it's an interesting thought. I've even had a new friend of mine blatantly tell me he has trust issues then go into a long story personal story with information I could use to hurt him (I of course would not).
 
#27 ·
Sort of. First of all, I look REALLY young for my age, so that sort of has something to do with it, I think.

Second, when I am more amiable, and you get me one on one, people tend to really open up to me. Many people in one area distresses me, so I am kind of closed off in those situations.
 
#30 ·
Yes, I can't count the number of occasions that people were spilling their guts to me within a few minutes of meeting them. I'm often told that, "you've never met a stranger", I'm not sure why but people often feel comfortable confiding in me.
 
#31 ·
Yeah people tell me a lot of stuff. People I just met.

Most recently it happened with a co-worker that I JUST MET. We were talking for a little bit, I maybe knew her for three hours. We went on break at the same time, and because I was her trainer and just generally a nice person I sat down with her to eat. Well she started talking to me about her boyfriend issues, and then home life... Apparently her biological father was abusive when she was really little and her mom (who she lives with now) is a control freak. I just met her. At the time I probably couldn't even remember her name.

Now, if this was an isolated instance it was probably just her oversharing. But this happens a lot. With a lot of different people. I was talking to my mom about it recently and she said it happens with her too.
 
#32 · (Edited)
I guess. I've certainly had instances when people I hardly know trusted me. Mostly I think I just appear ignorant/innocent. To them it's probably like trusting a child who doesn't know what it is to wrong someone, I'm guessing. It's not that I don't know how to do it. I also don't think I'm incapable of hurting someone (I've done it before.) But I tend to look at those sorts of things objectively - if I do something, it's because I felt it was necessary. And so maybe that confidence in my actions is what they see/trust. I don't know.
 
#33 ·
Yeah, people seem to trust me easily. The best example: I had been visiting my dad's place one midsummer, and I was taking a train back. Normally our train company doesn't put two strangers sitting right next to each other if there is room in the train, but I was put next to a guy. He greeted me, asked how I was and where I was going, and if my midsummer had been good. He offered me one of his beers (yeah, I did check the can was not messed with =P ) and during the 1h 20min train trip he basically told me he's a bisexual ex-drug addict fighting not to give in again. I don't think he would have told that to most people.
 
#34 ·
this is weirdly something I came to realise over the last few years and also happened to say. I’m an INFP, not many know it unless we’ve been discussing mbti but people trust me really quickly and tell me pretty personal things really easily. One of my friends who I knew for under 24hours literally told me about this whole personal problem they’ve had and they told me they found it weird how they seemed to trust me fully despite basically not knowing me and also themselves holding trust issues. This happened last year and just today someone said the exact same thing. I asked some of my newer friends and they also responded saying that they trusted me really quickly enough for them to tell me about their mental health problems and such. I also give them advice back for everything which I feel may make them more comfortable with telling me stuff,but yeah
 
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