Okay. I imagine the whole INFJ + ENFP forum has been beat to death, but I can't help but to add one more to the pile.
I'm a male INFJ (yes, a legitimate INFJ--I've taken the test four different times and have gotten the same results). I've known this female ENFP my entire life. We've been friends since pre-K. Communication between us is incredible; she's the only one who really understands me. The INFJ + ENFP combination is truly dynamic. Over the past couple of years, we've spent plenty of nights texting back and forth: witty banter, casual conversation, as well as the in-depth stuff that really stimulates your imagination--all into the wee hours of the morning.
However, recently she's been acting strange around me. For instance, when we're in-person talking just the two of us, the conversation flows freely and her focus is on me. But if I'm with a group of my friends and she walks up and joins the conversation, she'll completely ignore my existence, and only communicate to those around me as if I'm not even there. I'll even purposely direct questions her way, but she'll simply direct her response to those around me, as if she can't bear the thought of looking me in the eye.
Sometimes, when we're passing by one another, she'll flash a broad smile and give me a quick hug. Also, I have noticed, that she doesn't give other guys hugs who aren't blood relation. I know ENFPs are known to be cuddly people, so I thought this was interesting. As an INFJ, I'm usually pretty good at deciphering other people's feelings towards me (thank you intuition!), whether platonic or otherwise, but this ENFP's hot and cold behavior is really confusing me. I've witnessed this behavior from male ENFPs plenty of times, but this is the first time I've noticed it from a female.
Are any of these signs that she may have developed romantic feelings towards me: obvious aversion, random hugs, erratic behavior when I'm around? Yes, the simple answer is "Just ask her, bruh!", but I'm writing this post mainly to see if anyone has had experience with either themselves or a friend acting this way around someone they secretly have a crush on. Any response will be helpful, but especially if you're an ENFP female--how do you act around your crush if you don't yet know if they reciprocate the feelings? Do you act shy and reserved, or all hands-on one day then distant the next, or are you consistently forward with your feelings?
She's a really good friend; has been for many years, and I honestly wouldn't mind if she did have deeper feelings for me. I just don't want to ruin our relationship by asking her if all I'm doing is misinterpreting her behavior.
Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated.
~Cheers
I'm a male INFJ (yes, a legitimate INFJ--I've taken the test four different times and have gotten the same results). I've known this female ENFP my entire life. We've been friends since pre-K. Communication between us is incredible; she's the only one who really understands me. The INFJ + ENFP combination is truly dynamic. Over the past couple of years, we've spent plenty of nights texting back and forth: witty banter, casual conversation, as well as the in-depth stuff that really stimulates your imagination--all into the wee hours of the morning.
However, recently she's been acting strange around me. For instance, when we're in-person talking just the two of us, the conversation flows freely and her focus is on me. But if I'm with a group of my friends and she walks up and joins the conversation, she'll completely ignore my existence, and only communicate to those around me as if I'm not even there. I'll even purposely direct questions her way, but she'll simply direct her response to those around me, as if she can't bear the thought of looking me in the eye.
Sometimes, when we're passing by one another, she'll flash a broad smile and give me a quick hug. Also, I have noticed, that she doesn't give other guys hugs who aren't blood relation. I know ENFPs are known to be cuddly people, so I thought this was interesting. As an INFJ, I'm usually pretty good at deciphering other people's feelings towards me (thank you intuition!), whether platonic or otherwise, but this ENFP's hot and cold behavior is really confusing me. I've witnessed this behavior from male ENFPs plenty of times, but this is the first time I've noticed it from a female.
Are any of these signs that she may have developed romantic feelings towards me: obvious aversion, random hugs, erratic behavior when I'm around? Yes, the simple answer is "Just ask her, bruh!", but I'm writing this post mainly to see if anyone has had experience with either themselves or a friend acting this way around someone they secretly have a crush on. Any response will be helpful, but especially if you're an ENFP female--how do you act around your crush if you don't yet know if they reciprocate the feelings? Do you act shy and reserved, or all hands-on one day then distant the next, or are you consistently forward with your feelings?
She's a really good friend; has been for many years, and I honestly wouldn't mind if she did have deeper feelings for me. I just don't want to ruin our relationship by asking her if all I'm doing is misinterpreting her behavior.
Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated.
~Cheers
