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Not sure if this is the place to ask this question, but I haven't found it in the forums.... although I did find the ENTJ relationship thread -- and while entertaining, doesn't quite seem appropriate for this question after reading a good portion of it...

If you've been around PCafe for a while, perhaps you can point me to it -- if it already exists.

So, ENTJ is one of the types that supposed to be a great match for INTPs. (I'm so glad there is one, then...)

As a hetero INTP female, I want to know what hetero ENTJ fellas think of us. So, what _do_ you think?

And, where on Earth would you actually have opportunity to meet one? I have a hard time picturing ENTJs finding many INTPs... (the answer "online" would be funny -- but, I've already mentioned it now. :) ) (Also, I've already considered all the possibilities related to the "on earth" part of this question -- but hey, why not make something funny out of it anyway...)
 
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From what I've seen on these forums, I'd really like to meet one. As to where, I have no clue. Where would I be likely to meet you? I was under the impression that INTPs only leave their computers for.... well, not much. :tongue:
 
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Sovereign said:
From what I've seen on these forums, I'd really like to meet one. As to where, I have no clue. Where would I be likely to meet you?
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Do I understand you correctly that you don't know ANY? Oh dear. This doesn't bode well for me. *headdesk*

Hmmm... well, University, Coffee Shop, Dance Classes (Swing, Zouk), Local Salsa club, Church...

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I was under the impression that INTPs only leave their computers for.... well, not much. :tongue:
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No comment....

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Being curious about nearly all things, and needing to be in the company of others for (1. mental health -- INTPs can get a little outside the rails without a steady supply of valid information, including about other people 2. I'm an observer type, I need things to observe 3. food for my insatiable curiosity about psychology 4. my desire to do some good for others) makes me seek situations to be around new folks.

Plus, my particular field of study requires that the majority of my time be spent alone. And, I work from home....
So, I get plenty enough solitariness. INTJs are more likely to _never_ need the company of others... I think. I think INTPs are so dang curious, hungry for info, prone to some risk taking and social experimentation, love debate, and passionate about our respective fields that we do enjoy the company of certain others a bit more than folks might think. We just might be that person who is creepily watching and listening inserting a few quips and observations once we've got the lay of the land. And then, around those we know love and respect us -- all bets are off. We get really silly in that case. :happy:
 
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You look good judging from your avatar. I'll give you a try, and then take it from there.

Can't say I've noticed many INTPs. At least none who's caught my eye. I sure am interested in meeting a female one though. Had a nice and short (six months) relationship with an INFP. I got bored after three months and stayed in the relationship pretty much for the sex only. Two months later I got bored of that too. When I look back it was much of her lack of intelligence and her constant need of intimate comfort. Seemed like that was all she required, a dominating guy who could keep her "safe". No interesting discussions, only everyday bullshit. Not the most mature INFP, but I have it hard to believe a mature one could compensate for the lack of being interesting. I'd like to think a mature INTP would do the trick. Guess I'll start keeping an extra eye out for you INTP.
 
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EddyHeady said:
You look good judging from your avatar. I'll give you a try, and then take it from there.
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Why thank you. I questioned the blue labcoat at first, but ultimately went with it since it matches my hair. :tongue:

EddyHeady said:
Can't say I've noticed many INTPs. At least none who's caught my eye. I sure am interested in meeting a female one though. Had a nice and short (six months) relationship with an INFP. I got bored after three months and stayed in the relationship pretty much for the sex only. Two months later I got bored of that too. When I look back it was much of her lack of intelligence and her constant need of intimate comfort. Seemed like that was all she required, a dominating guy who could keep her "safe". No interesting discussions, only everyday bullshit. Not the most mature INFP, but I have it hard to believe a mature one could compensate for the lack of being interesting. I'd like to think a mature INTP would do the trick. Guess I'll start keeping an extra eye out for you INTP.
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I know how you feel. F types seem to be good at snagging me at times, but I think I make them feel like they never really "have" me -- which seems to bring out feelings of insecurity.

I've just started keeping my eye out for ENTJs, but there's not many of us or of you.... especially since INTP females are particularly rare. Frankly, the odds are highly against it. :ninja: I'd like to meet more ENTJs, but I'm not holding my breath. Hopefully, keeping an eye out will lead to good things though. :wink:
 
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PeachyWolf said:
Do I understand you correctly that you don't know ANY? Oh dear. This doesn't bode well for me. *headdesk*

Hmmm... well, University, Coffee Shop, Dance Classes (Swing, Zouk), Local Salsa club, Church...
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Dang it. Guess I'll have to go back to church.... lol
 
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PeachyWolf said:
Hah! Yes, because that's the main reason to go.... :rolleyes:

jk. part of the reason i go, truth be told....
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Realistically, it's the principal reason single people attend church. Pious devotion is a lesser motivator than a hormone-driven biological imperative.

Organized religion tends to really grate my nerves, but it's very possible that dating and social benefits make it a worthwhile activity. Finding a decent house of worship might help as well, but I rarely have time to look. Thus, my real problem; not having enough time to date anyway. I guess all the awesome INTP gals will have to wait. :frustrating:
 
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Realistically, it's the principal reason single people attend church. Pious devotion is a lesser motivator than a hormone-driven biological imperative.

Organized religion tends to really grate my nerves, but it's very possible that dating and social benefits make it a worthwhile activity. Finding a decent house of worship might help as well, but I rarely have time to look. Thus, my real problem; not having enough time to date anyway. I guess all the awesome INTP gals will have to wait. :frustrating:
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Of course you're right (although I know a several notable exceptions). :cool:

Organized religion. ....uuuuuhhhhh.... yeah..... about that.... [I'm hoping you've seen office space at this point.]

I don't think this thread can handle me giving full vent to that topic. :laughing:

No time to date? Interesting.

I should be saying the same thing to myself -- but refuse, respectfully.
 
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Good things, I hope. I'd love to meet an ENTJ man, but where do I find one? My best bet would be online, being an INTP who barely leaves the house, but I'm not sure if there are that many ENTJs online. They're probably all out and about, conquering the world and such.
 
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Thinkerbell said:
Good things, I hope. I'd love to meet an ENTJ man, but where do I find one? My best bet would be online, being an INTP who barely leaves the house, but I'm not sure if there are that many ENTJs online. They're probably all out and about, conquering the world and such.
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I don't spend much time outside other than at work and at home with the friends I share apartment with. It's pretty much a work-home-sleep-routine all week long and a few beers every weekend. I guess the best bet for you would be online, or find a new friend circle with... friends, with a tinytiny chance of finding an ENTJ. I would assume most ENTJs spend their time studying, working and being with close friends. But then again, who doesn't. At least not often I get to know new faces. Those I know are remains from school and work, and since I'm done with school, I assume I won't be meeting many new ones. Unfortunately. Too busy to really try meeting people.
 
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scarlett.page said:
I met the ENTJ I'm interested in in my major classes at college. It wasn't difficult to catch on to his ENTJness, although he was slower to catch on to my INTPness...
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Yeah, boys certainly do have a harder time catching other Pnesses.

Shoopppdaawhooop!
 
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NiDBiLD said:
My girlfriend is INTP. Met her through my INTJ friend/business partner/colleague, who is her brother.

She rarely leaves the house. I figure I would never have met an INTP girl if I didn't have someone to lure her out of her den.
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Strange, cause your relationship status says single... oh my!

But anyway, would you mind revealing how that all went?

-- And, any differences you like compared to other types?
 
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PeachyWolf said:
Strange, cause your relationship status says single... oh my!
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Good catch. I have not checked my profile here in ages. Didn't even remember there was a field for that.

But anyway, would you mind revealing how that all went?

-- And, any differences you like compared to other types?
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Well. I don't have to tip-toe around the tulips with her, and that's great. I can just say whatever is on my mind, and she doesn't (usually) react by spontaneously combusting in my face. She also keeps impressing me with her intelligence, perspective and professional skills, and that keeps me interested. I like a partner who can impress me, understand what I am saying, and hold her ground and convince me when I say something stupid.

Neither of us is big on romance or relationship maintenance. Neither of us like drama or emotional rollercoasters. We're not big on verbal declarations of love or anything like that either. We both are disgusted by romantic gestures and lovey dovey language, but we're cuddly, touchy people. I think we're a good match.

Did that answer your question?
 
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I've read in a couple of places online that ENTJs and INTPs are supposed to be an ideal match. However, I had never met an ENTJ until I started working for the company that I work for now. He was on his way out of the company because he was graduating with his masters degree as I was starting out, so I couldn't be certain of his type. I just remember how intense he was and I thought he was scary, to be honest. He actually said something insulting about me to another manager in front of me and said something sarcastic (funny at the same time, at least) to me about how I was doing my job on my first day, but I never looked up at him. But from the time he started giving me and the rest of the group instructions, he kept his eyes locked on me the whole time. Every time I was in his line of sight, it seemed, he kept doing that. A lot of men through out my life have found me attractive, but didn't react as if star struck by me. Does everything I've just described about him indicate that he is most likely an ENTJ?

Now, my ex husband is ESFJ and subsequent relationships were with extroverted SPs. To say the least they did not work out. And I find since having gone back to school (college) that there's an even wider gulf between me and SJs & SPs in our interactions with each other. I highly doubt that it's even possible to ever go back to that. So, my question is is how likely would it be for me to bump into an ENTJ in the field that I'm going into? I'm majoring in Cytogenetic Technology at a state university/cancer hospital/research & education center. And I plan on getting another degree in Cellular & Molecular Biology before applying to graduate biomedical school in perhaps Cancer Biology. I know this is all very specific, but I think maybe it would be more helpful to you guys in looking at and determining how likely it is for me to come across someone of the ENTJ personality type in the medical field. Thanks for your replies in advance.
 
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Asian_Chick said:
I've read in a couple of places online that ENTJs and INTPs are supposed to be an ideal match. However, I had never met an ENTJ until I started working for the company that I work for now. He was on his way out of the company because he was graduating with his masters degree as I was starting out, so I couldn't be certain of his type. I just remember how intense he was and I thought he was scary, to be honest. He actually said something insulting about me to another manager in front of me and said something sarcastic (funny at the same time, at least) to me about how I was doing my job on my first day, but I never looked up at him. But from the time he started giving me and the rest of the group instructions, he kept his eyes locked on me the whole time. Every time I was in his line of sight, it seemed, he kept doing that. A lot of men through out my life have found me attractive, but didn't react as if star struck by me. Does everything I've just described about him indicate that he is most likely an ENTJ?

Now, my ex husband is ESFJ and subsequent relationships were with extroverted SPs. To say the least they did not work out. And I find since having gone back to school (college) that there's an even wider gulf between me and SJs & SPs in our interactions with each other. I highly doubt that it's even possible to ever go back to that. So, my question is is how likely would it be for me to bump into an ENTJ in the field that I'm going into? I'm majoring in Cytogenetic Technology at a state university/cancer hospital/research & education center. And I plan on getting another degree in Cellular & Molecular Biology before applying to graduate biomedical school in perhaps Cancer Biology. I know this is all very specific, but I think maybe it would be more helpful to you guys in looking at and determining how likely it is for me to come across someone of the ENTJ personality type in the medical field. Thanks for your replies in advance.
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Funny, there's a guy at my law school like that. If I'm around, he's definitely conscious of me being there. Looks at me, talks to me, etc. But -- he never makes a move -- so, I feel that he must not be interested. And yet, you characterize this behavior as star-struck. Interesting. Have no idea what that means.... anyway... back to you.

So, the odds of you meeting an ENTJ there seem pretty remote, barring him being part of the management. I've met/heard of a few ENTJ's (by the way, they don't usually know their type when I've met them or heard of them) and they are all either suicidal/angry or in some position of authority/power. Or, they are on a path to try to get some authority/power. They seem to like to decide what other folks should do.

This is perhaps the crux of the problem. Where would an INTP and ENTJ meet, unless they were both aware of Myers-Briggs typography and were actively seeking the other out? I feel that their worlds seldom collide.

The only circumstances I can think of would be those where an evil overlord is in need of a mad scientist. haha!!!!
 
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PeachyWolf said:
Funny, there's a guy at my law school like that. If I'm around, he's definitely conscious of me being there. Looks at me, talks to me, etc. But -- he never makes a move -- so, I feel that he must not be interested. And yet, you characterize this behavior as star-struck. Interesting. Have no idea what that means.... anyway... back to you.

So, the odds of you meeting an ENTJ there seem pretty remote, barring him being part of the management. I've met/heard of a few ENTJ's (by the way, they don't usually know their type when I've met them or heard of them) and they are all either suicidal/angry or in some position of authority/power. Or, they are on a path to try to get some authority/power. They seem to like to decide what other folks should do.

This is perhaps the crux of the problem. Where would an INTP and ENTJ meet, unless they were both aware of Myers-Briggs typography and were actively seeking the other out? I feel that their worlds seldom collide.

The only circumstances I can think of would be those where an evil overlord is in need of a mad scientist. haha!!!!
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What I meant by my former boss being "star struck" is that he would stare at me as if I was the most extraordinary thing he'd ever seen, wasn't just casual looking. One time, he completely stopped what he was doing for a few seconds and just gazed at me. That one time is something I would definitely characterize as "star struck".

I agree that the odds of my coming across an ENTJ is slim, or even an INTJ. I have met both. I find that NT men just gravitate towards me. They don't even know why, I'm sure. It's like they have a built-in radar to detect someone like me. There's this INTJ guy who works for one of the companies I work with sometimes. He's one of the managers. And he's ALWAYS staring at me and pops up where ever I am. One time I went to the bathroom and as soon as I came out, he was standing right there waiting for me at the door!!! He just needed to tell me what I needed to do next, but I've never had a manager do that before. If it was anyone else, they would just keep an eye out for me for when I come by to ask/tell me something. But anyhow, NT men just spot me out of a crowd for some reason. The difference I find between ENTJs/INTJs and ENTPs is that ENTPs are WAY more subtle if they are looking at me and approaching me. ENTPs are like ninjas. They just seem to pop out of nowhere and start talking to me. I'm typically oblivious to their presence prior to that. Now I always notice NTJs. I feel their presence, so they don't sneek up on me like that. They even startle me sometimes.
 
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