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#21 ·
firelink said:
Yes I can remember quiete easily , Just back to this moment , and relive the experience (thankx to si function ) , then I relive my emotional state , then I remember what caused this emotionnal state , so I can remember what had been said exactly .

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I just realized the other day that I do that and It was kind of an eureka moment. I was happy to realize such a good use of acute emotional awareness.
 
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#22 ·
For me it depends. Right now, I can't remember my own cell phone number. But things (like conversations) can trigger subconscious memories, and it will be like I'm right in the moment again. I'll experience those same feelings and emotions all over again. I can't remember everything, and to be honest I probably forget most stuff but I do hold on to a lot of conversations and jokes made in the past.

Also, I have the terrible sense of deja vu all the time. Don't know whats that about.
 
#23 ·
firelink said:
Welcom to the club of photographic memorie :)

I remember the dream I had when I was 6 :)
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Ah, now there's something. I remember dreams I've had better than I ever remember conversations.

All I can remember is whether or not someone's told me the story or we've had the conversation before. Half the time I get actual conversations mixed up with imagined conversations. I might remember poignant moments from conversations, but I cannot for the life of me, remember everything that was said. Just the really important stuff.
 
#25 ·
Great thread! It made me smile all the way while reading through it!! :D

I'm not really sure how or when my brain decides when something is important enough to remember. But sometimes, it will be for important things but more often than not, it will be for useless information.

I don't so much scare people when I recite things that they have told me in the past (sometimes from a long, long time ago) but it often results in them saying, 1) I told you that? or 2) Wow, I can't believe you can even remember that stuff. Remembering what people have said does also help to figure out when people are trying to pull the wool over my eyes hehe. And no, I don't point it out to them when their variations on a story don't match up to what they have said previously. I just listen and smile ^_^ (and think in my head, HA! that's not what you said last time)
 
#26 ·
I knew an INFJ who could pull recollections out of her memory tank from years before. It makes for great nostalgic conversation but sucks like hell when the INFJ is feeling vindictive and decides to remember EVERY LITTLE THING you've ever done to offend them.


...no, I'm not still upset about this. I swear. ;)
 
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#27 ·
JuliaRhys said:
I knew an INFJ who could pull recollections out of her memory tank from years before. It makes for great nostalgic conversation but sucks like hell when the INFJ is feeling vindictive and decides to remember EVERY LITTLE THING you've ever done to offend them.


...no, I'm not still upset about this. I swear. ;)
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Yeah, i kinda do that too. But i am harmless...
 
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JuliaRhys said:
I knew an INFJ who could pull recollections out of her memory tank from years before. It makes for great nostalgic conversation but sucks like hell when the INFJ is feeling vindictive and decides to remember EVERY LITTLE THING you've ever done to offend them.


...no, I'm not still upset about this. I swear. ;)
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I tell everyone I feel should know, that I can be a vicious, vindictive, snarling snapping bitch. Mind you, me being male confuses them for a while until they see this rarely shown side of me.

On a side note, I wish I could recall at will, but it seems my memory is triggered by keywords and occasional phrases. Somebody could say a random word, and immediately, a song containing that word will start playing in my head. But it all depends on mood. If I'm depressed or sad or miserable, it never happens unless I've thought it out prior. If I'm happy and in a good mood, I'll be piping off songs all day long throughout conversation :)
Lol, I'm a bird. Happy birds sing, sad birds don't :p

Twitch
 
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#29 ·
I'm not good with remembering numbers, and if someone explains a complex theory to me I remember the main idea, but once I spend just a short amount of time with a person I remember the person's face and name for years. I still know a lot the surnames of my classmates in primary school and sometimes I surprise people I haven't seen in years by knowing exactly who they are and when and where we met and even what we talked about. I also have memories of complex emotions and thoughts dating very far back. (I can remember being ashamed for doing something when I was two years old and thinking about God and death after my greatgrandmother died when I was six years old.) Same with fragments of conversation. I say fragments, because it really is very fragmental. Sometimes some of the few friends who went with me to the same secondary school after primary school talk about our shared experiences and I don't recognise them and I feel as I wasn't there at all.
 
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#30 ·
I can't help it. I just remember things well. I usually bring stuff up when it's a guy I like. I remember the things he says or writes and sometimes i randomly think about them and want to discuss them with him. He usually thinks I'm weird though, like I pay too much attention or something. I guess you're supposed to forget what people say and never bring up old stuff? You're supposed to have a new conversation about something you already talked about whenever you want to discuss something, otherwise it's creepy. Yeah this hasn't gone very well for me...
 
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#32 ·
Vexed said:
not to exact detail but enough to make people go what the hell?

Does this happen with most infj's or nay?
I guess as far as three months ago to six months or even a year?
First encounters / conversations?
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YES! But some of these memories go so far back that the person I am retelling it to thinks I am crazy and doesn't remember at all, LOL. If I also add in some details like which room of the house/building we were in, or what else was going on, then sometimes I get the "wow, you remembered that??" look. I'm talking decades past... I think it's gotten easier to do, since time seems to "compress" as you get older.

I have a photographic memory, so assume that's part of it.

How about olfactory memories?
 
#33 ·
I'm an INFP but your thread title caught my attention, so... here I am, haha. Don't eat me. :p

I do this an awful lot. I seem to have a bizarrely accurate memory for conversations I've had with people, and not just the conversation part either -- I'll remember where we were, the time of day/year/whatever, random details like what I was wearing at the time... it can be a little nuts, haha. I have one friend in particular who has an awful memory for what she's told me, and I can end up hearing the same story or piece of information half a dozen times. I usually just let her talk anyway... I'm not the most assertive person and I don't really mind a whole lot, plus I always worry that it'd sound really neurotic of me or something if I pointed it out. I'm usually thinking something like, "Yeah, you mentioned that was one of your favourite songs, and what it means to you, in a text message you sent me one morning last summer. I was drinking a coffee and sitting on a park bench at the time... I think it was kind of cool out that morning and I was wearing my purple hoodie, and I remember exactly what I said in reply...." Hahaha. But yeah, I rarely forget anything someone has told me -- if I'm paying attention, anyway. I also have my moments where someone tells me something and it goes in one ear and out the other, but that really only happens if I'm multitasking.
 
#34 ·
this is an Si trait - Si doms like ISFJ and ISTJ are known for this, Si aux like ESTJ and ESFJ deserve honorable mention in this respect - but this is not an INFJ trait.

...unless you happen to be infatuated with the person whose conversations you remember in exquisite detail...romantic feelings tend to increase one's memory of what the person they like said, although it may not be to the same "sensorily photographic memory" degree that Si could remember ~
 
#35 ·
emerald sea said:
this is an Si trait - Si doms like ISFJ and ISTJ are known for this, Si aux like ESTJ and ESFJ deserve honorable mention in this respect - but this is not an INFJ trait.

...unless you happen to be infatuated with the person whose conversations you remember in exquisite detail...romantic feelings tend to increase one's memory of what the person they like said, although it may not be to the same "sensorily photographic memory" degree that Si could remember ~
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I was kind of thinking something along those lines myself... it doesn't really seem too INFJ-ish (or INFP-ish in my case). Hrmm.
 
#36 ·
YES!!!! I thought everyone was like this. I thought everyone remembered every conversation until my boyfriend and I started getting into huge arguments over him not remembering some vague fact like the fact that my favorite color was red for four months in fifth grade or something like that lol because I thought because I mentioned it once two years ago so I figure he would remember it lol I got upset with him about that for the past two years. It wasn't until recently when I freaked the eye doctor out a couple months ago that I started considering that maybe everyone isn't like that lol
 
#37 ·
It's very selective. I tend to be able to recall word-to-word conversations that really meant a lot to me on some level or another. Sometimes it's a deep conversation, and sometimes it's just that conversation that in my brain I went "Well, this is the start of a great friendship" or "I/Them really care" or "Wow, this is so horrible". Sometimes it's just random interactions. I generally am good at remembering interactions. Sometimes another person in my life will bring up a conversation that I can not remember. I've noticed in the presentation of these conversations that something I did or said meant a lot more to them then I had initially realized. These interactions/recall of events are my favorite.
 
#38 ·
Where I may remember the gist of a conversation I'm actually not very good on details. If someone told me a personal story for example I will probably remember the way they felt and were effected but likely forget the names of the other characters and details of what happened. The same thing goes for less feeling-related topics; I'll remember the conclusion I made and why it makes sense but forget most of the details afterwards. Maybe there is some other reason why some people have a better time with specific details.
 
#39 ·
Ugh, I wish I could. I would have gotten in trouble far less in elementary school that way. I always suspected that my fifth grade teacher was sexist and she actually hated me. She was, bluntly speaking, a total bitch. And no, this wasn't me being paranoid, many other parents took note of this.

Anyways, I always had a hard time paying attention in math and I used to daydream a lot. Having allergy medication that made me drowsy didn't help that much but she'd always look at me and call me out. She'd always ask me to recite what she just said. I paid enough attention to what she was saying but not the exact words. If it was a question, I'd always say she wanted the answer. If it were notes, I'd say something about what she just wrote on the chalkboard. She would always force me to sit out for recess because I couldn't regurgitate her exact words.

So no, I can't do this but it's something I'd really like to be able to do. That way, I could mentally check out during a conversation and just engage autopilot...
 
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#40 ·
I only remember what is important and significant. I can infuriate people asking them a question I have already asked countless times before. (Different concepts of important and significant, I suppose) I often misquote to some extent but the gist of it remains.. I store impressions. Something imprints my mind or my emotions. I don't remember so much what was said as much as I remember my thoughts and feelings regarding what was said.
 
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